Hi! I have been wondering your take on this opinion that I've been seeing. Lately it feels like team Logan is growing, and I've been seeing a lot of people say how much Logan fought for Rory even though he messed up whereas they think Jess didn't fight for her. What do you think of people saying Logan fought for Rory, but Jess didn't?
Hmm. "Logan fought for Rory." Huh. I guess it depends on what that means. I do think that Logan fought to convince Rory to stay with him at certain points, but it sometimes seemed more about his need to get what he wants than about her happiness. Logan has to win. Logan seemed most interested in fighting for her when Rory wanted to walk away. But when she requested he wait long-distance for her instead of moving across the country with him and getting married right away, suddenly that wasn't worth the effort to him. And he certainly didn't seem to be fighting for her in the Revival, except that he couldn't let her have the last word. He had to come back to say goodbye on HIS terms, though he made it pretty clear he had no intention of leaving Odette when Rory asked him about it.
As far as how that relates to Jess... I mean, Logan is pretty confident. Like a good salesman, Logan is convinced that he has a lot to offer. Jess... well, he did NOT really feel like he had a lot to offer, especially as he was spiraling into a crisis of depression and self-doubt at the end of his Senior year. You could say that Jess fought for Rory in Season 2, when he was taking every opportunity to convince her that they were right for each other and even moved back to Stars Hollow for her after she visited him in New York. But then she left him hanging for the summer and from that point on, he seemed to doubt that Rory wanted to be with HIM. And I think that's the thing, here: Jess wants Rory to have what SHE wants. When he doesn't "fight for her," it's because he thinks she doesn't want him. He hasn't always done a good job of it, but I think his intent has been to respect her wishes. He will fight for Rory to be honest with herself, and he will fight for her to be true to herself and go for what she wants, but he wants the decision to be hers.
As much pressure as Logan's approach seemed to put on Rory at times (and there were definitely times when she seemed to feel trapped by it instead of "valued"), I do think Rory responded to it. She's the type of person who "needs to be needed," and Logan did a pretty good job of convincing her that he needed and wanted her (when he WANTED to. Is that healthy though, when he's occasionally been manipulative about it, and when it has to be on HIS terms? That's up for debate). And yeah, for better or worse, that's not something Jess tends to do (at least in his younger days). I don't see that as a long-term compatibility deal-breaker though. It would be a communication issue that they would have to work on, but every relationship, including healthy and successful ones, has some of those! (Ask me and my 13 year marriage if we ever have any misunderstandings along those lines? Neeeeever! By which I mean all the freaking time, haha!)
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