This is what my last EX did to me.
I was subjected to intense interrogation about my SA every time he deemed it necessary, which led to me being repeatedly questioned. “Why didn’t you yell, why didn’t you kick him, and why did you let him at that moment?” One of the experience was so distressing that it reopened old scars, causing me to shake violently as I begged him to stop. Unfortunately, he had never followed through on his promise to learn ASL, forcing me to rely on lip reading instead. When I was on the verge of collapsing, he finally apologized, saying he didn’t want things to escalate that far. It’s worth noting that when I removed my hearing aids, he accused me of having an unfair advantage over him, as if my ability to communicate without them was a privilege.
He involves my adult children in our disputes. When I ask him to refrain from doing so, he seems to be attempting to garner their support. It's perplexing, as they are grown adults and he has never been their father. My daughter would point out that I have difficulty perceiving tone when being yelled at, but he fails to acknowledge this distinction.
I am looking for insight into a concerning situation. Having established a safe distance from my former partner, I received a text message from him declaring me the love of his life. I am curious to know if it is typical for men to exhibit behaviors such as excessive drinking and engaging in violent acts, including biting, pinching, and tampering with surgical stitches, which he denies despite my possession of evidence and images. Moreover, his conflicting accounts, attributing his actions to intoxication while describing the incident to my daughter as an overly tight hug, are troubling. The physical harm inflicted, evident from the marks left by his nails on my skin, suggests a more serious occurrence. I wonder if such behavior is commonplace. I think not.
His excessive concern for his image and pride has had a profoundly negative impact on my life. I recall a particularly harrowing experience where he drove under the influence while I was in the vehicle, and my attempts to express my fear for our safety were met with hostility and blame. His reckless driving, coupled with his lack of control over the vehicle, was terrifying, and his propensity for making excuses and justifying his behavior, including drinking while driving, only exacerbated the situation. I feel that he consistently prioritized his own interests over our safety, putting both me and my children at risk. Moreover, his willingness to share intimate details of our personal life with his friends has left me feeling exposed and vulnerable. The emotional trauma from this experience persists, and I firmly believe that this was the most damaging of his actions. His refusal to acknowledge his wrongdoing and take responsibility for his selfish behavior has caused me significant harm, and I must admit that I feel a deep-seated resentment towards him. I am still grappling with the circumstances that led me to become embroiled in this situation.
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