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shinyzango

Wear your mask and keep your distance.

Sebastian belongs to @freckleocalypse

thecozygremlin

I wanted to make these so bad!

Preorders are open on my shop @chescadoodles on Etsy!✨

canadian-static

Murdoch’s soul just left his body

desinteresse

Love how a lot of “autistic parenting problems” can get fixed by just using your brain:

“my autistic child doesnt like hugs” so don’t hug them, that will be 150 dollars

desinteresse

“My autistic child had a meltdown in a busy grocery store” so don’t bring them to a busy grocery store

desinteresse

“My autistic child is a picky eater” So give them the food they like but also encourage them to try new food in fun positive ways

desinteresse

“My autistic child only want to wear the same shirt everyday” so let them wear the same shirt everyday

venusrrvelez

“My autistic child claims loud noises hurt their ears.” So turn the goddamn noise down, Susan!

jimmyandthegiraffes

some of this definitely tracks but a lot of the time it’s not as simple as that. if you’re a single parent with an autistic child, and you can’t afford childcare, you can’t just leave your kid at home alone while you get food. sometimes taking children to places that they don’t like is 100% necessary. however, something that might help in this situation is giving the child clear information beforehand about what is going to happen, letting them know they are heard, and telling them exactly what is expected of them and how long it will last:

we have to go to the grocery store. i know that you don’t like it there because [anything they have said before about why it makes them upset] and i don’t either, but we have to do it. we are leaving at x time, so you have until then to [transition from what they were doing before]. when we are there, you need to walk next to me/hold my hand/(maybe give them a task such as counting how many types of fruit they can see in the store, a small activity to do, or a stim toy. keeping them grounded and entertained is good). it will take y amount of time, and then it will be over and we can come back home and you can do z [special interest related activity or other reward that will recharge their nd batteries after a draining experience]

autistic children grow up to be autistic adults. sooner or later they will have to go into a grocery store, maybe on their own, maybe every week, for their whole adult life. acclimatising them to knowing how grocery stores work from a reasonably young age, helping them learn that grocery stores are not scary, and that if they are scary they are at least endurable and that trips there don’t last forever, is going to be far more effective and helpful in the long run than simply teaching children that if they don’t like something they don’t have to do it. coping strategies are far more useful than avoidance for situations that are necessary.

i am saying this as an autistic adult, who was an autistic child, and who has very specific difficulties with grocery shopping myself, before anyone comes for me calling me neurotypical or whatever.

pyroteknich

If you are a parent with a child who has sensory issues (this could also include autistic and adhd children, as well as undiagnosed children), here are some ideas.

1. When going into a loud, crowded, busy place, give your child headphones if they are sensitive to sound. The headphones can be connected to soothing sounds, or they can be disconnected headphones. You want to muffle the noise to allow the child to not become overwhelmed. If it’s an issue with movement and/ or sight, you could try giving your child sunglasses. Yes, you may be indoors. Yes, you may think it looks silly. If it helps, who cares?

2. If your child likes a particular shirt, get multiples of that shirt. If they want to wear the exact same shirt everyday, let them! Get one for every day of the week. And now you don’t have to sort laundry.

3. Give your child a job. Maybe in a store, they have to tell you every time they see a particular shape or color. Maybe they need to help you read the can. Maybe they are in charge of marking things off the shopping list. Make your child feel important and listened to. Don’t just drag them around like unruly luggage. They aren’t a suitcase.

betterthanakickintheface

All of this

jaubaius

Magic?

mag150cul-de-sac

coin go brrrrr

guiltiest-gear

Magnetic fields be wilding

urbanfantasyinspiration

Oh, just some mild sorcery

luminous-warrior

Magnetic fields are MILD sorcery?

urbanfantasyinspiration

Considering all the other shit sorcery is supposed to do this is a cantrip. A party trick

woulddieforperrytheplatypus

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I...

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urbanfantasyinspiration

I’m so happy for Dan

emmajiqrubini

I cosplayed Edna Mode from The Incredibles at Holiday Matsuri and needless to say I spent the day hunting down characters with capes and getting irrationally angry at them