Minim The Aron

[scrupulosity-comics]

sometimes instead of a horrid little monk, divine visions of lesbians dance in my head dispensing wisdom

[scrupulosity-comics]

[spacelazarwolf]

you know i think i’ve come to the conclusion that the answer to “but what if a cis woman is traumatized by men/male presenting people/whatever?” irt safe spaces is this: if you can’t be in the same room with someone you assume to be male or a man without feeling triggered, it probably means you have a lot more solo therapy and healing to do before relying on group therapy or other communal healing.

because how do you decide who gets to stay and who gets kicked out based on a cis woman’s trauma response? is it based on appearance? should intersex women with facial hair not be allowed because beards are triggering? should butches and studs not be allowed because masculinity is triggering? should talk broad shouldered trans women who don’t want to voice train not be allowed because low voices are triggering? is it based on identity? should a pre transition trans man who came out two days ago not be allowed because he’s a man? is a nonbinary person with a full beard and deep voice allowed because they are not a man?

because if you base your entire set of rules for who’s not allowed in the safe space on what makes cis women uncomfortable or triggers them, you’ve just made that space unsafe for trans people. and you need to decide if you’re ready to own that.

[spacelazarwolf]

guys this is the faggot tranny blog why is this a hot take.

[spacelazarwolf]

!!!!!!!!!!

[grison-in-space]

Y'all last night I realized that being physically hot for extended periods of time is literally a trigger, in that it cues me to remember and be emotionally braced for some fairly traumatic shit that happened when I was hot like that last... which means everything is worse and more stressful while it's happening.

If the only thing to do about it is to cease being hot, I have real bad news for my brain about "global warming" and "living in Minnesota (where there hasn't been as much investment in nuclear level AC)". Like, shit, at least you can ask dudes to clear out of your spaces without invoking King Canute quite that clearly. It's not any more reasonable, but it's marginally less absurd!

No, the thing you do about triggers is you learn to account for them and you practice learning to defang them. That means you gate your own exposure to triggers to minimize the odds of getting blindsided, but you also deliberately spend time around your triggers un-learning the association between them and the scar of your stress. Because asking half the world to avoid you for the rest of time is intrusive and unreasonable, just like asking the world to stop changing climate because that's really inconvenient for me is unreasonable.

It sucks, but that's life! Being aware is only the first step to healing, baby. The rest is like PT: long, shitty, and requiring both a good spotter and a lot of crappy effort to get anywhere with it.

[queerautism]

It is 100% possible and So worth it to work on your triggers btw. Especially when it's something super common and normalised in society. You deserve not to feel upset and alienated by something that should be a neutral fact of life. Trauma often makes you feel helpless and powerless, but this is absolutely within your power to work on, and improvement is very much possible. You deserve that peace of mind, not only the shaky temporary relief of avoidance, but the true calm of knowing something can't hurt you anymore.

At some point, once the trauma is in the past, and you don't need to protect yourself in the same way, holding onto strong negative feelings about triggers is doing nothing but harm you (and often others around you).

It is hard, and it does involve some feelings that really suck to experience, but they pass, and you realise you are still okay. Your body learns to brace itself a little less harshly next time. And eventually, most days, you won't even worry about it. You realise you didn't have to carry that burden anymore, and the world feels less hostile and more open.

[queerautism]

Just saw a trans person arguing "no one is saying it's wrong to segregate society based on men and women, it's just treating trans people as a third gender that's wrong"

No bitch I'm saying that!!!! It's fucking weird to keep people so separate on the basis of gender. It's extremely strange to have such isolated spheres of society, and to pretend there's some inherent hard coded difference, when we're all just people.

We're never going to get rid of all kinds of misogyny while reinforcing the idea that women and men need to be segregated away from each other at every turn. It might be normalised right now, but it will never be fucking normal to me.

[autiebiographical]

I'm trying... I really am...

[autiebiographical]

To be fair, all these walls make me much more suspicious of random calls or emails, making me harder to scam. A silver lining, I guess.

[worst-roommates-ever]

i think americans should have to put a banner above their post that says U.S. CENTRIC ADVICE/INFORMATION. i think political posts should clarify that they are giving protest/societal/class information relevant only to the USA i think i would like to stop getting halfway through a post with really good information and then realising it is not widespread advice and is only applicable in the united states of america

[worst-roommates-ever]

for the love of GOD can we PLEASE stop treating us-centric advice as applicable to the whole entire world. Please. beyond anything else, i do not think you guys understand how difficult it makes it for young people to interact with and learn information relevant to them.

at a certain point, treating us-american advice as universally applicable borders on misinformation. i am not saying that it is done maliciously, but it is dangerous at worst. i do not want younger people going around assuming that certain laws do/do not apply to them and getting in trouble because of it. i worry about what 'fundamental/constitutional/labour rights' are only legally defensible in the USA. i worry about kids who do not know yet to wonder where the advice is for, and take it as fact because a post that reads "EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW THIS" begins with "EVERYONE".

[worst-roommates-ever]

okay yes all the tags are very very good points but i would like to point out the main reason i made this post, which is that

if you are non-american then it can be dangerous to hold beliefs about your rights that are only applicable in the US.

i am australian and i have seen young australians have completely us-american perceptions on the rights they hold (or do not hold) in regards to protest, police officers, self-defense, medical care, higher education, debt, and legal proceedings. i am not talking about "boooo americans" i am talking about the genuine danger it might present to have us-centric assumptions in high-stakes situations

(please do not chalk this up to 'if you don't do research then you are stupid'. i made this post with young people in mind. that being said i am willing to bet it also applies to others, ie those who are newer to non-local internet, older folks, or those escaping high-control environments.)

[alphacrone]

i don't really want to weight in on the "using big words in your writing is ableist" discourse happening on tiktok because i'm like 90% certain it's an anti-intellectual psyop to stir up drama in online circles to promote the use of ai to summarize literally everything and thus feeding the LLMs and lowering the populace's mistrust of such tools but i also have to say: dictionaries and thesauruses are the most accessible they've ever been. if you use an e-reader of any kind you can look up a word without leaving the page. there's a plethora of online dictionaries and if you just type a word + "meaning" into google it'll usually give you a definition. we used to have pocket dictionaries we used when reading in class. i have two on my shelf right now that i used in high school. stop letting the fascists purposefully misuse anti-ableism rhetoric to trick you into never thinking again.

[autiebiographical]

So much of discovering or diagnosing autism is focused on autistic suffering. I feel the reason so many actually autistic advocates are told we're not really autistic is because we show more than just the negatives of being autistic. We show ourselves surviving, and thriving, which goes against the narrative of what autism is.

[percytheboykisser]

hey guys never forget that black queer people exist and they deserve the sunshine just as much as white queers do EVERYONE GIVE IT UP FOR BLACK QUEER PEOPLE WOOOOOOOOO🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[autiebiographical]

July 14th is International Nonbinary People's Day! I, myself, am nonbinary, and use they/them pronouns!

[spontaneousmusicalnumber]

A frustrating part of the mainstream vegan “love all animals and protect the environment” mindset is the fact that things need to die in real-life ecology all the time but deer hunting season makes icky feelings and carp culls aren’t cottagecore

[spontaneousmusicalnumber]

The vegan “any animal death ever is morally wrong” mindset doesn’t hold up when:

We don’t have any of the large predators we used to (black bears, mountain lions, or gray wolves) but still retain large deer populations. If nothing is removing animals, they’ll quickly overload the carrying capacity of the environment and have massive losses to starvation and disease that can also pass on to livestock. Human hunters replace the large predators that our landscape can no longer support.

It’s kinder to euthanize an un-releasable hawk rather than try to find it a permanent home with humans. Wildlife rehabs have extremely limited space and resources and are usually run entirely on donated money and volunteer time. Only a few are large and stable enough to care for permanent residents long-term, and those spots are few and far between.

An invasive species poses a danger to threatened native wildlife. I will admit- Australian possums are adorable. But not in New Zealand, where they’re an invasive species that eats the eggs of ground-dwelling birds that previously had no such predators. The landowners I worked with replanting native bush, all native Maori, had no qualms about setting the dogs on them.

I don’t know how to end this except. Sometimes things just gotta die and acting otherwise just isn’t a realistic expectation.

[spontaneousmusicalnumber]

Highlights from the notes over the past 6 months include a lot of angry vegans saying “you’re blowing things out of proportion, no vegans actually think like this!” and a lot of people who work in conservation and education saying “Every day. I have to fight people who think like this.”

As a bonus this post was originally inspired by the vegan who called me racist for saying we should kill invasive species

[thememedaddy]

[littencloud9]

[ID: A Tweet by @/sharloola that reads: no i actually noticed that social cue i just don’t know what to do with it /end ID]

[eisenkrahe]

[autiebiographical]

I am astounded at how many people will tell tales of how neurodivergent kids used to be tortured, and act like they're funny stories! It's honestly heartbreaking.

[autiebiographical]

My encyclopedic knowledge of Star Wars isn't very good at paying the bills.

[storm-of-feathers]

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

[storm-of-feathers]

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

[autiebiographical]

I have auditory processing disorder, so sometimes when people talk it just sounds like a jumbled mess of noise. After the third try of understanding what someone said, I usually just chuckle, say yeah, and desperately hope that was an acceptable answer.