Is one day too long to make someone wait on accepting a CR?
I started a trade with someone before I left for my cousin’s wedding this past weekend. I had been meaning to check back on FR throughout the day, but I was too busy with IRL stuff that I didn’t get back to the buyer until later the next day. When I messaged them, they were very rude and sarcastic to me and it started a big dramatic mess.
Here’s the full story, with screenshots and all the drama. Can you please tell me if I’m in the wrong here? I can accept my part of the blame, but I also think the buyer’s reaction was unnecessary. Please correct me if I’m wrong.
I was in the Find a Dragon forums looking to sell some hatchlings when I happened upon this thread searching for a level 25 dragon.
I had a dragon that met all their criteria, and I thought I’d offer it to them early that morning. (Friday, 2:26pm. keep in mind, I’m 3 hours ahead of FR time.)
They responded, asking for the dragon for a full 50 gems less than I was offering. I run an art shop, however, so money has never been a huge deal to me on this site.
I saw their message and accepted their offer on Friday, 11:18pm.
I went to bed shortly after. When I woke up, I saw that they had replied to me at 2:49am while I was asleep.
I sent my CR on Saturday at about 9am. I have no screenshots of this since I didn’t think I would need one at the time, but I do have the timestamp from when this user made changes to the CR. They saw the CR on Saturday, 11am.
I left for the wedding (which was in the next state over, a 2 hour drive away) at 12pm. I had wanted to check back on FR a few times throughout the day, but I just didn’t have the time to do so.
I logged into FR on Sunday at about 8pm, shortly after I’d gotten home from the hotel. The first thing I noticed was that I’d had several notifications, all between Saturday night and Sunday morning.
Unfortunately, when i tried to read what the messages said, I was met with this.
Since the buyer had canceled the trade, I had no idea what they’d been trying to tell me. So, I went back to their thread to check if maybe they’d changed their mind about the dragon.
I was met with this reply
Which I found to be unnecessarily sarcastic and passive aggressive.
I can admit I lost my cool a tad bit here, but I unapologetically refused to be disrespected when i had done nothing wrong. It was immature of me, but I never cared about the money anyway, and why would I want to continue speaking with someone who has 0 respect for my time?
They responded with this even ruder, more sarcastic, extra aggressive response.
This is where I want to know what you guys think. Do you think my stance is valid? Was it fair of me to assume that they wouldn’t mind waiting a day. Again, I can admit I was a bit immature.
However, the way they fail to see, or perhaps just ignore, how much of an unpleasant, sarcastic, rude person they’d been in their responses to me thus far solidifies my view of them ‘having a fit’.
For my final reply, I decide to be the bigger person and apologize for the way things got out of hand, and for making them wait, despite the fact that I don’t think I’m in the wrong, I can recognize that they’re unhappy, and I can be a decent human being and apologize.
Please tell me your opinion on this matter. I always want to be fair with everyone, that’s just how I am. If I was out of line, or if it was rude of me not to mention the wedding, I can own up to that.