[2018_08_22] Crazy Rich Asians and random thoughts, in no particular order
Title: Read none, but did watch Crazy Rich Asians
Type: Movie/Book (I watched the movie today, with two of my friends who are both girls, and both Asian. We loved it.)
Language: English
Description: RomCom with a crazy rich heir, but with an Asian flair to it
Notes, Thoughts: The movie was hilarious. The talk afterward was a bit more sobering.
A: My dad has the gulls to call himself a feminist while he laughs at my feminist ideals, gets offended when I tell him something is sexist and tells me I’m being too sensitive.
B: If men tell me I’m too sensitive, they should be shutting the fuck up. They are not listening, which is the first sign that they are not being the feminist that they claim to be. You are shutting me up, telling me how and what to feel, disaffirming my feelings and denying what and how I’ve been treated. No, you listen. I’m not being sensitive. You’re being deaf.
C: What is with Asian men (especially fathers) and their inability to do housework? Does their dick somehow fall off if they wash the dishes, god forbid? And how come they’re so shitty at taking care of themselves? They don’t cook, and when they cook it’s all instant meals. Then they have the balls to tell me to eat healthily and shit. When I tell my father to eat healthy because otherwise you’re gonna die early, he laughs and says he’ll die without my mother. No. You don’t say that proudly. You’re a grown-ass man, for god’s sake, you should be able to cook a fucking meal for yourself that won’t kill you in ten years.
D: It’s very, very possible to love and respect your father and to loathe him and feel the opposite of respect for him all at once. I’m going through this every day.
E: Thoughts and issues about my mother are more personal. While both my friends shared and agreed with me about their stances on their fathers, we are a bit more... varied on our thoughts about our mothers. We do agree that we wish our mothers would stop babying our dads.
F: Crazy Rich Asians talks about family and happiness as a central theme, and I think that it did a nice job of bringing both parts to light. Your family is important, they’re someone who won’t give up on you and stick by you even when you push them away, and you really need that. But putting family first and sacrificing your happiness is not right either. When you talk about Asian culture versus Western culture, a lot of people see it as family vs. individuality to the extremes. Western culture is thought of as independent to the point where you’d abandon or sacrifice your family for the sake of your own happiness. Asian culture puts family first to the point where your ideals, ambitions and happiness are considered nothing in the face of your family. Both extremes are not healthy and have their consequences and in the end. Sacrifice your happiness for your family and you’ll always blame them for something and never be happy as a family because of your bitterness. Sacrifice your family and you won’t have that pillar of strength, that support that someone unconditionally gives you.
G: I do not want to get married. I will charge money to everyone who says, “Oh, but the people who say that get married first!” or bet them some sick amount to see who gets married first or if I get married at all. Seriously. I’d make a killing, and I’ve heard this so many times I’m sick of it.
H: What part of I do not want to marry do you not understand. It’s not up for debate, and it’s my fucking decision. You don’t get a say.
I: They think I’m joking. Try me.
J: I will not marry out of pure spite.
Inspirations: Nothing at the moment. I’m too tired
Classes, Assignments: Fucking dorm assignments. I’ve emailed everyone, check email again tomorrow. For Delta: email sent, just wait.
People: Watched and talked with Jenny and Christine. We discussed the movie and all the things up there. Feminisim, Western ideals and clashes with Korean culture/paternalism. It’s almost a universal thing. Haha.
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