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When men and women speak of dark skin women on social media the word “pretty” has to emphasized. We have to be pretty in order for people to like us. Like “Pretty dark skin women be poppin” or “I love some pretty dark skin women” or “Some dark skin women can be pretty” or “pretty for a dark skin girl”. The same standard isn’t held to white, non-black or light skin black/biracial women, because they’re already seen as pretty by default no matter what. Dark skin women have to fit into some exceptionally pretty mold before people give us any type of love or value.

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Lupita Nyong’o featured in Revista L'Officiel Brasil, 11/19/15.

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endofanera2021

Dark skin of a summer shade 🤗

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camillelapree

Say hello to Zoé ! :)

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The ‘Grind’ Paradox: 4 Ways To Work Smarter, Not Harder

Blavity writes:

It seems like everywhere we look, we’re bombarded with messages — some more blatant than others, to work harder, go faster and do more. We’re told to grind. We’re asked about ‘how hard we hustle’ on a daily basis. We’re told that if we don’t grind hard enough, then obviously we don’t want it badly enough. I suppose the it is referring to success, happiness, love or prosperity; but the idea of grinding is so deeply embedded in our vernacular now that people are out here grinding to buy shoes, catch trains and get their ‘gram followers up. (You want that last donut; you need to get your grind up, son, hustle hard, there are not enough donuts for everyone.) Chill.

My people, my people, yes, we’re strong and we’re most certainly capable, but let’s pause for a moment and reflect on the literal definition of the word ‘grind’: to reduce to fine particles by pounding. The word grind is often followed by the adverb ‘away.’ We are, without exaggeration, being encouraged to work ourselves into oblivion! What the what? As people of color, we carry the world on our backs, and have been for centuries; however, this sense of impending doom and urgency that motivates some to “grind,” “hustle,” and “go hard” isn’t sustainable in the long term. It’s time we acknowledge that self-care is just as important as the grind. It’s a two-part dilemma: In order to grind, you need to be whole.

We need to work smarter, not harder, and here are four ways you can boost motivation and productivity without losing your mind.

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Dreamy Whites

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Spring is in the Air by Khalid Rosemin

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radtransfem

Most Black women still do not receive the respect and treatment - mollycoddling and condescending as it sometimes is - afforded White women. So when these Black women complain about not wanting to lose their femininity, they are referring to something quite different. The difference has to be understood in an analysis of how the classic “feminine characteristics” are viewed in relation to Black women.

Gloria Joseph and Jill Lewis, Common Differences: Conflicts in Black and White Feminist Perspectives (South End Press, 1981), p27 (via radtransfem)

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