Hey, can you give me some tips when in the talking stage. I don’t want to seem to interested yet I don’t wanna seem unbothered. I’m trying to play it cool and leave him wanting more. What’s your advice?
DISCLAIMER: These are my tips and things that have worked for me. If you do not agree with them, do not do them.
- do not get upset if he responds late or does not respond for a long time (he is not your bf)
- good behavior = reward, bad behavior = punishment. EX: he decides to respond to your text a day late, you wait two-three days and text him like nothing happened - “hey handsome, how are you?”. On the other hand, if he remains consistent with texting, you send him a random text telling him how much you appreciate him (guys like their ego stroked)
- try to always have meaningful and interesting conversationsÂ
- do not show emotion when he makes you upset (guys always expect women to show emotion because we are naturally emotional creatures, by you not showing emotion that will get his attention. And again he is not your man, not your problem)
- do not let him know too much about you (not your bf, he does not need to know all of your business)
- pay attention to little details about him and his personality (people in general like that, it makes them feel special)
- set boundaries (creating boundaries = more respect, you are not any type of girl and he CAN NOT treat you any type of way)
- when he calls you “babe, baby”, let him (if you feel comfortable) but do not call him those names back (he is not your bf)
- do not compliment him and show affection 24/7 (he might start to think he has you wrapped around his fingers) BUT show affection and compliment him at random times! Men like feeling wanted, and if you remain cold, he will leave and go find someone else who will make him feel wanted
- do not give him bf privileges (talking on the phone all the time, spending a lot of time together, sex, going out together all the time) until you both decide to commitÂ
- hope for the best but expect the worse (again he is not your bf, and he can do whatever he wants at the end of the day. Do not have all of your emotions invested until he shows that he is worthy)
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