My Occasional Thoughts

A place for me to put into the world what’s on my mind

[myoccasionalthoughts]

I’m struggling to find my worth. I feel as if I have failed at life and that there is nothing I can do to fix it. I seemed to have wasted my potential and now at 25 I feel as if life has passed me by. I am to old and broken to follow my dreams. Besides my dreams are now just far away fantasies that will never be within my reach. Even now I still do not know what my dream job is or what career field I’d want to be in. I have no hobbies and no personality and I cried about the person I could have been. I feel like I have made progress in my life such as relationships. I am so lucky to have married my best friend and biggest supporter and to have him in my life has definitely improved my mental health. It’s just other times I think about how I am not where I thought I’d be in life and not doing the jobs I’ve dreamed of doing and it just makes me mourn for the person I could have been if I hadn’t failed and if I had made better decisions about jobs, careers, schools, degree plans, and everything in between.

[comedianofthefamily]

It’s 2 days before my birthday and I’m already crying because I am already disappointed in my birthday

I feel like my birthday has never been special, as a child my birthday always got overshadowed by the Super Bowl. Even as an adult that would happen but as I get older I feel like no one cares.

In years past friends and family didn’t remember my birthday. I’ve always had to plan my own party and buy my own cake and own decorations just to have all my friends cancel or just not show up because they had better things to do. It really is upsetting to think that no one cares about you.

Now my birthday is two days away. I’m at work crying knowing that maybe 7 people will text me happy birthday and that’s all that will happen. No party, no candles, no balloons or decorations, no indication that I am important to anyone. I’m dreading my birthday am I feel guilty about it but I’m always left disappointed.

I would love to have a birthday party like you see on social media where everyone gets dressed up balloons all over the place with a birthday cake and games and my friends maybe even a surprise party or like I wake up being surprised or idk. I just see videos of other peoples birthdays and they look so fun and I wish I could have that but I know no one would plan anything like that for me. Maybe it’s a dark thought and I feel bad for thinking this and crying about it

I just for once want my birthday to be joyful instead of crying in the bathroom. But I feel like this year will be same as all the years before because why would anyone care other than myself

[buzz-season]

i think the difference between the barbie's treatment of ken's in barbieland vs the ken's treatment of barbie's in kendom can be summed up pretty easily actually:

barbie's ignored ken, realistically they were given an opportunity to have their own lives and do what they wanted and they didn't do it. everything revolved around their barbie's, ken would only have a good day if barbie did or if barbie acknowledged him. they never tried to do anything they genuinely wanted to.

whereas when the ken's took over, they brainwashed the barbie's into liking them and doing things for them. they would bring them beers and act like waitresses, give them foot massages or watch films they otherwise wouldn't be interested in. they became mindless and existed to serve the ken's. they were no longer just friends with the barbie's, they didn't want barbie to love them back, they wanted to own them.

people talking about ken falling down the patriarchy pipeline out of neglect or loneliness but why couldn't the ken's form friendships and communities like the barbie's did? why is it up to barbie to ensure that ken doesn't feel that way? at what point is it acceptable to blame barbie for ken's feelings? barbie let ken come to her party, watched him beach, held him whilst he went to the hospital, agreed to let him go on her journey, says hi to him when she sees him, things friends do and things she's shown doing with all the other barbie's, but if he still feels loneliness after that because she doesn't want to kiss him or doesn't love him back, why is that barbie's fault? meanwhile the entire time ken is ignoring other ken's out of his fixation on barbie and is even trying to "beach" other ken's off and causing problems with other ken's to gain barbie's attention

to me it's the perfect representation of the real world in the sense that women will leave men alone, men will want to own women, and women will be blamed for men's neglect and loneliness but it's a paper cage they create for themselves because they refuse to see women as individuals and arguably they don't actively try to create and nurture communities in the same way women do. ken's story is sad yes, but it's a story of his own design and what makes it worse is that he blames barbie for it. not himself, not mattel, no the real world but barbie, who's friendly disinterest in him means that she should be the one who is blamed and punished

[miss-crazy-rose]

“The Barbie movie is anti-men”

ARE YOU KIDDING ME????

This movie acknowledges that men suffer from loneliness, that patriarchy is detrimental to their mental health (Mattel CEO saying he’s tired and just want to be silly goofy with his buddies, which is sooo valid) and that men struggle to figure who they are outside of their gender role and/or relationship.

The Ken song you all love so much literally leads to the Kens setting aside their rivalry to form a brotherhood and start questioning what they really want and who they really are.

This is the most pro-men movie I have ever seen, you guys are just brainwashed and don’t know how to snap out of it

[moodymoony7]

Another thing the Barbie movie made me realize is how many movies "made for men" I've watched with some guys friends of mine (like Fast and Furious).

I go to the cinema, watch the movie, happily listen to their thoughts about it and say I enjoyed my time. I ignore how bad the story may have been and enjoy my time because he is enjoying his time.

But when it comes to a movie to which I emotionally connect so deeply as I did to Barbie, I don't see the same effort coming from them to understand why I or any of our girl friends enjoyed our time wearing pink and watching a movie about a doll.

Just a thought that occurred me

[seashellronan]

the thing that gets me about about barbie is that barbie land wasn’t even purposefully a matriarchy, barbie land came about because of the way little girls were playing with their barbies, it wasn’t created by mattel it was created by the people using the toys, so the fact that the barbies ignored the ken’s and had girls night every night wasn’t because they had some bias against him, it was just an accurate depiction of how kids play with barbies. I had some ken dolls as a child and they were essential to the plot in the sense that of course my barbie has a boyfriend because that represented the world i saw around me, but also he didn’t have any purpose in my dream world because i was only interested in what the girls were doing because they represented me and how i wanted to be, I wanted girls night every night I wanted the girls to be president and austronauts and not because of some inherent feminist idea but because I was a girl and I wasn’t thinking about boys, ken was an accessory. this movie wasn’t made to change the world but it showed a different perspective than what we usually see which I thought was fun. Men don’t have to be the centre of all our stories and its not even because we hate them, sometimes we’re just not thinking about them