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Random stuff and occasionally sander sides related stuff! She/her pronouns! Artist of the icon can be found on the first link!

[vanilla-bean-buttercream]

When you realize that some people just want to be angry, they don't want to fix the problem, you'll understand.

[vanilla-bean-buttercream]

There was a person I worked with that no matter what you did, whether it be accidentally stepping on her foot or making a joke that failed to land, she'd hold it against you.

Even if you only did it once, and you apologized, and did better, she would still make the remark about what you did.

And one day, I got tired of it and I called her out on it. And asked her what I did wrong that made her so hateful of me. And it almost kind of made her reset a little. She didn't say anything but instead walked away. She never apologized, but she never brought up what I did again. It didn't stop her from doing it to other people either, but she left me alone.

It took me a long time to figure out why that happened, because it always bothered me, coming from a household where I would get blamed for things I didn't do or falling short of being what I was supposed to. And I was told sometimes, people are hurt so much, that when they're confronted with fixing the problem, they realize they have nothing left. They spent their whole lives being angry, that if that gets solved, they don't know who they are as a person.

And I think about that sometimes when people instantly jump to the negative and do nothing but criticize people.

[goldcrescent]

I also think that the strength gap is at least partially manufactured women would in fact be stronger overall if little girls were encouraged to do physically taxing games and activities and eat their fill while they’re growing vs having to constantly diet and be sedentary indoors (or god forbid do intense cardio while under-eating). The amount of adult women honestly afraid to lift weights bc they think they’ll get bulky as though bulking isn’t a full time job that athletes have to spend all their time on and anyone on earth gets shredded from just using their adult muscles for their intended purpose, girl your bone density 🥀

[goldcrescent]

if you say women are intentionally nerfed from birth in 2026 people look at you like you’re insane and start condescendingly telling you about how women are just better at different things (but not during their periods haha) but this was a completely basic feminist talking point I grew up with like “girls can do it too! [shot of little girls climbing and running with boys]” nickelodeon commercial tier base level I hate it how is everyone suddenly dumber than the average 7 year old

[kaity--did]

truly dads with new born babies v dads with children are two completely different people this man used to strap this child to his chest with a double chest wrap because he was terrified of giving her shaken baby syndrome and now he just kinda hucks her , I'll be sitting on the bed and all of a sudden my child just comes soaring towards me

[kaity--did]

Husband when child was newborn: you are my beautiful soft amazing little creature and I will be so gentle and lightly clean you softly and sing you sweet songs

Husband now that child is 4 years old: carries feral child upside down into the bathroom telling her she is a smelly little beast and she has to wash her butt while she sings him songs about spraying him with the shower head

[kaity--did]

Husband when child was newborn: "bath time and bed time is my special one on one time with my sweet baby angel where I tell her how special and soft and sweet she is and spend much needed time relaxing and getting her to relax and snuggling"

Husband now that child is 4 and "sturdy" (his words not mine): "bath time is my special time for hand to hand combat with my warrior princess where I teach her how to throw a punch and try to exhaust her enough that she passes out until tomorrow, and if that doesn't work I just start making deals like she's a mob boss and I am a desperate flunkie"

[kaity--did]

Husband when child was newborn: here is your hypoallergenic formula heated to the exact temperature that you need to have the thickening agent activate in a ulta double sterilized bottle my miracle NICU baby, it takes 25 -35 minutes to make but it is what we must do to keep you safe and healthy.

Husband now that child is 4: "I had to make her a breakfast snack of two eggs and toast before we go out to brunch because she was gnawing on the bars of her enclosure and I am frankly terrified of the small piranha she becomes when hangry."

[mysticorset]

Via @somanyofthekids

[uptownthots]

white people will literally be like if u arent nice to me Im going to become a nazi. and think they’re making a great argument

[uptownthots]

this stupid shit has been around for so long and it’s crazy to me there are still people with enough rocks in their brain to believe it. “Oughhhhh if you aren’t nice to you oppressors they’ll become bigots instead of allies” if someone’s support for marginalized groups hinges entirely on whether or not that group is niceys, they’re by definition not effective or useful allies and, by admission of this argument, an active danger to the communities theyre supposed to be allied with because they can Enter Bigot Mode the second they become displease

[what-even-is-thiss]

You know a lot of men make excuses about why they can’t be helpful but when my grandma is sick we physically can’t stop my severely disabled grandpa from trying to help her anyways. Bringing her favorite blankets to her even when she hasn’t asked for them and whatnot.

[what-even-is-thiss]

It’s very uncomfortable for him to lie down in a bed these days and he prefers to sleep on chairs but when she’s not feeling well he insists on lying down next to her in bed so he can make sure she’s doing okay.

So anyways people ask me why I don’t have a fully negative view of masculinity and I think this might answer your question.

[notahorseindisguise]

everytime i wear an outfit like this i think about this tweet

[slewfootwitch]

The thing about radical kindness (or any kindness, for that matter) is that there are going to be times when someone or something makes you regret it. There are going to be times when you show someone empathy and grace that they don't "deserve". There are going to be times when someone takes that kindness and uses it against you. The world doesn't magically transform into a perfect place when you decide to choose kindness and people will take advantage of it. People will continue to be shitty.

But the thing is...that's not a flaw of kindness. That's not a you problem. That's a them problem. People who are happy with themselves and their lives don't go out of their way to misuse someone's kindness or grace. The "normal" response to kindness or empathy is not to find a way to exploit it. People who are happy with themselves don't look for ways to hurt people for no reason. Kindness will never be the problem. No matter what some shitty person decides to do with it. It should go without saying not to be a doormat, yes. Don't allow people to treat you badly just for the sake of being kind. But also don't let shitty people make you bitter because of how they treated you when you were kind.

[wanderingcoasties]

“The LEGO Movie was my favorite movie of 2014, but it strikes me that the main character was male, because I feel like in our current culture, he HAD to be. The whole point of Emmett is that he’s the most boring average person in the world. It’s impossible to imagine a female character playing that role, because according to our pop culture, if she’s female she’s already SOMEthing, because she’s not male. The baseline is male. The average person is male. You can see this all over but it’s weirdly prevalent in children’s entertainment. Why are almost all of the muppets dudes, except for Miss Piggy, who’s a parody of femininity? Why do all of the Despicable Me minions, genderless blobs, have boy names? I love the story (which I read on Wikipedia) that when the director of The Brave Little Toaster cast a woman to play the toaster, one of the guys on the crew was so mad he stormed out of the room. Because he thought the toaster was a man. A TOASTER. The character is a toaster. I try to think about that when writing new characters— is there anything inherently gendered about what this character is doing? Or is it a toaster?”

— Bojack Horseman creator Raphael Bob-Waksberg commenting on how weird gendered defaults in entertainment are, and why we should think twice about them. Excerpted from this longer original post. (via 360degreesasthecrowflies)

[bisexualhunterbiden]

I need to remember that 90% of the people discussing politics on here are basically operating at this level of historical literacy.

[thancbread]

i love this reply in particular

[coyoteroadkill]

ive said this before but it was on my old blog so I'm saying it again

dehumanizing abusers is not effective at doing anything other than make people think they're ontologically incapable of violence

[ajunicetryagain]

it's also creating a class of people who you can abuse while telling yourself that you're Good and Moral and Not an Abuser.

[kyraneko]

if you dehumanize the caught abusers then the uncaught abusers will use their humanity as proof of innocence

if you dehumanize the hypothetical abusers you create incentives for false accusations as a means of dehumanization whenever dehumanization is desired for other reasons

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

what's the point of initiating conversations with people when 99.9% of them turn out to be normies

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

okay. how do I put this. if you approach interactions with strangers as if the vast majority of them are unbearable losers who aren't worth your time, you will find yourself not liking most of the people you meet because you'll be looking for any excuse to write them off as unbearable losers. I know this is hard to hear but sometimes the problem is you.

[what-even-is-thiss]

The only times I’ve ever really opened ChatGPT is to test if it’s any good now and to have super basic level Spanish conversations with it and it still doesn’t impress me on basically any level but if you wanna practice basic conversations about the color red without worrying about getting laughed at it’ll do

[what-even-is-thiss]

I really don’t understand how people are supposedly writing entire novels with this thing and thinking that it’s good. Every time I’ve tried to finagle it into writing something even vaguely passable I’ve been extremely disappointed.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Most of my interactions with AI chatbots outside of that time I worked on one as a moderator for like a week have been to stress test what they can actually do and I’ve just never been impressed by basically anything about them. I’ve found reliable information faster on Google, I’ve gotten more helpful resume tips by just running the thing past a family friend. I’ve gotten more creative writing prompts by talking to two year olds. I already know basic email etiquette. It’s just boring. Chatbots are boring.

[offshoreoilrig]

[nerdysuitwizard-blog]

@joy-and-whimsy-official

[joy-and-whimsy-official]

Joy and whimsy detected! This post is joyful and whimsical!

[gonzoloki28]

Some More Art

This is one of my favorite watercolor pieces. It's a Field of Lavender. I love how the colors flow in this painting. This is a small painting. I used some left over watercolor paper I had.

[loreleywrites]

you solve the mystery of what to have for dinner one night and you think "hell yeah case closed forever" WRONG there is a dinner mystery the next night too

[william-s-churros]

i think i saw a movie like this once

[maidslime]

Ok I needed to know the story and

Guy makes a really stupid decision and gets in a car accident -> no real damage from accident but insurance goes up -> starts beating himself up over his stupid decision -> gets depressed -> starts to realize he's single and had crash been worse he'd die alone -> realizes he's never had a relationship or even a crush and starts wondering what he'd want out of a relationship -> starts to realize he doesn't really like girls so he thinks he must be gay -> realizes he likes girls and boys about the same amount, so he must be bi -> later realizes that "same amount" is none at all -> he's ace

[william-s-churros]

i think i saw a movie like this once

[maidslime]

Ok I needed to know the story and

Guy makes a really stupid decision and gets in a car accident -> no real damage from accident but insurance goes up -> starts beating himself up over his stupid decision -> gets depressed -> starts to realize he's single and had crash been worse he'd die alone -> realizes he's never had a relationship or even a crush and starts wondering what he'd want out of a relationship -> starts to realize he doesn't really like girls so he thinks he must be gay -> realizes he likes girls and boys about the same amount, so he must be bi -> later realizes that "same amount" is none at all -> he's ace