sheridan, your 23yo brother with shitty music taste who gets paid off by patrick stump on the 1st and 15th of every month. straight edge. this is a sideblog. no minors.
this is not a blog for minors. you will be blocked if you’re <18.
about me: 23yr old with nothing better to do than blog about bands i like too much.
bands: fob/mcr/gch.
boys in bands: patrick stump, joe trohman/gerard way, ray toro/travie mccoy, matt mcginley.
extras: travtrick supremacist. occasional fic writer, mostly joetrick and/or travtrick and/or travjoetrick [my #tjt ecosystem]. joe trohman and I understand each other on a level neither of us wish we could. you can find me on ao3. happy to answer any questions you may have about straight edge and/or gch lore and/or my ecosystem.
keep in mind: certified pete wentz/petekey hater. mikey way is on thin ice. I don't care about twinks and you can quote me on that. if you steal photos I took at shows and/or shitposts I make and put them on your twitter without crediting me I will hunt you down. I have a full time job so it might take me a while to answer any asks you send but know that I cherish each and every one.
I can go days and days without thinking of my disability and then one (1) bad night reminds me that it does in fact exist and affect me and how I interact with the world
hey its ur tjt joe lover anon again, my back #myback is hurting rn so can i hear abt tjt joe’s back issues and how the ppl in the house help him out (not forced ofc)
hi anon. hoping your back is feeling better now. I don't have back pain, but I have had on-and-off carpal tunnel issues for about five years now and that, combined with the whole migraines issue [which is why I'm no longer allowed to take acetaminophen or else my pcp will break into my house and beat me] has made me very sympathetic to other people with chronic pain issues. including joe.
joe got his stem cell injection around 2018, and by his own account felt pretty good for about three years, so all three of the girls grew up for a few years without really knowing just how bad joe's back could get. patrick, who had seen joe throughout the years, explained it to them in the vein of "and that's why joey can't give piggy back rides," but they'd never really seen it firsthand until 2021.
granted in 2021 patricia was five and the twins were two, but they still saw it. each time he got one of his cortisone shots, patrick and travie had to explain to them that joey was going to be in pain for a bit, so one of them [usually patrick, but they switched off depending on what was going on at the time] would be with him while he recovered.
the first few days post-shot, he's absolutely babied. basically lives in patrick and travie's bed, propped up on pillows and/or someone's chest, waiting for it to kick in while watching videos on patrick's ipad. like he said in notr, sometimes it did, sometimes it didn't. there were times he'd get nauseous enough that whoever was with him kept a bucket on the side of the bed because they learned pretty quickly that he couldn't always make it to the toilet or sink in time. in preparation for the first shot, they got a little tray setup for food for him, doing anything they could to keep his ass in bed. the only time he got up was to use the bathroom, and patrick/travie made sure of it.
the dec2021 surgery went easier in the ecosystem than it did in real life, mostly because tjt!joe wasn't trying to work in television/comics like his real-life counterpart was, so there was less outward stress causing him to give into his workaholic tendencies. there was also less stress on him in terms of the album, since he was literally living with patrick who watched over him every day and knew he was in no place to work on anything, doctor's orders. so tjt!joe got spared the catatonic episode and mental breakdown irl!joe did.
that doesn't mean he didn't have any issues. he still felt useless to the family at large, guilty for "forcing" patrick and travie to take care of him instead of their real children, angry at his own body for failing him yet again, all of that. and coming off of the narcotics post-surgery was rough. he'd been clean since 2016, give or take, so suddenly getting access to painkillers again made him feel even guiltier, especially considering travie's past issues with them as well.
between crayon-coated cards from his sisters and good food from his daddy and laying in bed with his mommy, he pulls through. he detoxes from the painkillers under travie's watch and is bathed by patrick with care when he can't get his back wet and slowly starts moving in the form of short walks with the immortal penny and the girls.
after that, it just becomes a fact of life for every mccoy. sky is blue, grass is green, joey can't do things that require him to put a lot of strain on his back. joey needs time to rest more often than daddy does after playing. you are not allowed to flip joey if he's lounging on one of the floaties in the pool. hitting isn't allowed in general but you especially cannot hit [via hands, nerf darts, or any other projectile] joey in the back. joey's inversion table is not a toy to play with. the heating pads are also not toys and are either mommy's [for period pain] or joey's [for his back] so it's important they stay where they are. if joey drops something, it's polite to pick it up for him. things like that.
when it comes to his back, joe is watched over, taken care of, and treated delicately by every member of the house. no one shames him for being unable to do things, and no one pressures him to get better quicker if he's feeling bad. there is always time for him to relax and heal, whether it's a momentary spasm or something worse.
joe is loved, even at his worst, short-tempered and snappy because of the pain. he's prone to crying if he thinks about it for too long.
do they ever go clothes/maternity shopping for patrick? im assuming stores are a no... but...
hi anon. while maternity clothes are a nightmare for patrick, they are an unfortunate necessity. so with that in mind
travie tends to be the one to do most of their clothes shopping [with the sole exception of shoes]. he genuinely enjoys fashion, seeing what’s currently in style versus what he’s been wearing, trying on different combinations of colors and textures, all of it. he’s an artist at heart, and it comes out in his clothes.
he keeps a note on his phone of everyone’s sizes [initially just him and patrick, but it grows to all of his girls and joe as well] so that if he ever has to, he can run out and get something without having to wait for a confirmation on sizes. it comes in handy a lot, especially when it comes to holiday/birthday shopping, but more than anything, it comes in handy for his wife.
patrick has a deep hatred for trying on clothes in public settings. he’s already terrified enough of “proving” that he’s fat in private, but the idea of trying something “his size” on in a store and needing to ask for a bigger size makes him want to drive off of a bridge. there’s also the issue of the general chaos of stores/the mall mixed with the ever-present worry of someone taking photos of him when he’s not presentable, at least to his own standards, as well as photos from bad angles. so taking him into a store to try on clothes is a bad idea all around.
but maternity clothes are necessary, especially as he gets further into his pregnancies and he can’t keep using travie’s shirts, so travie starts visiting stores to feel the fabrics and make sure they’d be patrick-approved. he knows his wife well enough to know he just wants the absolute barebones basics, plain colored shirts [because graphics stretch and show how big he is], jeans [because wearing sweats in public makes him look like he “gave up”], things like that. he also gets a belly band for him during the twin pregnancy that also gets used during his last pregnancy when he’s on tour and constantly in pain.
the harder things to shop for are the intimates [maternity bras and new underwear] if only because they’re much less forgiving than shirts/pants are if travie were to order accidentally something slightly too small. so travie just orders a suite of them and, after any kids go to bed, has patrick try them on for him. those nights are rough for patrick, but they’re over quickly enough that it doesn’t latch into his brain as badly as doing all of that in a store would.
all of this results in a patrick who can wear clothes that fit throughout his pregnancy without having to go through the torture nexus in public and a travie who is very proud of himself for being a good alpha and taking care of his mate. which just makes travie very frisky because of all the Good Alpha hormones flooding his brain whenever patrick wears the clothes travie picked out for him.
patrick still prefers stealing travie’s clothes, though, so when they’re at home, he can usually be seen in an oversized shirt that covers his bump and the band around it, travie’s gym shorts with the ties undone, and optional underwear. in public, he’s wearing the nice, stretchy maternity jeans, one of his nicer maternity shirts, a bra, and underwear [not optional].
can i just say i love seeing your posts where you talk about what good things happened to you that day/the posts where you tell us what good things are going to happen to you today. makes me have hope :')
hi anon. I’m glad that you love my happyposting <3 it’s something that I love as well. I think it’s just good practice in general to make lists of things that make me happy/excited because it reminds me that my life is something that makes me happy/excited in the first place. and that’s a choice I make every day. I’ve spent a lot of my life [2002-2021, 2025-early 2026] in absolutely miserable mental states, so choosing to live a life that makes me happy as an adult is something I’m very proud of.
list of things from this weekend under the cut:
marsha’s collar is out for delivery early! hoping it’s delivered by the time I get home so I can put it on her
hung out with my friend for a while yesterday which was super fun because I love herrrrrr she’s the best. we talked about tattoos we want to get this year and she helped me narrow some things down
very lazy day at work yesterday which was nice
my sister and her husband are home this weekend and while there are parts of that that are frustrating I do enjoy seeing them a lot <3
got a haircut earlier and walked around the town my place is in while my sister got hers done. bought myself some cookies and cream fudge for funzies
going out tonight because my brother has a gig so that will also be fun
had Indian food last night and the place I go to has really good cheese naan so I always get extra to eat the next day which again. when I get home I will enjoy that <3
still working on my reference sheet for the artist I’m commissioning but it’s an excuse for me to Look at Images and Sort Things which is very enriching for me
I have a few asks I still have to get to so that is also fun! love yapping on here and seeing what The People [you all] have to say/want to know
I will probably be lounging around tomorrow which I am excited for. love a good lounge day
I got to watch some deer roaming around in my backyard earlier which was unexpected but very nice to see
Patrick is such a sweetheart irl! I've met him 5 times over my 13 years as a fan! He's super tiny- I'm 5'3 and he's around my height. I think he's lying when he says hes almost 5'5 😂 The last time I saw him was in 2023 and I didn't expect him to remember me, but he did! He even asked after my daughter! I love that man, he has always been an absolute gentleman.
The other guys aren't as memorable but Joe was the most visibly attractive. He was also super kind and always complimented my hair! He was always the one I had a crush on but Patrick was the easiest to talk to 😂 My friend was Pete obsessed so I didn't ever really get close to him but he was the most "celebrityish" and closed off of the group from what I remember. Never did anything bad to us though, but we were paying him... I hear he's been douchey to fans before.
It's weird meeting them, or even just seeing them, when they're the guys who are always in your headphones and all over your social media. It's even weirder sometimes seeing the more notorious messy fob fans at shows hahahaha.
hi anon. I’m happy to hear you had a fun time meeting them! and I also personally agree that joe’s the most attractive of the group [and that patrick’s shorter than he says he is lmfao].
I can’t say anything from personal experience meeting any of them, but I will say that pete being more closed off tracks with what I’ve heard over the years [nothing specific, just general vibes]. he has his reasons to be like that, though, so him being more closed off than the others isn’t something I fault him for. it’s very sweet that patrick remembered your kid <3
other thoughts under the cut
re: “notorious/messy” fans: outside of my mutuals and friends, I genuinely could not put faces to names for anyone else. I’ve definitely heard stories about certain fans, and have come across them online, but I like to think I keep to myself enough that we never officially [as in directly interacting with each other] cross paths. I don’t really have any interest in interacting with people who seem to only enjoy being miserable and/or starting fights for funzies. I don’t play in the bandom sandbox so that I can goad people to throw sand in my eyes, I play in the sandbox to have fun and make friends who I enjoy making sandcastles with. it’s much more fun that way.
I’m sure some people might think of me as notorious or messy given what I enjoy posting about/my ecosystem [though I’d argue that I keep to myself enough to avoid those labels]; some people have me blocked and I’ve never even interacted with them, so I have to assume they dislike what I post about, which is perfectly valid. I’m pretty sure I’ve been vagueposted about on here and on twitter, given some things I’ve seen, but that’s neither here nor there since my name was never explicitly said. there’s also some people who are pretty consistently in my inbox on here who I think I might know given what I’ve heard over the years about them, but I don’t answer those asks because I have no desire to get into that side of bandom drama. on my end of things, I do everything I can to keep my ecosystem and the rest of my weirder posting habits contained to this blog and out of the main tags so that the only people who see it and interact with me are people who do so because they enjoy it/it makes them happy to do so.
all of that, though, is partially why I’m unwilling to post anything about how I look on here [amongst other reasons]. the last thing I need or want is someone who decided they hate me without ever interacting with me recognizing me at a show and making a problem out of it/sending photos of me to their friends/posting me on their account/doing something similarly stupid to start drama because they have nothing better to do. I like being able to just be anonymous whenever I go to concerts irl and do my own thing with my friends. it’s definitely a lasting effect of having been internet famous as a teenager and ergo getting followed around irl, but I’m perfectly content to live a life where my mutuals know what I look/sound like and that’s it.
*torturing you* dude trust me, something really cool happens. you just have to reflect on it for a bit. i'm doing this because i want you to reach your full potential okay?
"I remember looking at Pete and Patrick and telling Pete, “You're the luckiest guy in the world because you found this guy." Patrick laughed. Then I turned to Patrick and said the same thing to him. They fit together so perfectly. Pete listens to electronic music and pop. He DJs. Patrick likes old soul and classic R&B. The fact that Patrick found this guy with this vision; Pete had everything for the band laid out in his mind. And the fact that Pete found a guy who can sing like that and take his lyrics and work with them - which is an art unto itself. It's really the combination of those two that really creates the sound and the songs. They're just really lucky they found each other."
