Will Smith WAG (Families and relationship dynamics)
I've been sharing my humble and worthless opinions on people's asks for a while but now the college is over, I'm bored so I'm back to writing some (unnecessarily long) RPF thoughts and ramblings.
Will Smith wants to be a WAG!
Now, one thing we should remember about Will is that he was born into kind of a matriarchy. His mom comes from an influencial family, her mother's side include women who ran a baseball team which was unheard of, and we know she has the money and is the organizer extraordinaire with her spreadsheets and micro controlling tendencies.
About USNTDP, I have many many opinions but one thing I should say... I understand her. I think we people think it's weird because we're used to what's "normal" in hockey culture and most of us aren't a parent figure so we don't know what it's like, but I'd never send my son to a program like that without me being involved in a way that I can surveil on him and watch what he is doing and how he's treated. So his family, because they're not a hockey family, are more traditional in that sense. And while I was thinking of it, I wouldn't send my son to USNTDP period, but she did, because that's what her son wants. I was thinking about the "I hoped Will would be a baseball player" a lot because... Well, why didn't she make it happen? Will seemed to be decent at it, played it as a kid and liked it well enough that with his family's push he might have gone for it, but they didn't push simply because he liked hockey more. Same with Boston College, many generations of Smiths went to Boston College but he was committed to Northeastern and switched to BC when he himself wanted to.
However, it is true that his family are there to an extent where he "didn't have a chance to get homesick," with a big flock of people in Boston or in Chicago, and even to his softball celebrity charity game just because. It seems to me like Will is in a limbo of "freedom and no freedom" and even he himself probably doesn't know where he stands. But he's "always a good sport" about a big family group coming to watch him, includes his parents and his sister to his outings with his teammates and friends, hangs out with her sister's friends during off-season. When talking about living with Marleau, he focuses on what "a good family it is," hangs out with his older and married teammate's houses and with their kids and pets.
Overall, he seems like a family guy who likes nothing more than slot himself into a familial space. But in his family, the dynamics and the ropes seem to be more in his mother's hands, not in his father's like we're used to in traditional Catholic families. His dad is almost always in the background, we don't know much about him, we often don't see him, and even in Colleen's podcast we didn't hear about him much expect for the fact that he's spent 8 hours a day with Will and Mack, and that Will sent him to the grocery store because he has to make Dubai chocolate. And Will, interestingly, seems to resemble his mom and sister, except for hockey which his dad (voluntarily or involuntarily) caused.
He likes baking. His mom is the ultimate organiser, Will is the one who drags everyone to do things together, launches a book club, plans everything and if someone else tries he gets angry. His sister likes going out for dinners and drinking, Will likes finding cafes and famous restaurants to try. He shares his white girl music taste with his sister. His sister watches cringy dating shows and romcoms, well, Will likes romcoms and watches in awe as the Ottowa Senators try to set people up. He also seems to have perfect manners, and is so charming that even Drake Maye himself isn't immune to his powers.
He is also loved by the WAGs, Cat trusts him to get the guys together to surprise his husband, he has a thousand pictures of him with Stella and shares an Instagram story flaunting his banana bread, he would apparently love being included in the WAG chat, wants to bake with THE baker WAG Ann Micheal Maye herself, buys Christina Marleau flowers for mother's day and Mrs. Marleau brags about his Dubai chocolate on Instagram and takes photos with the WAGs in Halloween with his (boy)friend.
And he also is very cheap, wants people (or Mack) to pay for his Chipotle, asks for his sister's Netflix password, AND he watches in quiet satisfaction as Zeev Buium relays his order.
But where does being a WAG come into the play? Well, to be a WAG, you need a husband.
And while Will is off charming families, looking after kids and dogs and being all around cutesy, Mack is right there next to him ALL. THE. TIME.
Cat Toffoli can count with one hand the times where they didn't come over to the Toffoli house together, "they have these families they like being with", Felicia's domestic af Instagram stories, oh, wait Marleau's domestic af Instagram stories, them looking like they want to steal some kids and relive their domestic fantasies. And he's also emotionally aware enough to not celebrate US' victory publicly except to acknowledge the homage for Gaudreau and flaunts his husband's Canada stick front and center on his collection in which he also has Patrick Kane, Auston Matthews, Skjei and Hayes sticks.
So now, our beloved Will, who is just like his mom and his sister, who the WAGs love and treat as if he's one of their own, what is he supposed to think when he sees Mack eat most of his banana bread, let himself get dragged to cutesy cafes and expensive restaurants, fill out their dinner book, drink espresso martinis with a rando for his birthday, go crazy for a legal hit on him, play with kids right in front of him and roughhousing with them except that Mack is just like his husband and Will is just like his wife? And what is he supposed to do when his husband is going to become the captain of the team next season and if he is the captain's "wife," he'll have all this power to organise dinners and parties and jackets and caring for the rookies and their girlfriends which is everything he's dreamed of when he was watching Cat decorate and prepare for that big Thanksgiving dinner or when he was watching his mom prepare for Christmas? Well, we'll see that next season.
Simply, Will looks at his and Mack's dynamic, and sees himself as the Cat Toffoli, Christina Marleau and Ann Micheal Maye.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
Unfortunately, I am way too lazy to add links for everything I've mentioned here but special thanks to @liviecurated and @puckbunnybutmakeitgay who inspired this post, @keelpay for the big archive and @plightofthepyrite for Grace notes :)