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[spiritualseeker777]

[sissywhorediaries-deactivated20]

[masterxdanx]

[screaming--agony]

You bring out the worst in me. I’ve been pretty quiet on a lot, I don’t really like drama but I’m wholeheartedly tired of hearing you play the victim when you won’t take any accountability for anything you said or did. You speak so highly of yourself during a period of time and talk so low and disrespectful to the other person. You twist the truth to fit your narrative and self-sabotage. You keep saying other people cheated and used you. I believe you have a guilty conscience. I was there for you during your dark times, but you gaslit me into mine. I came to you sobbing and all you said was to go cut myself. You never bothered to talk to me or read anything I said, you made jokes and belittled me. I tried so hard to be enough for you but you strayed off to someone else and cheated. I didn’t know about it until recently. Or I wouldn’t have stayed in contact, to be there for you, to give you advice on your relationship that you sucked me into. I wouldn’t have continued to listen. I wouldn’t have let you play me like a fiddle. You act like a Saint and as if you did nothing wrong. But you don’t share the other side, the side where you were toxic. People tried to open doors for you but you didn’t walk through them, you just lit fires at the entrance. You can’t disrespect and belittle your partner and wonder why they closed your door. I’m sure there’s someone out there for you. But things for you aren’t going to change unless you take accountability for your words and actions. Healing is accepting and you don’t accept. You don’t move on. You would probably have a positive mindset if you stopped self-sabotaging. You made me realize a lot in our fallout. I deserve to be heard. I deserve to be understood. I deserve loyalty. You weren’t cheated on. No matter how much you try to spin the facts, you had a loyal partner. Who is now happy in their life, trying to move on. You sucked me into your relationship for so long, I saw everything. Every misunderstanding, every word shared, every heated argument. All of it. I witnessed everything. I could have been your couples therapist. And you try to spin it all even when there’s facts “receipts” to counter your lies and false beliefs. You aren’t a victim. Everything you portray others to be, is what you are. It’s who you are. It isn’t okay to treat a human like they are less than dirt. It’s never okay to tell someone to cut themselves or go die. It’s never okay to call someone hateful names during an argument or take low blow jabs with information you were told in private to use it against them. I always hoped that you would be the positive person I thought you could be but you keep showing me that you won’t ever change. You won’t ever have self-reflection or healing unless you accept it all. I’m not saying you are a bad person, you do have good qualities and there’s moments where there is positivity. But your lies. Your victim act of being cheated on and used and lied to. You did it all, willingly and repeatedly. You never admit your wrongs. I never cheated on you. I loved you unconditionally. I put your wants first and put mine on the back burner. I never tried so hard to make things work. No relationship is perfect. But I deserve better. And I found a better influence. No cheating involved. Time passed and simple communication happened. I found a person who is understanding and wants to understand when things aren’t clear. I found a person who doesn’t make me feel like I want to die. I found a person who doesn’t make me feel like a burden when my anxiety is high, they are there for me and reminding me to breathe. I know all the stories you spin are lies because you threw me into your relationship when things were rocky. I know if you took accountability for yourself, maybe you could finally heal instead of dwelling and entertaining thoughts that aren’t real. You said to stay out of your life which I would love nothing more but you keep popping into mine. So maybe stay out of my life? Respectively fuck off.

[mortalityplays]

one of the most important things, perhaps the most important thing I have learned in my life is that nice people can fuck each other up in monstrous ways. people can be bone deep kind and loving and self reflective and still lash out under pressure. people can be earnestly neighbourly and charitable and hospitable and generous and still find themselves in situations where they become selfish. people can be well meaning and easygoing and gregarious and hold deep seated opinions that turn them into vicious little bullies under the right conditions. nobody is just one thing, and nobody stays one way. every person is a kaleidoscope and they will surprise you. you will surprise yourself. it's not a warning and it's not a judgement and it's not an excuse, and it's certainly not a reason to stop trying or to stop trusting. it is just a fact.

[an-experienced-gentleman]

Integrity. Character. Honesty. These things matter.

Six Sexy Words

[bouncinghedgehoghasattitude]

[snapshay023-deactivated20240416]

Dominance is…

Dominance is being there for her.

Dominance is working through her meltdowns.

Dominance is accepting her, especially when she won't accept herself.

Dominance is telling her no.

Dominance is quieting her demons.

Dominance is being her bastion of strength.

Dominance is encouraging her.

Dominance is comforting her.

Dominance is guiding her.

Dominance is building her.

[feistygrl-deactivated20250705]

[mysirspet]

Found mine

[masterxdanx]

[mysirspet]

Especially that message I sent this morning 🤤

[angelkitty72]

[mysirspet]

Maybe 😏

[onelittlekingdom]

Dear Aspiring Doms

Every submissive person contains their personal Owner's Manual within themselves.

You have to get it from them, to be aware of how they work, and what uses they may have to you.

You access the Owner's Manual, by asking questions, and listening to your submissive partner.

Every Owner's Manual will be different, because every submissive person is different. There is no "Universal Owner's Manual For Subs"

As time goes by, and you consume more of your submissive's Owner's Manual, you will understand how to better care for your submissive, and how you may make the best use of them, for yourself.

Finally, never stop consulting the Owner's Manual, because it will change. Edits will occur. Entire sections of the manual may get revised during your ownership. Stay up to date. There is always more to learn.

Good luck.

[h0twifelover]

At the end of the day it's the sub that chooses the dom don't get that confused guys

[yesdaddyhi-deactivated20240518]

Read this before you come into my DM’s all aggressive and demanding.

[anobedienceeducator]

Good Owners learn to read the changes on the fly.

Bad owners don't even know there's a manual.

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in People 💚

They speak clearly, listen to you carefully, and are honest when they talk.

They understand and respect your personal space and limits.

They show they understand and care about your feelings and what you're going through.

You can count on them because they do what they say they will.

They know what they're feeling and handle their emotions well. They also understand how you feel.

They have their own hobbies, friends, and things they like to do.

They help you and are excited when good things happen to you.

They stay calm and solve problems without being mean or avoiding them.

You both like some of the same things and believe in similar ideas.

They admit when they make a mistake and don't blame others all the time.

They generally look on the bright side of life but are still realistic.

They are open to new ideas and want to keep getting better.

You feel happy and full of energy after spending time with them.

You don't have to act differently; you can be who you really are.

When you're with them, you don't worry and feel secure.

You don't have to be careful with your words; you can say what you think.

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

[217truckdrivinman]

[thoughtkick]

“Love isn’t only love, sweetheart. It’s hard work, and trust, and tears, with even a few glimpses of devastation. But at the end of each day, if you can still look at the person at your side and can’t imagine anyone else you’d rather have there, the pain, the heartache and the ups and downs of love are worth it.”

— Nicole Williams

[217truckdrivinman]