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once in seventh grade a girl slapped me bc i accidentally said “yeah i haven’t read the anime yet” and after she slapped me she yelled “YOU DONT READ ANIME YOU FUCKING IDIOT” and she hasn’t spoken to me since but i just found out she was arrested for stealing a bunch of manga from our barnes and noble so

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What is fetishisizing a gay couple?

Fetischizing is turning a dynamic, a person, relationships…into sexual objects.

I really wish I had the time to write you a long article with lot of references but :1) I’m currently doing this and it’s unfinished yet2) It’s harder to find recent resources than one could think, sadly.

Some elements which are very common in fandoms/fanfictions/real life and I think pertain to fetishization.

- the seme/uke dynamic mainly : It took me years to figure out what was wrong with it, but I’ll give it a try and keep it the shortest way possible.** it applies misogynistic clichés to gay relationships : the passive, cute, helpless uke gets penetrated (sometimes quite roughly) by the strong, masculine, dominant alpha male/seme. A+ for reinforcing oppressive clichés.** the idea that physical / mental fragility (ukes are often indecisive, tormented, sometimes abused and physically frail…) = sexual “passiveness” ? The idea that your identity is defined by you position in bed (which in most yaois/fics is written into the marble, which is why I stay away from most yaois even though there’s one or two that weren’t TOO disappointing but still make me cringe).

**In many yaois the uke struggle with their sexual identity and this is presented as cute or sexy (”come on, the big strong seme will teach you with his huge dick”)?? It’s not.

- queer baiting : it’s impossible you never witnessed a show which used queer subtext and then when you confront the writers, they laugh, make fun about it and treat it as a joke. That’s queer baiting. Making subtext is okay. Making subtext and turning it into a joke is one of the worst form of oppression. Because you once thought this media was friendly. It adds betrayal to the oppression. Using gay relationship to bait people into reading your book/fic or watching your show is gross.- animalization : I am among those who can’t read an omega verse, mainly because they stem from the uke/seme dynamic and present it in a kinky universe (which, with the heats and knotting things are borderline non con). Do as you wish, but frankly, I am triggered by them as a gay woman. I’ve experienced and read about too many times about gay people being compared to animals to find this cute.

Now, I know there are a lot of persons who’d say “come on I’m gay111 and I don’t feel bothered11 by objectification″ but I doubt it. Or maybe it’s a question of education tbh. Well, I am, and I won’t apologize for being uncomfortable with a shitty depiction of my (sexual) life.

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reblog this if on april fool’s, you’re accepting ic ‘pranks’ in your ask box. put ketchup in my muse’s drink, tie their shoelaces together, go wild. go crazy. have fun dealing with the consequences.