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“I’m Not Getting Old! I’m Getting Better”
When I was 16, I had envisioned that by the time I was 23, I’d have a degree, engaged and ready to marry the love of my life. Who was I kidding ? 😂
7 years later, I am still single, praying for Mr, to open his eyes , looking for work, and living out of a suitcase, some may say “living my best life”!
“The preparations of the heart in man, and the…
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“Love yourself first because that’s who’ll be spending the rest of your life with.”
What is self love?
There are many ways to define self love and express it. It could be by simply loving yourself enough that you maintain your body, physically, mentally and spiritually above all else. If you want to get a more defined meaning it simply means to take care of your well being and happiness.
When was the last time you were truly happy with being you?
The truth is for me it was honestly just recently that I began to truly understand that self love didn’t only mean having ‘me’ times, treating myself to a mani/pedi, loving how good I looked in a pic because of the right filter/lighting but that it also meant loving & fully embracing the things I wish I could change.
We all face our own demons/mountains in silence. And in the age we are currently growing up in, social media plays a huge role in why it’s more important to have a self love above or else.
For as long as I can remember i’ve always struggled with my identity and really being proud of my background. I’ve never really said this out loud or truly spoken about it to anyone, but as I sit here and write this I’m also learning something new about myself. What sparked this idea of writing this post today and sharing it with you all was another blogger’s post on instagram #SeraSituations and how she to, I quote “coming to terms with the fact that I haven’t always been proud to be a Pacific Islander.” I realised after reading this post, that I too grew up and struggled with being identified as Fijian for a very long time.
Growing up in an area emerged in rich Asian culture (Canterbury/Campsie) from preschool to primary school, my friends were either from a Vietnamese or Chinese background. I knew I was always envious of their straight hair, that I began to hate my wavy thick silky mane. So for many years, I struggled with embracing and loving my hair. I remember (and my mother never misses to reminds me this) when I was 6 years old, I was cheeky as they come and cried to my Uncle that has always spoiled me since day one, to take me to the hair salon to dye my hair red. And my wish was his command. Got it done and my mother was yet again forever right 🙄🤣. My silky wavy thick hair was ruined forever. At the time i didn’t care about the texture because I just wanted it to be red.
Fast forward to Year 5/6, I was then introduced to the ironing technique. Our family friend used to pick us up after school and we’d hang out at their house till my mother finished work. One day they decided to experiment on my hair in straightening it with the clothing iron. Lets just say for the next 4 years I slowly killed my hair even more by straightening it every single day. Not even exaggerating. On top of that i’d relax my hair so every 3 months or whenever I began to see a wave or curl peep through my baby hairs. What more could a 11 year old girl need then more tools to further tear down the art of self love and to every aspect of being Fijian?
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A big part of our identity is our hair. It is part of what makes us, us. Anyways, reached high school and that’s when my circle changed and I began to really associate with other Pacific Islanders. My best friends at the time all had beautiful straight hair and then there was me with this thick, wavy, springy/frizzy hair texture. I also remember that I wasn’t 100% happy with being called Fijian in school. I don’t blame anyone but myself, for this type of mentality. One thing I wish I could have that may perhaps could’ve prevented this sort of sense of confusion or alienation is having other Fijian friends in school, rather then only seeing them on the weekends. Five days a week I was with Samoans and Tongans and of course other ethnicity but majority of my time was with my fellow P.I brothers and sisters. It was like as soon as I stepped into the gates of my high school, I left my culture and background outside, and then adopted my friends backgrounds. I remember my best friend use to ask me to teach them a traditional Fijian meke and id guise the question and pretend that I didn’t hear her. And so the entire time I was in high school I or we only ever did a Siva or hula. It was only after graduating when my sister asked me for some help in choreographing a meke to teach her friends.. I only hoped that I could’ve gone back and taken the opportunity to also teach my friends.
Like I said in the beginning, I’m only coming to realisation of my actions and behaviour as a teenager as I am writing this and thinking back at how my perspectives & values have majorly changed for the better.
I started off this blog post with a brief history in my struggle to find my identity because I strongly believe that in order to have self love you need to know truly who you are, why you’re here and have some sort of understanding of your purpose. I feel that if you don’t know who you are then how can you truly love yourself?
For the last year and a half I’ve been slowly going on the hair journey of going natural. Which basically means, not using any chemicals or heat to the hair. And as of February 2018 my hair length was longer then usual. Yes your girl was super excited because the last time I seen my natural hair reach past my shoulders was in 2008 (the picture above). (Shit 10 years ago.. lmao i literally just realised that). For the last couple of weeks or months I’ve finally started to embrace my natural hair more and it is because of the constant compliments i’ve been receiving about it.
Anyways, my wisdom or what I’ve learnt that majorly has helped shift my mentality in loving and embracing everything God has blessed me with is this simple quote:
"You can't love others if you don't love yourself first; you can't give what you haven't got." - Unknown
I don’t think it needs any further explanation, but if you would like to discuss more on this topic then feel free to send me an email or DM. I’d love to hear your feedback or your journey/story on self love.
Till my next post Au Revoir,
Road to Self Love "Love yourself first because that's who'll be spending the rest of your life with." What is self love?
Witnessing My First Water Birth Experience!!!
Witnessing My First Water Birth Experience!!!
On November 7th 2017 at 6:05pm by best friend, Milika, blessed this Earth with a beautiful sweet little boy. Being her 2nd son, we had hoped the year before that with her first seed, that i’d get to be apart of his delivery. Unfortunately that wasn’t the case due to so many factors. Anyways, she just posted today a little backstory on her pregnancies as well as her water birth experience which…
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I asked God for a sign and He gave it
Well it’s been a long time coming since I published a post, please forgive me for the inconsistency but I’ve come to realisation my creativity comes from experiences and once I’ve opened my eyes and figured out the lesson life has thrown at me, I then truly have something to write about lol hence why they named me Alice?🤷😂 Nah im kidding but really, if there is anything I’d like to work on more…
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Waiting...
Waiting…
Source: The Secret Garden I’ve been wanting to write about this topic for a couple of weeks now and wasn’t happy with a few of the drafts i had made and if you know me, if I make or produce something I don’t like i wont give it or share it. Slightly a little miss perfectionist lol. So anyways, I finally got my head into a space where I’ve collected all my thoughts & figured out the best way to…
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A God child fills your heart with love & joy as if they were your very own ❤️ You surprised not only your parents but also me a year ago with your small brown eyes, fluffy hair & chubby face ✨ Happy birthday Dominic 😘 can't wait to celebrate you my boy 🍫🍬🍩🍿🍪 A Prince raised by a Queen, I promise to help bring the best out of you, to teach & guide you & to love & listen when life gets tough 😙 You are growing up way to quick munchkin... 😔 Love always ❤️❤️❤️ #DomsWildOne 🎋🐅🐆🐯🦁🐵🙈🍃
The Wait
What is Alisi waiting on? What the hell is the wait? Is it that book by Pastor Devon Franklin and his wife Megan Good? A book review? To answer that no it is not a book review on the book Pastor Devon published I haven’t gotten around to reading it yet, but by reading reviews & recommendations I know it will be a good guideline to whomever is choosing to “wait” before marriage.
Hey you! Yes you…
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and there's probably 100 more of the same selfie trying to get the angle & lighting right 😫🤳🏾😂 #playinwithmakeup
