The fifteen circumstances where you can roll an XP Action are as follows:
Meaningful Communication: . . . when you’re having that
Need—Spotted!: . . . when you’ve identified someone’s needs
Request: . . . when you want to make a request
Strong Feelings: . . . when you feel something strongly.
Anger/Judgment: . . . when you’re feeling angry/judgmental.
Stress: . . . when your world is out of order.
Unmet Needs: . . . when you have unmet needs
Not Up For This: . . . when you’re just not up for empathy/NVC right now.
Definitive: . . . when you’re taking a big step or risk
Exploration: . . . when you’re exploring something
Pleasant Work: . . . when you’re doing something ordinary in the world
Readiness: . . . when there’s no time to communicate, and you must use force
There’s More Here: . . . when you might be able to learn more about something
Trouble: . . . when you’re in trouble!
Unpleasant Work: . . . when you’re doing something because you “have to.”
Being Introduced for Active Playtest
Attention: . . . when your attention is caught by someone’s adventures.
Divergence: . . . when something’s different where you are, or is about to be.
Resources: . . . now and then.
So if your character is feeling bad, take a moment to figure out whether you’re feeling angry or judgmental, or if you have unmet needs, or if your world is out of order. If you’re just chatting, keep an eye out for meaningful communication, spotting people’s needs, making requests, and strong feelings. If you’re not up for NVC stuff, but that’s a purely in-character feeling, you might try the Not Up For This action and see where it leads you!
Meanwhile, the last seven actions are there for your adventures on the island. When you’re playing through those adventures with a GM, or making them up, keep an eye out for opportunities to learn more about something in the world, take a big step or risk, do something ordinary, be in trouble, explore, or do something because you “have to.” And if you might need to use force—well, check whether you really need to use force! There’s an action for that, if you really do.
I don’t have a problem with your crossing the streams a little—making a request of an NPC, in your adventures in the world, or doing the unpleasant work of replying to someone’s post—but I’m not expecting you to do so until you’re familiar with the actions.
You can earn up to 2 XP per chapter from XP Actions.