had to share this
some white fans are genuinely pissing me the f off, they keep talking about stuff they genuinely do not get because the latino culture around the idea of family is completely different from those of white cultures. you can’t just walk away from your family that easily or completely cut off family members just because they are mean to you sometimes. you’re not going to label your family members as abusive or bad people because they have flaws and make lots of mistakes that’s not how it works for most of us.
Even though I did not know the term before, I got the feeling of it.
Basically our parents, grandparents having dealt with different trauma than their children and/or grandchildren in the present.
Think about the Maslow Pyramid (you can seach it up and just in case I’ll add it down below)
I’ll keep using Encanto as the example (as with it, things will be easier to explain ((and I hope that to understand as well)))
So, basically Abuelita Alma was preocupied worrying about keeping the Miracle safe, the casita, her family. Because of the horrible things she had escaped from (and which took her husband away). She doesn’t want it to happen again, and has that as a reference, so she’s in terror of it disapearing. (Thus, we can say, bottom two levels in the pyramid).
But as time passes, and the context and environment changes (and thankfully for the better), other necessities arise. The Madrigal cousings do not have the fear of being unsafe, going without food or other uncertainties Abuela Alma used to have when she was younger and was left with three babies. The Madrigal cousings need other things, and that is whats present in both Luisa’s and Isabela’s songs and Mirabel’s whole journey in the movie (I do not doubt Dolores, Camilo, 2nd generation Pepa and Julieta, hell BRUNOOO poor baby, needed attention too), more specifically, emotional support, communication, etc.
What I have to add is something that I haven't heard but still important (In LATAM, can be brought to Encanto):
Older generations, for lack of a better word, do not understand, get, or comprehend trauma in younger generations. Sometimes, they think: “oh, I had it so much worse, so this is nothing to concern over”.
NOT TO SAY THAT ONE OR OTHER TRAUMA IS WORSE OR LESSER THAT ANOTHER
(All of the are valid)
Is just, only because it was so much worse, and great-grandfather wasn’t around (and probably forced upon great- grandma), and grandpa beat you dad, and you don’t lay a hand on me, doesn’t mean I shoud not be upset about not being able to ask a cashier an order without panicking for the longest time.
What I’m trying to say is, like the pyramid and as different necessities arise, so should things should be prioritized.
Wanted to conclede with something I read elsewhere: it is valid to understand Abuela Alma’s reasons , because of her trauma and that she had good intentions deep down. AND ALSO valid to think that the triplets and grandchildren of Madrigals family needed to be listened, loved unconditionally, and be their own person, emotional support and communication.
(ps. I’m NOT saying this only happens in LATAM, but as I live there, I can only speak for that place)
(ps 2. Thank u who ever read everything o3o)
