The Bakery

"ACT 2: Throw rocks at him" He/Him, They/them. Mothman gives me gender envy.

[mothsbakery]

June 10th update:

I'm staying but severally limiting my activity I spend on here. I got a real nasty habit overexposing myself to the Internet and freaking out the smallest bad thing.

Basically I got an addiction to social media and I need to work on it if I wanna get better. I already have time limits on the apps that give me the most issues which include this one.

[mothsbakery]

I wanna thank my friends and the few family members who did try to make an effort on using my preferred name and pronouns when I came out at age 16

[mothsbakery]

I'm saying this because like I gave up on correcting my mom on it, when I told her I wanted to go by Moth she just immediately complained to me about it. I added he/him because her and I would argue about they/them only to be continuously told that I can't be transmasc when I haven't tried being feminine.

She probably meant this as like a joke but I semi vented how I wanted to start physically transition but knowing she won't react to it well keeps me from actually going through with it. She said "I'm sorry that I'm preventing you from being what you are" or something I can't remember exactly I've been feeling kinda shitty about it.

[mothsbakery]

I wanna thank my friends and the few family members who did try to make an effort on using my preferred name and pronouns when I came out at age 16

[mothsbakery]

"Kris's gender is up to the player"

Buddy, we already take away their autonomy granted we don't do it willingly because if it was up to us we would be using our vessel, but that's besides the point. Now you want us to take away their gender?

[yagamimi-aka-mimi-deactivated20]

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Something like this would be so colossally helpful. I'm sick and tired of trying to research specific clothing from any given culture and being met with either racist stereotypical costumes worn by yt people or ai generated garbage nonsense, and trying to be hyper specific with searches yields fuck all. Like I generally just cannot trust the legitimacy of most search results at this point. It's extremely frustrating. If there are good resources for this then they're buried deep under all the other bullshit, and idk where to start looking.

[ama-kitkat123]

>:)c

May I present to you, nationalclothing.org?

It doesn't have everything, but it's still my first source when researching traditional clothing from other cultures.

[penanatomy-studies]

There's also this resource on historical fashion: Claire’s Historical Fashion Reference & Resources

[zheida]

another addition as far as physical media goes there is the encyclopedia of national dress (that i still need to buy myself bc this kind of thing is super important to my sort of fantasy designing) but yes i do agree i wish there was EVEN MORE documentation on this

[iascus]

Reblogging to spread awareness

[my-art-tutorial-blog]

the goldmine folks

[mothsbakery]

Idk man a character discovering they can make their own decisions in life that may or not result in them going from male to female might actually be a solid character arc for said Character

This post is about Ralsei deltarune.

[mothsbakery]

I got 3 more to do tomorrow hopefully I'll have their stuff ready before art fight but y'know.

[mothsbakery]

Because I know there's a chance of me having a freak out over stupid shit there's always a chance but if you ever see me doing it:

Do not reassure me, I'm looking at you in the eyes, telling you bc I know some of my friends follow me on here, if I'm having my dumb little anxiety spirals do not reassure me. If I seem to be searching for validation/reassurance do not give it to me, I don't want to stress you out and I need to learn how to sit with being uncomfortable because I really regressed in my ability to do that.

[mothsbakery]

Me playing deltarune chapter 4: oooh I can move on my own hehehehe :3

Kris: [collapses]

Me: oH FUCK NO WAIT DON'T DIE PLEASE DONT DO THAT.

[mothsbakery]

Yea ok

[mothsbakery]

I am the sufferer of "if I get the slightest amount of pushback/rejection I will kill myself" thought process and it's not healthy. I don't like doing it, i don't like putting the people who care about me through it and most of the time it's over stupid shit it's not funny. I'm trying to work on it, trying to reduce the emotional impact I have on others.

It's hard to do. It's hard when the people around irl only tell you about how disappointed and how they see no change in you. But im trying.

I'm trying.

That's the best I can do right?

It's not an excuse. It's not a justification of my shitty behavior when I'm doing a shitty thing. I shouldn't expect people to allow me to walk all over them because I can't control myself. But I'm not an evil person. I'm not, really. I'm a person who has a lot of complicated things going on in their head, and those things might cause me to harm people when I don't mean to, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't own up to the harm I've caused.

I need to try being comfortable with being uncomfortable, I need to be comfortable with taking responsibility. Learn how to direct that energy to something else, learn how to just accept things and move on.

[mothsbakery]

I remembered trauma center Existed

[sandersstudies]

Sick list of symptoms bro. Now try humanizing your behavior instead of pathologizing it.

[sandersstudies]

Pathologizing: Hey sorry I yelled at you. I have this ADHD symptom called RSD that makes me really sensitive.

Humanizing: Hey, I’m sorry that I blew up like that earlier. In the moment I felt really attacked and overwhelmed and I reacted badly, but I know you didn’t mean to offend me with what you said, so that behavior is on me.

[queer-asinfuckyou]

Because I just saw a post bitching about this one, I want to add: this post is saying that you need to take accountability for the way you hurt other people, even if it happens because of a symptom of your disability/illness. It's also saying that using terms (especially acronyms) that aren't common knowledge isn't a helpful way to explain yourself. It is NOT saying that you need to let people walk all over you because "your disability isn't an excuse."

If you're diabetic, you don't have to eat the honey glazed ham that will send you into a coma (their example). But you also can't yell at the person offering it and accuse them of trying to kill you. You can just say "thanks, but my body can't handle that kind of sugar intake, so I'll pass"

[ayin-me-yesh]

If you run over someone's foot with your wheelchair you still apologise

[alchemistdoctor]

I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.

[mothsbakery]

is imitating ds's art style supposed to make me want to kill myself/hj

[mothsbakery]

ok sorry for like vent post 2 days in a row, but im okayish now, as long as i dont say anything stupid and someone flips out because of my stupidity. like not just posting but scrolling and browsing, tumblr and other other social medias fuck with my brain, its great til its not. and your brain has attached itself to every person around ya, and the moment that interaction is negative you feel liek the worlds coming to an end, then a few days later your brain is like normal again, wash rinse repeat, its not healthy, its not normal, and it fucking sucks. I need a damn job, I need something to occupy the time when im not in school, fuck sometimes i just wanna go somewhere where its hard to get internet access so i aint checking my devices 800 thousand times for that dopemine hit.

i wanna have a healthier relationship with myself and my friends, and how i engage with social media. I need to remind myself that people dont know me personally and not every stupid thing i say is gonna be used against me. like my freak out 2 days ago was so fucking stupid ngl.

[mothsbakery]

one of my friends said my mock up for winters sprite looks like jerma a bit so i made this