I just really hate this thing when a male (specifically asian) character who likes idols and people Immediately jumps to "haha he must be jerking off to them" or "they make him mad horny, he secretly wants to fuck them.. But Ooo nooo he can't cuz he has idol guilt... so funny."
Apart from it being really cringe, they're not really engaging with his hobby. (which IS how average irl Idol fans interact with it as a hobby) They're sexualizing the women associated with that hobby.
It's also worth noting that idol culture specifically has a weird history. (I'm by no means an expert but I've done my thesis on this in college, so that's counts for something) Many J-idols are marketed around accessibility, purity, parasocial attachment, and fantasies. So when people make jokes about an idol fan sleeping with idols, they're often drawing on that existing dynamic. Whether they mean to or not, the joke can end up reducing female idols to sexual rewards for male fans.
It still very much contributes to the broader issue of fetishizing Asian women, even when made about a fictional character and reinforce real-world stereotypes that impact real people.
Please delete this if you’re uncomfortable with questions like these but do you happen to have any resources on writing Black characters in smut/kink scenarios? I write a LOT of porn and I’ve included many Black characters in my works, and I know the basics of what to avoid that’s blatantly racist in terms of depiction and kink content, but would you happen to know of anywhere I could find some more extensive resources? I want to be sure that my characters are portrayed well and that any Black folk who interact with my work will be able to properly enjoy it!
I mean, I don't think that Black people have sex any differently than anybody else 😅 the only important thing is to understand the dynamics of how you're describing and depicting these characters, and that's still sociological and comes back to the regular lessons. But no, I don't have any resources myself. I'll leave this here.
so imma take a crack at answering this. its important to be aware of the racial, gender, sexual politics and dynamics when creating such media as someone who's nonblack. its unfortunate fact but white supremacy, colonialism and american chattel slavery has impacted nearly every aspect of life world wide even on a deeper psychological/subconscious level. in terms of gender and sexuality as it pertains to black people, particularly black americans. there are so many tropes and stereotypes that sprung up from these atrocities of humankind and our continued oppression that morphed into other forms but all remain spiritually the same. The mandingo, the buck, the homothug, the YN, the nonchalant dreadhead. The jezebel, the sapphire, the mammy, the ghetto gagger, the beautiful mulatto, the fast girl, the bull dagger. We also exist in this weird double edged sword of dehumanization in regards to our gender, gender expression, and sexuality. All created to justify the systemic rape, murder and sexual assault we faced throughout history. These tropes are so pervasive, especially in regards to black manhood/masculinity its near inescapable in any arenas with NSFW content. These were the recommended questions i was suggested by ust searching on quora (a SFW site for posing questions) for firsthand accounts of black people with an interest in BDSM
Note the objectification aspect, not even to referring to any hypothetical black man as as man in this fantasy but simply cutting him down to his penis.
Simultaneously de-gendered and desexualized but also fetishized and believed to have an insatiable libido. We're incapable of being viewed as beautiful, handsome, sexy or worthy of romantic pursuit or attraction that isn't based in objectification. This all gets compounded more when you factor in fatness, queerness and transness. Its a very complex topic for sure and not every black person has the same ideals or opinions. Some black folks can easily engage with nonblacks no matter the sexual dynamic and see no issue with it. There are a myriad of black people out there, black women with white male partners and black men and with white female partners that may engage with certain sexual dynamics. To each their own. Its a hard topic for sure. On one hand if you consistently have your black characters being 'dominant' or 'aggressive' one you can run into racial stereotyping that regards black sexual desire as inherently domineering or violent. On the other if you have the black character being consistently submissive in a way it could read as wanting to see black people as subservient, especially when you through white people in the mix.
From the very quick research I did, I see a lot of black cis women with a casual interest in BDSM have a desire for submission whereas mostly the women who do it professionally are dommes. It really depends, some black women see being submissive not just a representation of their sexuality but also an affirmation of their femininity and womanhood. They may not feel comfortable being forced into a sexually aggressive/dominant role because it mirrors the jezebel/sapphire trope of black women being angry and domineering, beliefs that led to again justifying their degendering and dehumanization. To regard black women as not really women, not feminine enough, not worthy of protection, not worthy of help and doting on etc. Additionally some black cis women prefer to be in a dominant role, especially involving white or nonblack partners. They feel that being sexually submissive/bound in scenes harkens back to ideals and imagery where black women were forced under sexual slavery and systemic rape, so they see being dominant as a reclamation of power from past subjugation.
it gets compunded even more when you take transness in regard. within transfeminity and trans fem sexuality there's a term called comptop, similar to comphet (short for compulsory heterosexuality, the psychological phenomenon of gay men and lesbians experiencing not genuine attraction to the opposite gender but this being a symptom of homophobia forcing them to deny their real desires) comptop being short for compulsory topping where a trans women/fem feels she always has to be the top in whatever sexual situation she is because of her assigned gender at birth. Additionally you add blackness with perceived maleness, and black trans fems are overwhelmingly expected to always act in a similar manner regardless of her own sexual desires (especially within the realm of sex work). Kat Blaque is a black trans women writer, activist, artist, public speaker and video essayist whom i've been subscribed to for at least 10 years. She also someone who is actively vocal about being polyamorous and and into BDSM. I do also know that her partners are nonblack and she is submissive and has talked before about having to navigate racial and gender dynamics in the relationships she's had.
This is not me comparing trans women to men btw, its just me noting the similarites in which Black AMAB peoples sexualities are regarded. Similarly, like i mentioned the homothug stereotype previously; black cis queer men are always expected to be aggressive/dominant tops. Even in content not made by or featuring black men, be it yaoi/bara/porn etc the darker skinned male character is always larger than the lighter skinned one and always the top. That is a symptom of antiblackness. Similarly, masculine lesbians/studs are also seen as hyper aggressive and expected to be the top as well.
Im gonna try to wrap this up cause this answer is already long answer thats all over the place. But TLDR, just go about it in a respectful way. Be aware of tropes. Also please dont use food as descriptors of black skin tones (coffee, cinnamon, chocolate, etc.) it always comes across as fetishtic when nonblacks do it im sorry. But lastly raceplay is 100% racist no matter what way you invoke it, so please do not engage lbs.
some further resources and writing that you can read to further educate yourself on modern racial dynamics in regards to sexuality and kink.
We've compiled a list of some BIPOC BDSM resources, including BIPOC perspectives on kink and BIPOC BDSM educators who create great content.
Black kink is about pleasure first and foremost. But it’s also bound up with freedom and empowerment
"Being a Black dominatrix to me, allows me to be my most authentic self. I get to be whoever I want to be, and I can revel in my Blackness a
Black Sexual Politics : African Americans, Gender, and the New Racism by Patricia. Hill Collins (PDF)