She was the founder of For Brown Girls and, later, the #DarkSkinRedLip Project, as well as several online movements celebrating…
Suffering Alone
She Tried to withdraw as she’d been doing for weeks and weeks. Withdraw the self to a safe place where husband, lover, teacher, workers, no one could follow, probe.
All Velma could summon now before her eyes were the things of her kitchen, those things she’d sought while hunting for the end. Leaves, grasses, buds dry but alive and still in jars stuffed with cork, alive but inert on the shelf of oak, alive but arrested over the stove next to the match box she’s reached toward out of habit, forgetting she did not want the fire, she only wanted the gas.
In The Salt Eaters Velma seems to be a women of great strength. She’s a community activist, has a wonderful career, a husband and son who she loves and who loves her right? So in some peoples eyes she had a great life. However, Velma’s life was not all what it seemed. She was suffering from severe depression but no one noticed until it was too late and she ended up in an infirmary after trying to take her own life. Often in the African American Community things such as depression and mental illness go unnoticed until it is to late. For African American women who are supposed to be the pillar of strength, the mother figure, the one every body can depend on it can become too much. However, the African American women often have no help coping because if depression is mentioned they are told to pray and let God handle it. They are often discouraged from seeking the medical treatment they need. African American women are treated like superwomen and the article that I am sharing tells the sad story of how two African American women that everyone assumed had everything going right killed themselves. It it like when a black woman is depressed she has to find some type of way to deal with the problem as often she doesn’t want to be shunned by the people in her own community. I plan to obtain my PhD in Psychology and I have often had people in my family question my decision to become a psychologist, insisting that black people don’t believe in that mess. It is a sad shame that so many African American women have had to suffer alone and have even taken their own lives because they never sought help. I feel that African Americans really need to become aware that mental illness is real and that it is okay to seek help if they are suffering. But if they never seek the help we will continue to see suicide rates increase in the African American community.
Nice post - I have to say that the Arab American community also stigmatizes mental illnesses. I can imagine how devastating it is for women suffering from illnesses to be marginalized by their community if they sought help. Stigmatizing mental illnesses and looking down on women who seek help creates significant issues in our society. Not too long ago, there was an incident in my hometown Dearborn where a man was shot and killed by someone he angered during a basketball game. I imagine that if our community was more open about seeking psychological help, the situation could have been prevented. Like your post acknowledges, there’s this unrealistic expectation for women to achieve some sort of perfection - if they show weakness in any aspect of their lives, they are shunned. This pressure causes women to harm themselves. Bambara’s novel really asks us to consider the different sites of violence that society creates.















