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[purplebuddhaquotes]

If you persistently seek validation from others, you will inadvertently invalidate your own self-worth.

Dodinsky   (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[prettypositivity]

emotional abuse is still abuse

emotional abuse is still abuse

emotional abuse is still abuse

[my-journey2selfdiscovery]

How did I go from being so warm and open to being so closed and careful?

Why am I afraid of forming strong bonds with people?

Why am I holding back the pleasure of being seen and heard just the way I am?

Can I trust?

[quotemadness]

“When pain brings you down, don’t be silly, don’t close your eyes and cry, you just might be in the best position to see the sun shine.”

— Alanis Morissette (via quotemadness)

[snakesugar]

Leave him

If he’s a deadbeat loser, leave him.

If he’s bringing nothing to the table, leave him.

If you work to support the both of you while he does NOTHING, leave him.

If he cheated once, leave him immediately, plenty of fish, don’t wait for him to do it again because we both know he will.

If he has no ambition or goals in life, leave his sorry ass.

If he raised a hand on you ONCE, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY.

If he makes you feel worthless and incompetent, leave him.

If he calls you names and pushes you down, leave him.

If he FORCES you to submit to him and be his doormat, LEAVE HIM.

There are too many men in this world to let that one fucker treat you like crap. He is a grain of sand in a dessert. Find a better grain of sand that’s ACTUALLY WORTH YOUR TIME AND EFFORT.

Sex worker or vanilla girl, black, white, asian, latina, mixed, no matter your ethnicity, background, trans woman or cis woman, gay, straight or bi, disabled or not, no matter your race, sexuality, age, no matter what,

LEAVE ABUSERS AND DEADBEAT “PARTNERS” THAT DRAG YOU DOWN.

YOU ARE GOLD AND DON’T MAKE ME FUCKING REPEAT MYSELF.

[writewhatyousee]

“Abusive people don’t change… Don’t give them a second chance! There is no come back from someone who claims to love you - but treats you unkindly. Respect yourself, be strong, and move on. Let go of that which is killing your born spirit. You deserve to be happy. One life - remember to make the most of it.”

—

F.S @writewhatyousee

[solarings-archive]

Let go of people who hurt you.

Let go of people that try to dictate your emotions/feelings.

Let go of people that try to dictate how long it should take for you to heal.

Let go of people who emotionally invalidate you.

Let go of people that gaslight you.

Let go of people that manipulate you.

Let go of people that emotionally abuse you.

Let go of people who don’t have pure/good intentions.

Let go of people who refuse to examine themselves & their own mistakes.

Let go of people who try to justify their wrongdoings instead of fixing them.

Let go of people who refuse to change.

Let go of people who make you feel bad about yourself.

Let go of people that bring you down and discourage you.

Let go of people that lie to you.

Let go of people that threaten your mental health & general well being.

Let go of people that try to kill your happiness.

Let go of people that don’t try to listen.

Let go of people who are driven by hate, anger, negativity and bitterness.

Let go of people that make you feel like you’re hard to love.

Let go of people that make you feel alone.

Let go of people who hurt you.

For the sake of your safety and happiness & wellbeing, let them go.

[thedarkperidot]

It’s okay to hate your abuser, resent them, want revenge, and it’s also okay to forgive them, but only if you want to forgive them. You are under no obligation to forgive them to be the better person, you already are the better person.

[theselfcarelifestyle]

The day you start valuing and respecting yourself is the day you no longer need them.

[furiousgoldfish]

Admitting you were abused is hard for whole multitude of reasons, but one that hit me most was the fact that I had to admit to myself that abusers have managed to really, really hurt me. Really badly. That all their efforts to get to me, to make me doubt myself, to make me hate myself, were successful, no matter how much I fought, and pretended not to be hit by it all. I didn’t manage to defend myself. I didn’t beat them. I got hurt. I couldn’t get out of there. I couldn’t get away from them. I continued to get hurt. For a long long time. I was at their mercy. They could have done anything to me. They did anything to me. Nobody stopped them. Nobody fought for me. Despite all my efforts to keep myself sane, to keep myself okay, I am filled with wounds and trauma and damage too vast to even asses. They got what they wanted. And I lost big parts of myself to it. I’ve been lying to myself when I tried to be okay. I wasn’t okay. I needed help. I wasn’t unbeatable. I wasn’t quite that strong. Humans aren’t made to be that strong. Humans aren’t made to survive in environment where they’re tortured and abandoned completely. I wasn’t made to withstand that either. I got broken. I lived in an illusion that this was okay. It wasn’t. I was scared. I was alone. I thought it was my fault. I could have died. It’s a miracle I’m still around.

[theselfcarelifestyle]

The coping mechanisms that I’ve outgrown:

Avoiding, ignoring, staying passive, hiding, shirking responsibility, blaming and pitying myself

The coping mechanisms growing in their place:

Accepting, feeling, actively searching, listening to my inner dialogue, awareness, communicating my needs, respecting my agency and owning my actions

[theselfcarelifestyle]

Just because you have left that toxic situation, doesn’t mean you’re automatically healed and shouldn’t care anymore. It’s okay if you still care. Give it time to work through.

[theselfcarelifestyle]

Things that the love of your life ISN’T going to do to you:

Leave you when you need them most

Do the opposite of what they promised you

Set you up to look bad in front of others

Purposely try to hurt you

Cheat/lie

Punish you when you don’t meet their needs

Pressure you into anything

Withhold affection, intimacy or attention

Control you/the situation

Make you feel as if you will never be good enough

Take out the trash. You have so much real love to look forward to!

[theselfcarelifestyle]

You can always start again. Clean out your social media. Create a new account for your new taste in music. Study or work in a new city. Start socialising with new people. Choose a new signature scent and style and purge the outdated parts of yourself. If you don’t like where you’re at, but you don’t know what to do about it - try starting again.

[afadthatlastsforever]

“Thank you for teaching me where I draw the line between what I can forgive and what I know I deserve.”

— Beau Taplin • T h e  B o u n d a r y  L i n e

[afadthatlastsforever]

“Thank you for teaching me where I draw the line between what I can forgive and what I know I deserve.”

— Beau Taplin • T h e  B o u n d a r y  L i n e

[qtz456743]

I hate girls who think it’s okay to hit their boyfriends and control who they talk to.