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I dont know if i like ryan’s or harrison’ s face better

Today is my sister’s birthday, one week from today will be mine. My brothers birthday follows 2 days after. About 2 weeks from his will be my other brother’s bday. I always thought that was kind of neat.

mogifire

your parents like to have sex once a year, same month

mogifire

c-isnenegro

omgthatdress

Putting these up for anyone who needs them today.

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Why Does he DO That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

superopinionated

Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.

IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.

So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.

And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.

omgthatdress

^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is

kithnkin

Also recommending

swampseer

Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.

heysawbones

Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.

robotsandfrippary

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family. It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors.