Mirelha

The life, musings and interests of an art history student. TCK, folklore fan, metalhead.

[chessys]

what hasnt killed me has just made me overly sensitive and defensive

[patrickgalantes-archived]

consent through fear is not consent

[r-grimes]

let’s repeat that again:

consent through fear is not consent

[platonic-suggestion]

And while we’re at it:

consent through guilt is not consent either

[inatt]

SANGRE DE MUERDAGO | MESAXEIROS DO PASADO

Their music is so incredibly beautiful, I’m not getting tired of repeating that over and over again.

[treeonthemountain]

And they are so friendly people too.

[inatt]

They definitely are!

[mirelha]

This is stunning! Thank you for sharing this with us! :D

[thelittledrunkapple]

How women prepare for first dates

Bonus: How men prepare for first dates:

[sarcasticbabywhispererjess]

Accurate.

[pokemonprofessor]

Okay but the first set of gifs is not a joke like that’s literally how it goes.

[onemuseleft]

One of the girls at work won’t get in the guy’s car unless he agrees to let her take photos of him and his license plate to text to her mother. If he gets mad or makes a fuss she cancels the date and goes back inside.

[a-high-ass-ginger]

Reblogging for that 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼

[whatistimeeven]

I’ve had someone take pics of me and my license plate on a first date before & I was okay with it. I’ve also had a friend allow me to view the tracking on her phone when she went to meet up with a guy the first time. This isn’t a joke at all & women have good reason to worry.

[legolokiismighty]

i have only ever met 2 people online, and made sure that we met up somewhere that was 1) public 2) close to my home. 

After, I walked to the dollar store that was a couple shops down until I knew they were gone, before walking home.

[breelandwalker]

Louis C.K. kind of nailed it. Men worry that their date won’t measure up to their aesthetic preferences. Women worry that they’re going wind up dead.

The disparity is RIDICULOUS, and the fact that dudes get offended when women try to protect themselves is hard proof that way too many guys Do Not Understand how dangerous it is to be a woman. (Not to mention it’s fucking insulting. “How dare you not trust your life and safety to a complete stranger whose intentions you have no way of knowing”?)

[breelandwalker]

Lookin’ at the notes on this post following my earlier reblog and just going….

Wow. WOW. Look at all these sheltered people and their internalized misogyny.

The point isn’t, “NOT ALL MEN ARE OUT TO GET YOU.”

The point is, “WE HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING A NICE GUY FROM A SERIAL KILLER.”

It’s not like they fucking wear nametags, okay? Moreover, the most awful people with the worst intentions often put on the nicest face or deliberately make themselves seem harmless and likeable, to lull potential victims into a false sense of security. (Read up on Ted Bundy sometime. It’s horrifying shit. Or read any thread on the “Let’s Not Meet” subreddit.)

In order to protect ourselves, we are forced to assume the worst of every man we meet, because statistically speaking, the biggest danger to women…IS MEN. Saying “not all men are out to get you, you’re just being paranoid” is like saying “not every car you ride in is going to crash, so buckling your seatbealt is stupid.”

When dealing with an unknown situation, in the absence of absolute proof of safety, exercising a little extra caution can be the difference between life and death. Shaming women for being what you may view as overly cautious is every bit as horrid as blaming them if something goes wrong later on.

And refusing to go to a secluded location with a complete stranger without letting someone know where you’re going, who you’re with, and how to find you is just common street sense, whether you’re on a date or just going out for business or social purposes.

If your life has been so sheltered (or your coping skills so incredible) that you see no need to distrust strangers or worry about the potential for violence, you should thank your lucky stars.

And you should also be aware that just because it hasn’t happened to you or anyone you know does not mean that it doesn’t happen.

Lemme say that louder for the people in the back.

Just because it hasn’t happened to you or anyone you know does not mean that it doesn’t happen.

[bilt2tumble]

Re-Reblog for relevant commentary.

[zafirozorro-deactivated20160501]

And if you won’t take a woman’s word for it because you are some kind of asshat, men who sleep with men also mirror these rituals because even men are afraid of other men based on men’s behavior and inability to understand “no” or take rejection well.

[unelore]

Because this: The point isn’t, “NOT ALL MEN ARE OUT TO GET YOU.” The point is, “WE HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING A NICE GUY FROM A SERIAL KILLER.”

[zarabotu-deactivated20180503]

And to not make yourself safe out of politeness is crazy.  All these techniques exist (unfortunately they’re needed) to keep you safe, but the societal pressure to be polite and pretend there’s no danger is unacceptable. So break with the norm, keep safe and let him know you’re doing that too, not just in case he’s bad but also so safe men start to realise this is part of your reality. Cause honestly this is news to us, we’re flipping oblivious to what you have to go through.  I once went to meet my ex from work, we’d been together for about five years and I liked to think of ways to surprise her, so I finished work early and walked to her route home. It was winter and dark and I thought it’d be nice for her to have company. At a certain point I spotted her, match pace and joined her, wordlessly and started walking towards her, I held out a chocolate bar to her without saying anything to her and when she looked up at me she burst into tears. I was really surprised by her reaction and then I realised it was tears of terror! She had seen me approaching but wasn’t wearing her glasses and thought that I was a stranger and she had no idea of knowing she was safe. I was so sorry, I had never realised the level of fear she was living with as just a normal women in a our society. Life changing moment. Women need to talk about this. A lot of guys don’t get it. here’s Louis CK https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yRzs7v0do_Q 

[zennistrad]

This entire thread is worth a read.

[iamveryamused]

Chinese Kingfisher Feather Bracelet, 1890-1910. Kingfisher feather decoration has a long history in China dating back to the 6th century BC. Pieces like this were painstakingly made by cutting each individual filament from the feather, dragging it lightly across a special glue and then laying it into place next to the last filament, until each of the separate wire cells of the design is filled.

[thequotejournals]

I am strangely tired, not from having talked so much but at the mere thought of what I still have to say.

Albert Camus, The Fall  (via thequotejournals)

[ancientjewels]

Pair of gold and amethyst earrings belonging to a woman named Han Farong, discovered in a tomb in Datong City, China, c. 500 CE. 

[ha-ga]

Edward Okuń, Wojna i my 1923

[mirelha]

Is this an allegory of syphilis? That was a common theme in Art Nouveau painting.

[dappledwithshadow]

Sacred Music Edward Okun - 1915 Painting - oil on canvas

[the-paintrist]

Edward Okuń (1872–1945) was a Polish Art Nouveau painter and freemason. He painted landscapes, portraits, designed covers and llustrated magazines, including the German magazine “Jugend”.

[thepolishstufflove]

“The landscape from Dubrovnik” (1930) by Edward Okuń (Polish, 1872-1945), oil on canvas, 110 x 80,5, National Museum, Warsaw.  

[fleurdulys]

Concert - Edward Okun

1912

[the-paintrist]

Edward Okuń (1872–1945) was a Polish Art Nouveau painter and freemason. He painted landscapes, portraits, designed covers and llustrated magazines, including the German magazine “Jugend”.

[runta1210]

陽気な唄

[ave-miryam]

Andrea Grinberg + Rivka Malka Perlman:

The tznius fashionistas behind Wrapunzel. 

[inatt]

Available here.

[the-reading-nook]

[marhaba-maroc-algerie-tunisie]