in a shoebox on the closet shelf

[cuntaloupes-deactivated20241215]

Abusive men pave the way for lazy men to get wives and girlfirends.

[cuntaloupes-deactivated20241215]

Lemme clarify, how many times have you heard your overworked female friends and relatives say “Yeah, Jerry drinks beer every evening after work while I cook dinner and clean up after everyone and does the bare minimum to help me raise the kids but he’s such a nice guy. He’s never beat me in my life. I couldn’t ask for a better guy in my life.”

Like no, Sally, your husband is a common stone among turds and you know it.

[biggestniq]

I try to explain this conceptually to people as a thing that happens not saying that this is good but it’s a thing that happens.

[wedgemccloud]

This is what male privilege is and how all men benefit from it.

This is why you are not exempt from statements about “all men” even if you are overall good.

You benefit from the bar constantly being lowered by systemic issues within the gender.

The expectations on you are always lower than they should because “at least you’re not X”.

[musingsofatiredmind]

That…is the best response I’ve seen to the “not all men” thing. Thank you.

[sprinkledsalt]

Yeah, this post reminded me of this bit from a talk by Lundy Bancroft

[always-live-in-the-sunshine-dea]

“Don’t lie to an over thinker. It never ends well. Such people have trained their brains to look for holes in a story. If shit doesn’t make sense, they think about it over and over until it makes sense. I’m that person.”

— Unknown

[naturaekos]

“I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps but other people emphasize my loneliness.”

—

[minuty]

Sometimes we get sad about things and we don’t like to tell other people that we are sad about them. We like to keep it a secret. Or sometimes, we are sad but we really don’t know why we are sad, so we say we aren’t sad but we really are.

Mark Haddon, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time (via minuty)

[blossomfully]

He looks at me and says, “god, I’m so terrified you’re going to fuck me up.” He does this half laugh. “You know why?” I shake my head. “Because 80% of people don’t stay together but I keep imagining old me and old you taking walks on a beach somewhere. "And if we don’t, I’ll have that image stuck in my head forever, and it’s going to fuck me up.”

Sue Zhao (via blossomfully)

[timbllr]

[graysea]

The Solar System!

bonus Pluto!

[selfloveandsuch-blog]

THIS IS THE PUREST THING EVER

[prolificslut]

I am striving to be kinder and more understanding and let nothing other than love come through me but I need strength, and I need my hands to stop shaking, and my thoughts to stop racing.

[drowning4youu]

some of the saddest phrases in the English language: - but you promised - ive never told anyone - i can’t do it - i tried - i trusted you - why did you do this to me - why am i not good enough - it still hurts - i can’t keep pretending

[the--quote--notebook]

Icarus. The original myth had two parts, Daedalus said to his son, “I fashioned these wings for you. Two rules. Don’t fly too high, or the sun will melt the wax. But, more important, son, don’t fly too low. Because if you fly too low, the water and the waves will surely weigh down the wings, and you will die.” We’ve left out the second part of the myth. We don’t say to people anymore, “Don’t fly too low.” All we do from the time they are four years old is warn them against hubris. We have created this industrially led structure that says: How dare you.

Seth Godin (via the--quote--notebook)

[micdotcom]

[words-of-emotion]

Good Vibes here

[afadthatlastsforever]

I like to think that loneliness is just the echo of missing a person you haven’t had the pleasure of meeting quite yet.

Beau Taplin • T h e  E c h o  (via afadthatlastsforever)

[mingdliu-deactivated20210422]

Life, eventually is a four lettered word. You can live in all the fancy apartments and buy the most expensive watch, yet, money is still paper you can replace. People find themselves attached to materialistic things, confusing them for feelings of being rich and wealthy but being rich - being truly rich is being fortunate enough to having souls you call home and inexplicable feelings no new furniture or phone can replace. Your life isn’t defined by what kind of wines you buy or where you bought your shirt. It’s not which restaurants you choose to dine in or how often you can afford vacations. It’s the way you can choose to approach people whether you have a dollar in your pocket or more than enough to buy ten dinners. When you pass, you want to be remembered as being someone who lived well, who lived with kindness in their soul, so much you could burn the sun for outshining it. It’s the moments you spend touching others, and if you can change people’s worlds, even if it’s just planting new flowers in the garden of someone who doesn’t believe they have a green thumb, then you are living well.

Ming D. Liu, September 1st, 2016

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[caramelcoatedxxxtacy]

I’m not the girl your mother warns you about. I won’t kiss your best friend or break your heart. I won’t make you choose between what you love to do & me. I’m not cold. I’m not reckless. I’m the girl your father mentions when your mom’s not around. I’m the girl that gets away. I will love you more than anything. I will kiss you when you cry. I will stand by your side until you decide otherwise. And you’re just like your father, so you will. You’ll let me go & I won’t look back, But you will. I promise you, you will. I’m that girl.

http://caramelcoatedxxxtacy.tumblr.com/ (via caramelcoatedxxxtacy)

[poems-and-words]

[poems-and-words]

Book of the day: The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman

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[saramlyons]

[eataku]

Pork is not widely eaten in Indonesia for religious reasons, but there are places that do cook and serve it. And when they do it, they do it right. Like these Rejeki pork rinds… light, crisp and meaty… some of the best I have ever had!!