it's time for a poll everyone, how do you show love?
Alrighty. Here are two of the highlights.
1.) I have this odd form of gift-giving where say I’ll give them a shiny rock I love. And I’m all, “ok. this rock is ours now.” Cause I still want it, but I want them to have it more. The only thing that changes is that I will periodically check in on the thing to make sure they are taking care of it. Like a shared dog but with things. (Look gift-giving is hard with trauma aight we work around it) When I do this I get a lot of “Do you...want this back?” and I’m like “no. It’s your gift. Speaking of that actually where is it?”
2.) I am so very emotionally messed with so if a situation that I haven’t gone through happens, my close friend/family is hurting and I can’t get all comfy in my large pile of advice for traumatic stuff, I stutter over my words, get awkward. So instead of words I use physical touch. Small things at varying levels of intensity depending on the person and if I will crush them, but s i l e n c e with (if they start crying or breaking down) quiet oddly placed reassurances and countdowns. Just things I wish people did for me so I’m doing it for them cause :D we frens.we fam. i luv u.
