The Man Who Spoke Many Languages, and Said the Same Words —— [ Epilogue ]
After he deleted me, I was very sad and tried to find him. I found a girl named Ea who had previously been in contact with Vasja, and Ea told me a very shocking new. Vasja has always had a stable girlfriend! And Vasja has also had ambiguous love stories with her and shared the same photos with her! During the past two years, he has been dating his girlfriend while maintaining an ambiguous relationship with both of us girls.
However, what shocked me even more was something I discovered later! I discovered that he had been chatting with many women on the language exchange app (Tandem), and the comments they left on his profile all described him as polite, gentle, and knowledgeable – exactly the same way I had described him before!！From 2020 to 2024, almost every year, different women have written positive reviews about him, some of which are very intimate and even beyond the boundaries of ordinary language partners. I realized that my experience may not have been accidental, but rather Vasja developed a repetitive interaction pattern through long-term connections with various women, allowing him to establish emotionally intimate relationships with different women at the same time.
He has established a gentle, polite, and knowledgeable image of himself by sharing books, music, and movies with you, discussing art, philosophy, and politics, and showcasing his multilingual abilities. He shares with you his daily life, photos of two cats, and his own selfies (one-third of the photos he sent me are his selfies), etc. These daily online contacts establish an intimate relationship with you. Then he will say sweet words to you, calling you "baby", "sweetheart", "princess". And he is good at showing that he likes and understands you, making you feel like you have met your soulmate. These are the behavioral patterns that I later observed him repeatedly using towards different women.
Because of female intuition, I have also doubted Vasja's behavior before. I always feel that he is very good at understanding women's psychology and is also familiar with their interests and hobbies. These understandings go beyond what ordinary men know about women. And often, the interest he shows you is more like an excuse for him to show off his extensive knowledge. When I suspected that he might be in contact with other women, he showed a lot of anger, yes, anger! I thought it was a misunderstanding and didn't think about it carefully. Looking back now, his anger probably stemmed from my questioning of his perfect persona!
This happened six months ago. As far as I know, Vasja is still active on various social media platforms. He doesn't believe in pure friendship between men and women, but he thoroughly enjoyed the attention and praise he received from various women. so I want to remind other women: there are many selfish, narcissistic, and irresponsible people on the internet who don't care about others' feelings and don't know how to respect others. What we can do is not to change them, but to identify and protect ourselves earlier and more clearly.
Of course, this situation is rare, I believe most people are still kind and friendly. This is not to expose a specific person, but to hope that this story can help others detect similar patterns early on and protect themselves in online emotional relationships. Thank you all for reading，wishing everyone all the best and everything goes smoothly. 🙏