hyperfixation on main

It's just me and my broom against the world

[wizardarchetypes]

i think avoidance is such a little-recognized ocd compulsion. all the time i talk to people with ocd who are like "i was always having intrusive thoughts about using kitchen knives and harming myself or others but i'm okay now because i just stopped using knives ever 👍 so i'm good now"

and i'm like unfortunately i have bad news.

[wizardarchetypes]

if you don't know why this doesn't work, the issue is that ocd never stops when you implement a compulsion. it evolves. today you've "solved" it by never using a knife again (and losing access to an important cooking tool, thus limiting an aspect of your life) but in a few months or a year it'll be that forks are dangerous too. and hey, isn't it risky to use the stove? avoidance will even begin to manifest in places you might not recognize.

the point is that OCD compulsions are never solutions, they're actually the problems. the intrusive thoughts SEEM like the problem and the compulsions FEEL like the solution. and that's how it getsya.

[chamomile-teabag]

WHAT ARE YALL READING RN you must tell me

[hazeleks]

Fairy! Murderbot and Plant! ART Close up under read more:

[this-is-trans-joy]

I think if you bully trans girls for their style or interests or hobbies, especially if they’re just starting out exploring and discovering themselves and their identities, then honestly please shut up and refrain from making your opinion their problem. Girls who love spinny skirts and thigh highs and hyperpop music and plushies are cool as fuck and the only thing you should be doing is buying them even more of the things they love!!

[themysteriousthem]

this also goes for trans boys too btw. boys who love cavetown and play ukulele and love bugs and cut their own hair and wear the same baggy hoodie every day. or the guys six months on T with patchy facial hair and voices that break. or non binary people with noun names and neopronouns.

overall you just have to love trans people, especially the "stereotypical", obviously trans people, more than you hate transphobes. because if drag down your own community over what you think is "cringe", you're just as bad as the transphobes you hate.

[nbpsiioniic]

people who say they're "gooning" when they're just simply jacking off is like if people said they were "binging" when they're having a snack.

[highlandkall]

as much as i get the sentiment behind "make more bad art" there's gotta be a better way of communicating "you don't have to be technically proficient or hold yourself to a specific standard of practice" that doesn't sound as backhanded lol

[vamp-orwave]

Instagram article from Fifty Shades of Gay

[eldritchbauble]

Your therapist can't diagnose people you talk about in session, including confirming armchair diagnoses that you made.

Any commentary they make in response to you raising the issue of someone else's diagnoses should be something to the effect of "it's possible that they have x disorder, but it's more important to focus on how their behavior affects you / the relationship."

If your therapist says "you parents are narcissists" or "your ex is a sociopath," that either didn't happen, or they're creating an ethical violation.

They aren't allowed to diagnose someone who isn't their client, i.e. has consented to treatment.

Even if they were allowed to do that, your secondhand account of that person doesn't constitute an assessment.

Even if they were allowed to do that and could use your secondhand account, they wouldn't be able to tell you about someone else's diagnoses because of confidentiality.

Further, your therapist can't diagnose you with "narcissistic abuse syndrome" etc. because it doesn't exist. There are no legitimate diagnoses based on the (speculative!!!) diagnoses of an abuser; you're likely talking about complex PTSD, which commonly results from abuse (including emotional abuse).

I don't trust therapists who slap diagnoses on their clients' abusers. You shouldn't either. You should know the basics of clinical boundaries and the correct terms for things so that you don't feed into stigma or put up with a therapist who's willing to engage in unethical practice.

If they're focused on diagnosing your abuser, they've got blinders on and won't be able to objectively evaluate your situation to help you heal. Ultimately, telling someone that their abuser is a special type of person and they have a special type of trauma rather than focusing on behavior, impact, and symptoms isn't good therapy and it won't help you heal.

[dayvan]

i love how whenever something gets popular the underground tormented avant garde bloggers start becoming self conscious of liking it/finding it funny, and it eventually evolves into aggression towards it. doesnt matter what it is. unrelated but i saw someone call isopods cringe today

[schafpudel]

#saw someone include “thinking possums are cool” as part of their critique of an imaginary strawman earlier

[third-thoughts]

Both isopods and possums sound like something the avant garde bloggers would have been all about until everyone else realised they were cool too

[genderkoolaid]

and they’ve always gotta throw in some exorsexism too just to make their embarrassment the problem of nonbinary people

[surkeart]

be free!!

[gingik]

[writers-solace]

I don't think Tolkien is a good fantasy writer because he scored the highest at some objective Best Fantasy Book Test that every fantasy writer has to take, I think he's a good fantasy writer because he created a world based on things that he was interested in. I feel like a lot of fantasy writers think that they need to create a whole language for their world because Tolkien did and obviously his books are the best so they have to emulate him, but Tolkien did that because he was a linguistics nerd. I think the lesson to be learned from him is not that you have to include elves and deep history and new languages, but that you have to write endlessly about the things you are a huge nerd about and use those things to create your fantasy world

[vastwinterskies]

good thing they didnt have Grindr during the age of sail imagine coming into range of the enemy and in the tense quiet before the storm all your officers' phones go off

[dent-de-leon]

The rush of serotonin I feel about seeing Taliesin play beloved Kingsley Tealeaf in a King character-driven oneshot. The potential for so much character and relationship development, seeing Kingsley really take up the mantle of Plank King, but also--finally really let his walls down. Letting himself finally admit he needs the Nein.

The fact that the campaign ends on so many hanging threads we never get to revisit. Kingsley still waking with nightmares of a, "primal, alien scream," black chains shattering in the Astral Sea. Will he ever admit that still haunts him...? Would he have the courage to tell any of them, instead of just running...? "And maybe those chains will find some quiet in piracy." (We also don't know anything about what Tealeaf was up to during C3 and the solstice--will we possibly get a glimpse of that...?)

Kingsley who refused to look into Molly's past at first, but finally, "reads that book. And goes to visit...and learn." Will we ever see the effect of that journey...? Kingsley resolving to embark on it...? Yasha and Kingsley still being so close and fond for each other--Yasha coming down to Darktow to visit from time to time. Kingsley taking the time to ask many of the Nein what they think of Molly, of Lucien--how he's tried to change for the better, to do right by them.

Kingsley falling for Caleb when he finally opens his eyes again for the first time; his first crush--potentially first love. Feelings that were mutual in the last episode of the campaign. Do they still linger...? Does King ever get to explore those feelings with him more, since he was so forward before...? And what does he think of Essek--?

Also, if Kingsley still has the Fang of the Spire King, then I'll just drop this excerpt from The Armory of Heroes here, because oh...the Nein were hunting followers of the Cloaked Serpent before Total Party Kill. How dangerous would it be for Kingsley if he still had the relic of such a terrifying god in his possession--

[nbpsiioniic]

Kingsley centric M9 liveshow??!!!??

[bestiolin]

Cat finger ring made of faience, dating to the New Kingdom of Egypt, 18th Dynasty, c. 1390 BC.

[witharmswideopen95-deactivated2]

i kept asking the guy working there “why are they beeps” and he was laughin and then i didnt buy any and he told me “no beeps?????” rly softly and me and matthew lost it