Misfit Rambles

Mx. Mim | they/them | pan & demi | genderfluid | millennial | INFJ & HSP | aspiring polyglot | mental health warrior | Germany

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Lately on Duolingo: I now can say in Dutch that you're an apple. Still waiting for a situation when I can say this to someone. 🤣

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Genderfluid individuals are often misunderstood. People think that being genderfluid is just a phase and that we will "settle" eventually either as female or male.

In some cases, this may happen. But most of the time, being genderfluid is not a phase. It's a thousand phases.

Or rather, it's an independent gender identity under the nonbinary umbrella that means that our gender is fluctuating. Sometimes only once a year, sometimes several times a day.

But we are still valid like any other individual.

[genderqueerdykes]

genderfluidity is not a strict or defined thing- i've seen a lot of people questioning whether or not their experience "counts" as a genderfluid experience because it "doesn't seem to fit"- the only "rule" for genderfluidity is that your gender changes sometimes. that's it, it doesn't have to be anything more complicated than that

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THIS!!! Sometimes it happens to me that I don't change my gender for several months or even years. And then there are times when it happens more often. Presently, I feel like I'm somewhere in the middle between female and male.

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What are your favorite songs in French, Spanish, Indonesian, Dutch or Chinese? Any recommendations? BTW my taste of music is very eclectic, so any kind of music is welcome as long as it's in the languages above.

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I'm trying to learn spanish and am looking for good spanish media to help with that, but even in my first language I pretty much only watch/read things if they are queer in some way (whether text or subtext). Do you know of any good queer media in spanish?

Hi anon! I am super sorry for such a late answer, literally months later. While you might not be on my blog anymore, I definitely have a lot of recs. If you're interested specifically in literature, let me know - queer latin american lit is my field. Aside from primary works, I can recommend scholars that work in that area :) Since you said media, I'll try and keep it varied!

TV + Film

The work of Pedro Almodóvar: a super influential Spanish director. My favorites are La piel que habito (2011), Todo sobre mi madre (1999) and Los amantes pasajeros (2013), psychological horror, a drama, and a comedy, in that order.

The work of Los Javis: Javier Calvo and Javier Ambrossi are a couple and direct together. Their series Paquitas Salas is legendary, I haven't seen Veneno (a biographical series about Cristina La Veneno, a trans icon in Spain) but have heard good things, and finally La llamada (2017) is a musical movie but super fun.

Drag Race España: I mean it's Drag Race... but in Spain haha. One of the better international versions of Drag Race, and los Javis are judges. I am not sure where you can watch it for free unfortunately :(

La Más Draga: Another drag competition but local to Mexico. I think there are 5 seasons now, I've only seen the latest but enjoyed it a lot! There's a community on Tumblr that talks a lot about DRES and LMD, so if you watch it and want someone to talk about it with, look no further.

A few movies I've seen but it's been a while so I can't talk extensively about them: Esteros (2016), Mi mejor amigo (2018), El baile de los 41 (2020). Actually now I want to watch more haha, if anyone has any recs feel free to chime in!

There are lot of shows with queer characters that aren't necessarily queer shows, if you know what I mean? Like one that comes to mind is Casa de las flores. I think (haven't seen it) Élite also has queer characters??

Podcasts

Cuir: Historias disidentes and Disonantes - Archivo Oral LGBT are both focused on stories from queer people in Spanish

Grandes maricas de la historia is one of my favorite podcasts EVER and it's just queer people in history. It's not limited to people from the Spanish speaking world, but I really only listen to those episodes.

Cazadores de girlbands is a group of friends talking about girlbands which for me personally was a big part of my experience as a gay teen (I even had an instagram account where I made edits of my favorite pop girlies) so have to include it here.

Tu amigo gay and Wilferland are podcasts of gay men speaking about their own experiences in the community (among other things).

I'm definitely more of a literature person, so I would definitely be able to recommend a ton if you're up for reading! My media horizons are a tad more limited. I hope you find this even if I answered a million years after!

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Great recommendations to all queer Spanish speakers or Spanish learners. Even though, my Spanish is still at beginner level, I wanna take a look/listen to these. Maybe it will help me to improve my skills. 🇪🇸

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Englischlehrer: a.m. steht für ante meridiem (vor Mittag) und p.m. für post meridiem (nach Mittag)

Ich, eine Intellektuelle: a.m. steht für “am Morgen” also is das Vormittags und das andere is dann halt Nachmittags.

[linguistness]

I’m ashamed to admit that this is exactly what i’m thinking every single time…

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Same here! It's "am Morgen", that's all that German-speaking English-learners need to remember. :D

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Have I already told you that I'm a total language freak? 😅

Since March 2021, I'm learning Spanish on Duolingo daily, and I have some Spanish-speaking friends with whom I can practice my language skills, which is very helpful.

In 2022, I decided to brush up on my French as well. I studied it in Business College about ten years ago, but didn't really have the opportunity to practice it afterward, so I forgot a lot. 😟

Since my French seems to be better than I thought, and I'm making progress with my Spanish as well, I've started with Indonesian now. It's the language I want to learn most of all because I have a weakness for all things Indonesia.

And when I have a bit of time left, I dabble in Chinese and Dutch. But just for fun. I tried to learn them before but forgot the most.

As I said, I'm a total language freak ... 😂 PS: English is my second language, btw. My first is German.

PPS: In case you wanna be friends on Duolingo, my handle is queerintrovert 😊

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Sometimes I feel like... transgender is a minority. But nonbinary is a minority of the minority. 🤔

[genderqueerdykes]

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I've changed my gender so many times that I ended up totally confused and clueless. I thought that something's wrong with me, I'm indecisive, I'm just persuading myself of not being cis. I felt like an impostor.

However, I've always known deep inside that I am not a cis woman, that I'm somewhat "different", but I didn't know that nonbinary people existed.

2017 I met a bigender person and finally realized that there's more than male and female.

I thought, I'm bigender as well, then I thought I'm genderqueer or nonbinary, then I thought I'm a transgender male, and then a nonbinary male, and then a binary trans man again, and then back to cis woman, but it all didn't fit 100%.

Eventually, I came to the conclusion: I'm genderfluid.

That's who I am. And I'm allowed to change. I am allowed to present myself however I want. I am allowed to use various pronouns or names.

It's all fine.

Since I understood this, I have started living instead of existing.

That was 6 days ago. The adventure has just begun - and I'm all in!