Past Lovers

This blog is dedicated to people who share similar experiences about losing a past lover and being able to have a community with other people that may have the same or similar interests as them. People are free to discuss their stories or support others through this blog either by user name or anonymous. They can do so by clicking on the submit text below to post their own personal posts on this blog or to ask questions or comments on the support text below. Other links or sources below are there for the viewers' convenience. There is also a reinterpretation of one of Lang Leav's poems titled, "Lullabies" followed with relevant reblog posts and text explanations underneath the corresponding lines in her poem. Chronological Education 30 Personal Story Poem Reinterpretation Expectations vs. Reality Tips for Moving on Having Closure

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The Psychology Of Closure: How Long It Really Takes To Get Over An Ex

Love isn't a drug, your ex is.

An article about the psychology of closure. Click the above text to read the article. 

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How to Get Over Your Ex

The end of a relationship is always somewhat painful and comes with some negativity or confrontation. Even if you lost interest in your partner and wasn't feeling the love anymore, it may still be hard to move on because they were an...

Some tips and guidance to getting over your past lover. Click on the above text to access the tips from the website. 

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This is a video clip from the movie, 500 Days of Summer. Sometimes it isn’t losing your past lover physically, but rather mentally. Throughout life, people change and sometimes it may be the kind of change that we don’t want to encounter in them. You search for your past lover, but they no longer exist. Their new self doesn’t seem to meet your expectations and now you are stuck with the hard reality, but can’t seem to move on because you still hope they will go back to their old ways someday.  

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“I still love you anyhow.”

There will always be a place in your heart for your past lover. You will always be there for them no matter what happens. They were a very important part in your life at one point and you can’t reverse the effect they placed upon you. Even though you move on with your life without them, you will always love and care for that one person. 

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“I do not mind—”

You can’t force people to stay in your life. You have to learn to let them go. 

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“But I have learnt to live without,”

Life goes on with or without your past lover. 

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“time has passed for you and I.”

Your time together with them had its due date...

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“And longer since I called you mine—”

You can’t choose who you fall in love with. They’re not yours anymore, but you wish they were.

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“for years I’ve not said your name out loud.”

You want them to come back into your life even though it’s been so long and you have no idea where they are. 

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“I wonder where you could be now,”

You wonder so much about how they are now and doing with their new life without you in it. 

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“on winding roads and wishing stars.”

They probably don’t care about you, but you still seem to wander and search for them and you can’t help it.

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“In city lights and passing cars,” 

Everywhere you go, everything seems to remind you of your past lover. The objects you encounter seems to signify something about them as you think and search of their whereabouts.  

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“in empty fields and soaring clouds.”

You are confused and don’t understand how things got this way. You still search for your past lover at the most unreasonable places hoping they’d be there.

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“I still search for you in crowds”

You still wonder how they’re doing and where they are. You want the best for them even though things didn’t work out. You still care. 

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I wanted to share a personal story about myself so others that view this site can hopefully feel or be able to relate to my story. Other people can also reply to my story with their own comments or they can click the submit text located on the top right of my page and can share and post their own personal story so other viewers can hear their story as well. 

This photo was taken in my 8th grade year of school with my first boyfriend. He was also my best friend at the time and for a few years after that as well. We used to talk and instant message each other everyday about anything and everything and he was the first person that I would usually go to if anything was ever wrong. There were never really any awkward silences when we were together because we always had something to talk or laugh about. However, we went to different high schools and he broke up with me because he didn’t think the distance would work out. We still managed to keep in contact most of the time through text messaging and instant messaging online, but it wasn’t the same not seeing him everyday at school anymore. Whenever I would be at school or anywhere outside my house in general, I would try to find him or look for him in crowds hoping he would be there. Of course that is likely not to happen, but I still did anyway for months that led to two years until he transferred to my high school. My feelings were still strong for him but he admitted that he does not feel the same about me anymore. The closeness in our friendship was also diminishing because he wanted to distance himself from me because he didn’t want to hurt me. For the last two years of having him be at the same school as me, I would try to search for him all the time whenever I was at school, hoping he would notice me and hopefully change his mind about his loss feelings for me. I knew it was too good to be true, but I couldn’t help but try. Senior year of high school was finally coming to an end and I finally moved on with another boy at my high school and we are still together going into our 3rd year of college. I’ve finally learned to live without my past lover, but there will always be a place in my heart for him no matter what. We don’t communicate anymore. I never hear anything about him or his life through social media anymore either. I wonder what he’s doing nowadays and how his life is like, but I just have to realize sometimes in life, people just aren’t meant to stay, but it’s okay. 

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Education 30 Mini Project

I wanted to do my Education 30 mini project on a short poem named “Lullabies” by Lang Leav. I heard of Lang Leav through Tumblr and enjoyed many of the poems that she writes about. This particular poem seems to personally relate to me, so I thought it would be great to reinterpret. The text in the poem is quite short and simple, but captures a lot meaning, which I really like. I’m hoping to get an audience that can relate to this poem as much as I do and have them realize that they’re not alone and that there are people out there who can help them get through this struggle. It was a very rough time in my life when I was going through this and I didn’t have much support from my friends or family because they didn’t seem to understand what I was feeling since they didn’t go through something similar to my situation. I think this would be a nice way to get other people out there who are going through the same or similar situation to know that life gets better with time and life goes on with or without their past lover or friend. I think Tumblr is a great website to use to share and analyze this poem because users can blog about their personal struggles, reblog related posts, and have a supporting community that shares the same or similar interests as well.