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“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” —Mary Manin Morrissey #ThingsItTakesAWhileToUnderstand ✨ artwork by Eno Swinnen

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“The most valuable thing I learned doing a Masters degree with depression, anxiety and ADHD was to change my ‘things I’m bad at’ list to 'things I can’t do on my own.’ Stop thinking of them as things you could do if you tried hard enough, and accept that you can’t accomplish them by effort and willpower alone; they’re genuine neurocognitive deficits, and if you need to do the thing, then just like a blind person reading or a mobility impaired person going up a storey in a building, you need to find a different method.

I’m 'bad at’ working on long-term projects without an imminent deadline or someone breathing down my neck? Okay, let’s change that: I can’t work on long-term projects without an imminent deadline and someone breathing down my neck. So let’s create an imminent deadline and recruit neck-breathers. Find a sympathetic professor who will agree that 3 weeks before the due date they expect you to show them my preliminary notes and bibliography. Get a friend you trust to block off an hour to sit with you and keep asking, 'Are you working on your project?’ Write a blog post about your progress. Arrange to trade papers and proofread them with another student. Accept your limitations and learn to leverage them, instead of buying the neurotypical fairytale that they’ll go away if you just try hard enough.” - star-anise ••• artwork by Adams Carvalho

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“Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another—they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives—they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love’s leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't—they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path. Readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover.” ―Jeff Brown #ThingsItTakesAWhileToUnderstand

artwork by Sara Andreasson

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Just because I love you with all my heart does not mean I trust you. You have spoken lies, so many lies. I simply cannot trust you, I’m sorry.

Lynette Simeone (via wordsnquotes)

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The Science Behind Healing a Broken Heart

There are very few ways to soften the blows that come with heartbreak. Love is a powerful emotion that ties two souls together intimately and when that suddenly disappears, it’s hard to put the pieces of your former self together. This situation often leaves you with a barrage of unanswered questions, and the guilt of whether you were responsible for their abandonment. If you are struggling, we assure you getting back up is extemely possible.

How do you start over? How can you possibly think about recovery when you feel broken? How do you pick yourself up gently?

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