Do you have any advice for times when youāre stressing about something to an irrational degree but canāt get rid of that little doomsday voice in the back of your head egging your stress on?
i DO have some advice for this, because despite my ~super chill vibe~ (lmao) this happens to me all the time. here is what i, personally do; it may not help you, and if it doesnāt, thatās okay. we all need different things.
go for a walk (or a run). i donāt mean like, walk around your office building a couple times, i mean put your headphones in and walk for a while.Ā think whatever you want. donāt try not to think about the doomsday voice; let it have its moment while youāre walking. itāll tire itself out.
if you donāt have time to do that, try to go to a quiet place. let yourself be anxious for a minute. ask yourself: okay. if X thing is true, what can i do about it? if the answer is,Ā ānothing,ā then maybe itās the nihilist in me but often iām able to be like,Ā āok then! guess iāll dieā and some of the anxiety fades. if there ARE steps i can take ā send an email, make a spreadsheet, call my apartment building manager and ask them to check that i havenāt left the oven on ā then i take those steps. it might not totally get rid of your anxiety but it does at least make me feel like iāve done what i can do so iām not just stewing in it.
write down every doomsday thought iām having ā maybe in an email to a friend, maybe just in a notebook if i donāt want to share. sometimes seeing them all written down is really helpful to me in the sense of like, reading them over and realizing that oh, those are real crazy thoughts iām having. if they donāt immediately jump out as crazy, i take them one by one, with two columns. one column isĀ āwhat evidence suggests this is true?ā and the other isĀ āwhat evidence suggests this is not true?ā more often then not, by the end of the exercise my brain has calmed tf down.
this one FEELS really silly, and it only works for me if iām having a kind of generalized anxiety that isnāt actually about anything in particular, but it DOES work. so i write something soothing (the phrase a therapist gave me once that i still use isĀ āi am safe i am well i trust the process of lifeā but iām pretty sure you could use any cheerful phrase you want) over and over and over again like jack nicholson in the shining. the key here is that i write it in cursive, without lifting my pen from the page. the repetitive and very soothing motions usually help a lot.
i hope these help!! and as always if this is a repeat problem for you and you arenāt already, consider seeing a therapist. i genuinely believe everyone in the world should see a therapist, even if youāre like, doing fine. good luck, bluebell! <3
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