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Trying to find a balance between her need (sometimes compulsion) to talk about projects and all the Shit she doesn't have and your mental health. Is of course, it's quite hard to explain in a text but,

Don't be discouraged. Talking about how it makes you feel is not necessarily about being understood or expecting behavior changes. It's more about letting the steam come out and saying what is important for you, and one thing you won't regret is that you never talk about it .

Some forms of phrases help. ex: I don't feel important when I have the impression that things take more space in your head than me.

I am not trying to start a debate, I am informing you that....

I understand your point, (reformulate here, ask, is that it?, don't proceed until she says yes). Then, you say, it doesn't change how I feel, could you do something different in the way or frequency... that would help me, help us to feel better and wanting to talk about....

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Men should show emotions (in a controlled manner) really early in the relationship in order to root out women who are not marriage material.

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There is a difference between being able to communicate about how/what you feel and showing emotions.

For example, women are allowed (social acceptability) to lose control emotionally, but if men expressed their emotions in the same unbridled way, it would be a carnage.

So, women praise the men who are able to be stoic and calmly and rationally communicate with you.

Instead of shaming men, we should teach them how to communicate and put words on their feelings in a way that would be accepted and understood by women.

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Looking for a future wife, Of course, the usual red flags are: absent/bad father, overweight parents, promiscuity, narcissism, smoking, substance, drinking to excess, near the wall, different values and priorities....

Let's say a month into the relationship (more or less depending on the meeting frequency), if you think that she would be a good mother, then have a serious discussion not about your current relationship or what it could be but rather about your vision of the future. Ex: Do you want kids, adopting, religion, what if your kid is gay, what she thinks about trans, pronouns, the kid takes drugs, discipline, money, consumerism, any subject that would help identify value gaps.

As for showing emotion, it's important to find someone who will be able to handle who you are (doesn't mean you don't have to change, adjust, evolve). So, allowing yourself to show emotion in a controlled way (don't wait to be at the end of the rope, you will crack, and lose control over yourself).

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My wife was often talking about renovation projects or future travels, and one day, I had enough I told her that every time she was talking about things that she/we didn't have the only thing that I heard was that she wasn't happy with my salary (low 6 fig.) And I f worked more then she was complaining that I didn't spend enough time with her and the kids. So I angrily told her that if she wasn't happy that she needed to find a better paying job or let me work 70hrs a week or find another men, I was fed up with her being relentlessly unhappy.

I also pointed to her that all the Shit we have was for her and living in a wooden box or a castle had no bearing on my happiness, but having a happy family did.

Also, the the reason why I wasn't constantly pointing to her shortcomings wasn't because she was perfect or talking about travels or better/often sex, It was simply because I was focused on what I had and trying to be content with it, rather than underlying all the things, womens, sex that I didn't have. That I two was capable of having the same behavior that she did, and if I did this, she wouldn't put up with this shit as long as I did!

Of course, it was hard for her, but she took notes, adjusted her behavior. Once in a while I still have too remind her that I wouldn't be like her constantly unsatisfied, it forces her to respond that in fact she's not unhappy, it's just a bad habit.

Still with her 33yrs.

Just do the same, don't endure constant dissatisfaction from your girl, just be clear, direct, assertive and the sooner you will do this, the quicker you will find out if she's wife material.

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Marxims vs Capitalism?

It seems to me that any model that is stretched to its extreme will break. Maxims and capitalism need to be learned with an unbias view of facts, and theories need to be explained and understood vs the different types of implementations, the geopolitical pressures and contexts vs Human psychology/nature, and how all these opposing forces have contributed to the success or failure of each implementation (vs the theory)

And then have the students try to think what kind of theories (or a mix of it) would work, with what strategy of implementation and how would it deal with Human psychology/nature and geopolitical dynamics and pressures.

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For a lasting relationship, concerning the $ and roles, both parties must contribute 100% to the health/well-being of the family, whether that contribution is financial or not. One other thing, both mindsets must do everything they can to contribute whenever they can within the best of their abilities and strength and must avoid calculating the efforts/time/value of each other/self.

If anyone within the couple, doesn't adhere to this, it will eventually fail, and resentment will settle in and lead to a breakup.

Everyone needs to feel useful and for the majority of women with a good father figure in the picture, it's very fulfilling to have kids and to have a paying job that will bring her purpose/sense of usefulness when the kids will be in school or gone.

In my case, my wife had a job before having kids, she stopped 5 years so we could have 2 kids (@28-30), then went back to work. Of course, it's hard work and it took her a long time to figure out what she wanted to do, but, what helped her was when I started to help her strategize more rationally about her career. Of course, I opened all options, going back to school part-time or full-time, changing fields, ..., the only requirement was that it needed to have a lot of opportunities, I managed to convince her to go into the IT field and the job itself wasn't that important, the plan was to gain experience, training and get a more precise feeling of the kind of role she wanted to have within that field, project management, Human resources, Management, IT support... Today, after her first entry job in IT, she is now on her second employer and works for 25k more (with all social benefits) than the first one and loves it!

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it's all about narcissistic personality vs getting satisfaction from giving peace and pleasure . A men's way of doing this is by giving a feeling/ physical security to the W. and for a Women is by maintaining /nurture a nest for the men and is children .

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Stay away from a partner that doesn't respect her/his body by smoking , drinking , sleeping around ... If she/he doesn't respect her/him self , she/he will have a hard time respecting you.

btw, it's not an absolute rule , it's just a probability thing .

To all of you that smoke /drink and feel personally attracted and would feel the urge to attract me, sorry , forget this , your the exception , don't self-reflect and forget about it . sorry again , didn't mean to offend you .

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When on a date, each should pay for his/her consumption/food.

This way, both spend their own time and money, it prioritize learning about each other without creating an uneven exchange, thus creating expectations on one end and a feeling of debt on the other.

So, the one who pay won't feel ripped off if he doesn't get sxx and the other won't feel pressured to give sxx. If she does decide to have sxx, there will be less doubt in the mind the paying party about the reason of sxx.

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Tiktok is Chinese owned and is banned in China. If I believed in conspiracy, I would think that Tiktok content content type has only one objective, to corrupt the psyche (like a mind virus) of young minds in order to destabilize democracies and help the CCP in their demonstration that democracy doesn't work and only lead to amoral behaviors.

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I don't recommend entering a commited relationship/mariage where you calculate the % each partner is contributing. This will cause tensions.

I recommend putting both revenues in the same account and all expenses/ % of the budget should be a common decision. And all work that should be done in the house is distributed according to availability and expertise/affinity (no calculations here, everyone does is max and best)

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Human learn social behavior by imitation and then have the environment (ex: school) to experiment with those behaviors.

Human interactions with the opposite sex can be baffling and sadly single household or broken one's aren't a good role model on how to interact with women and more importantly how to identify the undamaged one's.

I tried to view success as simply to be able to go pass my own limits and fears, rather then winning the gold medal and yes maybe surpassing your own limits will be someday the gold medal.

Sadly I haven't seen men married for 25+ years and still going strong , teaching young men these king of things.

One thing that worked for me was to build my self-esteem and confidence through my actions and then with enough self-esteem to be solid enough so that failures and the rejection didn't affect my self-esteem.

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Sadly a lot of miserable, envious, heartless, egotistical, narcissist people can't stand people that are better than them because they (the better ones) act like mirrors that reflect at them their own mediocrity. So, these miserables, project their own rotten soul, mental illness and personal shortcomings to what they perceive as the source of their own suffering when in fact they are mad and toxic toward a mirror.

When someone talks shit like that we should simply limit our interaction with them and say: I can't condone this Toxic behavior with a response or my presence, And leave. If the person attacks you, then say: get help. And be on your way.

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When you're suffering, hungry, afraid of loosing your job/health insurance/life, ..., you will gladly accept any thing and believe any savior. In short, you are easily manipulated and controlled.

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Life begins at conception, a glob of 4 cells is life. The question should be at what moment it ceases to be just cells and starts to be human?

So just don't accept the framing of the question /affiliation and focus on the human life part of it.

So, blob of cells is not a Human.

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Toxicity is not gendered. Only behaviour can be toxic! Stop repeating propaganda about toxic femininity / masculinity, just talk about toxic behavior.

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