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Where can good Muslim ladies be found for marriage because the things going on these days scares. No intentions to spite or hurt.

You can find them by being a good muslim man and praying to Allah to bless you with an equally beautiful woman

Hey! There is something about you that just makes you come off as super cool. I have so many questions. Do you work full time? Do you plan on still working after settling down? How do you achieve a work-life balance? Lastly, how come you’re in Akwa Ibom so often? I’m sorry I have so many questions but you really are inspirational northen girl especially because I keep getting told that I am too ambitious given where I’m from.

Hey, so i am sorry but i have not been on Tumblr for so long. I am just seeing this, i’ll answer your questions even though i am sure they no longer mean anything to you.

1) Yes i work full time.

2) Yes i do plan on working full time when i settle down

3) i try to do that by leaving work at work, once i am out the door, its all about my family and friends

4) i was in Akwa ibom working on rolling out a project for the health sector supply chain in Nigeria.

I am really honoured i inspire you and i don’t mind answering anymore questions. The issue of ambition is a big deal in the North, but i have come to realise it should not stop you from achieving your dreams, do not belittle your self for a region that does not care that much about you, Pray, work hard and above all do what legitimately makes you happy as long as its not of harm to anyone

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Sometimes you are going to miss a person who was an almost to you. And feel sad because there is no name for that feeling. You just feel it in a way that makes you tired to your very bones.

Nikita Gill, Almost Feelings (via books-n-quotes)

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SHOUTOUT TO THE MISS PERU 2018 CONTESTANTS FOR GIVING STATS ABOUT WOMEN’S ISSUES INSTEAD OF THEIR BODY MEASUREMENTS

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It wasn’t just the contestants who wanted to get the point across to their audience — violence against women was the theme of the night.

The organizers of Miss Peru 2018 displayed newspaper clippings of prominent cases of murdered and assaulted women as the contestants made their way across the catwalk in bathing suits.

You can read more about it here.

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DailyDot link with more information!

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This is flames. When there is unity the message will be heard.

what was the most memorable moment in your life?

I honestly have none that comes to mind.. or I have too many lol

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I know I really shouldn't but I get really really depressed over the things Muslim say about the role of Muslim women, that somehow we are only good for reproducing and being obedient to our husbands and that's it. For a long time I was really depressed over the "obey your husband" teaching because it made me feel like a secondary human being. I fully believe in the concept of shura within the marriage but no one even seems to care to say it. Muslim men have failed us in this Ummah today.

My Sweet Sister,

Please don’t let patriarchy and self indulgent men tell you that for women Islam is all about being victimized and unintelligently submissive to the men in your life.We are supposed to submit to Allah first and foremost. As a Muslim you are expected to chase knowledge to understand to your deen.

I could get into roles and duties and rights but it’s important that you seek this knowledge.

I recommend “Believing Women: Unreading Patriarchal Interpretations of The Quran” By Asma Barlas .. Honestly if you trust Allah and believe who he tells you he is, then you have to approach this in a way that suggests that your understanding of Allah and his Deen is misconstrued by the patriarchal self seeking exegesis that exists.

You have to understand Islam to be fluid and not monolithic. And let me say that although the Quran is not a Feminist text, it precedes first wave feminism by deconstructing existing misogynist framework.

Remember Khadija (ra)Remember Hagar (ra)Remember Maryam(ra)Remember Aasiyah (ra)Remember Aisha (ra)

Remember how the Prophet used to listen to have nights to sit with women and answer their questions.

Remember how he granted divorces for women who were not pleased with their husbands.

Remember how a mans key to heaven is at his mothers feet.

Remember what rights you are given over your husband and your father.

Remember hadith that warn against the mistreatment of women.

But remember most importantly the way your beautiful Prophet (May Allahs peace and love flow upon him) loved firstly Khadija and all of his wives after.How he treated women, how women would teach in his masjid.

But please take time to understand and unlearn all of the victimization that is forced upon muslimahs, by both western media and Muslims themselves.

Read about Islamic feminism. About Muslim women doing things in your community.

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I want to kiss your feet sister. Is that weird? Oh well, it is what it is.

To the one who did the original ask: Yes yes and thousand yeses to everything in the reply. Also remember that the Prophet named 4 perfect human beings, none of them are a man. Heaven is at the feet of a woman, not a man. Raising up daughters grants entrance to heaven, not sons. The pride of a family is on daughters, not sons. The prophets favorite people were women. The only person the prophet ever stood and gave his seat too was a woman, the first Muslim was a woman, the one to comfort him after his terrifying visits with Jibreel was a woman, the one to employ him was a woman, the one to raise him was a woman, the only offspring to survive of his were women, the one to propose marriage to him was a woman, wealthier, older, wiser, and higher in station than him, he denied her due to a lack of self worth, but later accepted alhamdulillah. The prophets last instructions were to be good to women, the mark of a good Muslim is how he treats his wife, the prophets wives were not wallflowers. They were bold, out going, out spoken, confident, and assertive. They got angry with him, they showed it, they fought with him and each other, they disagreed with him, he never once abused them, doubted them, accused them, hurt or harmed them. The prophet never once raised his hand to anyone outside of the battlefield. The first university in the world was created by a Muslim woman. It was a WOMAN (Nusaybah) who defended the prophet in battle with her sons. The enemy told them the prophet was dead and the MEN sat down to cry. Meanwhile she defended the prophet even after being wounded and watching her son be killed. She later took the life of the man that killed her son in that battle. The prophet praised her talent. Sumayah also died in battle defending the prophet. When Spain fell … the king cried and his MOTHER scolded him saying ‘do not cry like a woman for what you could not defend like a man’ … We are to obey our husbands so long as they are righteous. If they insist we do things outside Islam and abuse us in any capacity it is our obligation to disobey them and seek a way to escape them, end of story.

Also listen to this lecture about the Prophets way of dealing with his wives… sunnah is not just rolling up your pants leg and growing a beard and walking around with beads … its LIVING HIS LIFE

http://www.halaltube.com/was-prophet-muhammed-pbuh-romantic

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amunati I love you sister !! Everything my beautiful sister said above !

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My Sweet Sister,

I could get into roles and duties and rights but it’s important that you seek this knowledge.

Remember Khadija (ra)Remember Hagar (ra)Remember Maryam(ra)Remember Aasiyah (ra)Remember Aisha (ra)

Remember how the Prophet used to listen to have nights to sit with women and answer their questions.

Remember how he granted divorces for women who were not pleased with their husbands.

Remember how a mans key to heaven is at his mothers feet.

Remember what rights you are given over your husband and your father.

Remember hadith that warn against the mistreatment of women.

But please take time to understand and unlearn all of the victimization that is forced upon muslimahs, by both western media and Muslims themselves.

Read about Islamic feminism. About Muslim women doing things in your community.

bdusbxvakba-deactivated20221025

I want to kiss your feet sister. Is that weird? Oh well, it is what it is.

Also listen to this lecture about the Prophets way of dealing with his wives… sunnah is not just rolling up your pants leg and growing a beard and walking around with beads … its LIVING HIS LIFE

http://www.halaltube.com/was-prophet-muhammed-pbuh-romantic

keywrites

amunati I love you sister !! Everything my beautiful sister said above !

miss-alfa

Important

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If you find it hard waking up for Fajr salah then recite Sūrat al-Ikhlās (Qul huwa Allāhu ahad) 3 times and then hold a clear intention of waking up in your heart. An angel will be appointed by Allāh (Subhānahu wa ta’āla) who will wake you up just before Fajr salah. I’ve tried it many times and it has worked all the time. Subhan’Allāh.

Morning, are you friendly?

Hello! I'd like to think I am :)

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Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) is one of the most common endocrine disorders that affects in numbers as high as 1 in 10. While it has been recognized and diagnosed for over seventy-five years, less than 50% of women are diagnosed due to the lack of knowledge, and awareness. PCOS cannot be diagnosed with just one test, and can often be overlooked due to symptoms varying from person-to-person. In order to be diagnosed with PCOS, you need 2 of the following present: androgen excess, irregular/absent menstrual cycles, and/or ovarian cysts.

The month of September is Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome Awareness Month, and here is what you need to know.

PCOS is a condition in which the sex hormones in a female’s body are imbalanced, which can cause ovarian cysts, weight gain, changes in menstrual cycle, infertility, and other symptoms. An early diagnosis is important with PCOS because the condition has been linked to an increased risk of multiple medical issues including insulin resistance, type 2 diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and heart disease. PCOS has been known as the “Silent Killer”. There is no exact cause of the condition, although it has been linked to genetics and environment. While there is no known cure for the syndrome, there are treatment options to manage symptoms, and improve your PCOS health.

Female reproductive anatomy | Source

What are symptoms of PCOS?

When it comes to symptoms, it varies for person-to-person, which often makes a diagnosis difficult due to some individuals living with few symptoms.

Weight gain or difficulty losing weight

Dandruff

Acne

Cysts on ovaries

Obesity

High cholesterol levels

Skin discolorations (dark, thick velvet like patches)

Elevated blood pressure

Insulin resistance

Repeated miscarriages

Thinning hair

Infertility

Pelvic pain

Male-type hair growth (hirsutism)

Irregular/absent menstrual cycles

Anxiety and/or depression

Regular menstrual cycle vs. PCOS menstrual cycle | Source

How is PCOS diagnosed?

Medical History Your doctor will ask questions in regards to your past medical history, as well as your family’s. Studies have shown that if a parent has PCOS, there is a 50% chance that the daughter will have PCOS as well. Questions commonly asked will include details of your menstrual cycle, miscarriages, trouble with weight, depression, and other medical history. Physical Exam A physical exam will include height, weight, and blood pressure. As well as examining your body for any signs, such as excess hair growth patterns, skin discoloration, thinning hair, and acne. Be sure to let your doctor know of any hair growth patterns that maybe overlooked. Blood Work Your doctor may order numerous labs, but most common are a hormonal panel including testosterone, DHEA, estrogens; fasting glucose; insulin; lipid profile. Ultrasound An ultrasound is an exam that will show images of your ovaries, uterus, and endometrial lining. It is often done to check for ovarian cysts, which is a common symptom of the condition.

How is PCOS treated?

Lifestyle changes, medical management, and medication are the best ways to treat the syndrome because there is no cure for it. It is important to find a doctor that you are comfortable, and satisfied with, because it is vital to keep in contact when it comes to managing the syndrome. Treatment varies based on your symptoms, if you are trying to conceive, and overall health.

Birth Control Pills – Extremely common in medications prescribed, contraceptive will regulate menstrual cycles, reduce male hormone levels, aid in clearing up acne

Metformin (Glucophase) – Metformin is used to treat diabetes, however it is beneficial to people with PCOS because many have insulin resistance. The medication helps in regulating the amount of glucose (sugar) in your blood. It has shown to lower testosterone levels, which improves symptoms such as abnormal hair growth, ovulation, and weight gain.

Spironolactone – Spironolactone is a diuretic (often known as a water pill) that is prescribed for high blood pressure or those with fluid retention, however it has other benefits that aid in PCOS health. The medication is often prescribed along with oral contraceptive pills for those who have hirsutism because it works by lowering androgen levels in the body. Androgens are hormones that people, both male and female, have in their bodies, but males have higher levels of the hormone. Androgens cause male patterned hair growth on the face, chest, and stomach, as well as acne, that some people with PCOS have. Spironolactone can cause birth defects, therefore it cannot be taken during pregnancy.

Lifestyle Modifications – Dietary changes and exercise are important when it comes to managing PCOS because those living with the condition often have insulin resistance, and difficulty maintaining or losing weight. Eating well, and being active, can improve PCOS symptoms on their own. When it comes to dietary changes, it varies for everyone, however, nutrition is very important because the foods we put into our bodies affect us differently than others. So whole foods - fresh vegetables, lean meat, and focusing on low-GI foods, no processed or refined food, limiting dairy are typical PCOS meal plans. Keep in mind, some find keto, vegan, or paleo to be ideal for them.

Fertility Treatment – 70% of women diagnosed with PCOS have infertility, however, through fertility treatments and medication, many conceive and give birth to healthy children. Treatments include ovulation cycles, insemination, or IVF. Medications include Clomid, an oral medication that stimulates ovulation, and is often the first medication prescribed. Letrozole is another oral medication similar to Clomid by stimulating ovulation. It is determined by your doctor which treatment is best for you, and dosage.

What is Insulin Resistance?

Insulin is a hormone that is produced by the pancreas. When insulin is released into the bloodstream, it is the essential hormone that has many actions throughout the body such as controlling of sugars, starches, lipids, and proteins. Insulin helps regulate the body’s functioning cells, including their growth, which is important due to glucose being used as energy.

Insulin resistance is when the body’s cells become resistant to the effects of insulin. Due to this, high levels of insulin are needed in order for the insulin to have its proper effects. The pancreas overcompensates by trying to produce more insulin, until it can no longer produce a sufficient amount for the body’s demands, which results in blood sugar rising. Insulin resistance is often considered pre-pre diabetes due to it being a risk factor for the development of diabetes, along with other health concerns such as heart disease. Insulin resistance is associated with other medical conditions including fatty liver, acanthosis nigricans, and skin tags.

What is Hirsutism?

Hirsutism (HUR-soot-iz-um) is a condition of male-type pattern hair growth on areas of the female body such as face, chest, abdomen, and back. The hair is different from the type some women have on their upper lip, breasts, or chin, which is often fine, “baby” like hairs. which is common. Women with hirsutism have dark, thick, and often coarse hair in male-type patterns. The condition is hereditary, although it is typically caused by high levels of male hormones, or can be caused by conditions such as PCOS, or Cushing’s syndrome. It can also be caused by hair follicles being overly sensitive to male hormones, however doctors do not know the cause. Medication can be prescribed to help lessen the hair growth.

What is Acanthosis Nigricans?

Acanthosis nigricans (ay-can-THO-sis NYG-ruh-cans) is a skin condition that causes areas of skin to become dark, thick, and velvety in areas of the skin that fold and crease, such as neck, armpits, and groin. It typically occurs in people who are obese, have insulin resistance, or diabetes. Treatment for the condition requires treating the underlying conditioners that affect the skin’s color and texture. Prescription creams and ointments can be prescribed to lighten the skin, antibiotics to reduce odor or discomfort, or retinoids to clear skin are treatment options aside from weight loss, and treating underlying health conditions.

PCOS Risks and Facts

PCOS affects 5% to 10% of women, making it the most common endocrine disorder in women of childbearing age.

Insulin resistance is not a part of the diagnostic criteria for PCOS, although between 50-70% with PCOS have insulin resistance.

Women with PCOS are at 4 to 7 times higher risk of heart disease compared to women of the same age without the syndrome.

Due to higher levels of testosterone, those with PCOS can build muscle easier than those without.

Ovarian cysts are more commonly a result of the hormonal imbalance, and not the cause of the syndrome.

A percentage of people with PCOS also have endometriosis.

Fish oil is beneficial for all aspects of PCOS, from improving moods to quality of skin and hair.

The diagnostic criteria states that a patient has PCOS if they have at least 2 of the following 3 criteria: androgen excess, irregular/absent menstrual cycles, and/or ovarian cysts.

It is estimated that 4 billion dollars is spent annually in the United States to identify and manage PCOS.

What are Reliable PCOS Resources?

The PCOS Nutrition Center

PCOS Foundation

PCOS Diva

Soul Cysters

PCOS Challenge

PCOS Network

The Hormone Foundation

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome Association

PCOS Diet Support

Androgen Excess and PCOS Society

If you would like a printable pamphlet on polycystic ovarian syndrome, PCOS Foundation has one that you can find here, and print out to offer to family and friends. The PCOS Foundation also offers volunteer opportunities, if you’re interested, you can read more information here. Due to the fact that PCOS is of unknown etiology, and currently there is a lot unknown about the syndrome despite the annual national health care cost associated with PCOS being around $1.16 billion in 2010. Keep in mind, that does not mean you cannot take steps to control symptoms, and take precaution to prevent health risks from occurring if left untreated. It affects 1 in 10, and around 5 - 7 million of the female population with numbers rising as people announce their diagnosis’ daily. Please make yourself aware of all PCOS symptoms, gather all the knowledge that is available from reliable sources, and raise your voice. Speak out, if you have a family or friend that expresses concern about symptoms that are similar to PCOS, let them know. While PCOS is manageable, it is vital to get diagnosed, and treated properly with medical care.

After you are diagnosed, make sure you have regular follow-ups with your health care provider, take medications prescribed to you to lessen your risks, and manage your symptoms. Due to the fact people with PCOS are at a higher risk of other health conditions, please keep your health a top priority. If you cannot afford insurance or care for any reason, please check out HRSA or NeedyMeds to find free/low-cost/sliding-scale clinics around your area.