How to survive a heartbreak in less than 10 steps: 1. The moment you feel your heart starts to crack, close your eyes. Take deep breaths. A lot of deep breaths. And spend the whole night on your bed thinking about how stupid you’re to end up in such a pathetic situation. Think about everything from the day you met them to present. Think about the things you planned to do with them and everything you did with them. Think. Think till you lose your sanity. 2. Cry. There’s no shame in crying. Cry till your eyes bulge out. Cry till you have to turn over your pillow cause your pillow case is too wet for you to lay your head on. Continue crying again. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to let out everything. Believe me, you’ll feel great after nice session of crying. And repeat whenever required. 3. Wake up next day and take a long ass shower. Let the water wash away the pain from last night from the roots of your hair to the tip of your toes. Talk to yourself in the shower. Say everything you wanted to tell them. Every single word. Just say it out to the walls of your bathroom. Because you don’t have to swallow those words just for them to be stuck at the back your throat like acidic bile. So say it out loud. They deserve to be spoken out. 4. Get all the chocolates out from the fridge and grab a water bottle and watch back to back episodes of your favorite series. Eat, keep eating till your mouth loses the taste of how their name tasted on the tip of your tongue. Drink water, you don’t wanna choke and die. Seriously though. 5. Go to a park. Sit down. You must be tried of chasing someone who didn’t want to be caught in the first place. Give yourself some rest. Watch the children play. Admire the beauty of the flowers. Look at the clouds. Feel the fresh air around you. And if there aren’t many people around, go play in the swings and slides. 6. Write. Write till your fingers get cramped. Write down every single thing you felt and feel. Write even though you’re running out of metaphors. Write how science cannot explain how you felt your heart drop right from your chest. And repeat ‘step 2’ if necessary. 7. Don’t check the screenshots of their Snapchat. Don’t read your chat logs. Just don’t. It’s a very bad idea. It’s better you just delete them one by one. Yeah it’s gonna be hard to delete months load of screenshots and even harder to delete your chat log. But it’s for the best. 8. I won’t say that there are plenty of fishes in the sea cause you’re pretty much done fishing for an entire decade, or more. So learn to love yourself. Spend more time reading books. If you don’t like reading watch series again. Keep yourself busy by doing anything that will keep your mind from wandering into their footsteps. 9. Don’t brew hatred within you. Forgive yourself. The sorrows will go away. Your broken heart will mend. All you need is some time. And it’s okay to get your heart broken. And it’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel all these emotions. Because that’s what makes you human. __( keep repeating till the day your heart doesn’t ache to the sound of their name.)
—Mahin Ismail
