Somethings I’ve learned about life...
As I get older, I get wiser, and I get more in tune with myself. I’ve learned a lot of good things over the last few years. I only wish I would have paid more attention to the “lessons” being taught at the time of their teaching. But now as I sit back and reflect, it all comes full circle.
1. Stress is just that, stress. Depending on how you choose to let it effect you and your mood. You can look at it as something minuscule that you will overcome, or you can look at it like something that is ultimately going to consume you. The key word in this whole mini paragraph is YOU. You control how you let things effect you.
2. Self love is the most important love. A lot of the time we are not self centered enough. We seek attention, validation and most importantly love from other people. Too many times I have found pleasure, acceptance, and validation from someone other than myself, its really sad and makes me feel pathetic. Many a times I’ve heard that you will nvr accept love from someone else until you truly do love yourself. I believe this. People need to practice loving themselves, ,especially women. Too many times we are objectified and we end up objectifying ourselves as if we are not people, who are capable or worthy of love. Not only externally but internally as well.
3. Things come and go. All things go. They really do, if there is anything I have learned being in my early 20′s, is that everything is temporary. Relationships, positions, situations, arrangements, emotions, etc. Everything is subject to change and growth. Nothing stays the same forever and if it does, that should scare you, and if it doesn’t that should scare you even more. You should change with the times as well, all situations in life are experiences that come with lessons to be learned. After all you’re supposed to GROW thru life not GO thru life.
4. Sometimes the best and only company to keep for yourself is your own. Speaking from my own personal experience, I have tried to fill a void with the company of other people. I have tried to bury and hide my pain in the comfort of another human being. This is only a temporary escape and it does not work. You end up feeling worse and ultimately you end up feeling more alone when your in the presence of another person. Its okay to be what someone will call you, selfish. Its okay to want to exclude the world and get closer to yourself, its okay to want to do some soul searching. Its okay to be alone. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you’re making the wrong choice, only you kno whats best for you. Never second guess it.
5. Never give up. Times get tough, you bet your ass they do. Life gets hard and it brings you to your knees, believe me. There are going to be days where you don’t want to get up from bed. The good stuff in life does not come easy, I kno this from personal experience. But if it wasn’t for those bad days, we wouldn’t be grateful for the good days where we are nothing but thankful that we woke up and jumped out of bed. There are going to be days so sweet it’ll make your teeth hurt, but we must always remember that there would be no sunshine if there was no rain. You have to be stronger than the situations you are dealt. You have to put your big girl panties on, you have to hold you own, you have to buck the fuck and get thru it. I promise you nothing feels better than the feeling of perseverance, overcoming, and accomplishment. Be your biggest supporter. God gives his strongest battles to his toughest soldiers. Never ever forget that.
I’m still very young and kno that I have a lifetime worth of knowledge that I have yet to gain. But these things that I’ve picked up along the way have been crucial to my growth into the woman that I am today w/ the character that I have. I’m just like anyone else… taking it day by day trying to find my place in this world.
-Mariah Moonette. (1/17/16)
