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Was mentallyexhaustedcatgirl and got banned for ?????

Im honestly not sure

Looking for my moots

human susie :3

nichijou wiki is a goldmine

gregtom

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Happy Pride

mylo-lolz

"You're just angry that you're being treated like a (cisgender) man" "This is what you're asking for" like you treat us as you do cisgender men

Like you have the standards for masculinity as high for cisgender men as you do for transmascs.

Like you would tell a cisgender man he "isn't even trying" if he puts on a dress or wears makeup in the way you would a transmasc.

Like you would take away your respect for a cisgender man's gender identity so quickly as soon as you don't like them in the way you would a transmasc.

Like you would tell a cisgender boy nearing puberty that he's going to get fat and bald and hairy and ugly like you would tell a transmasc getting testosterone soon.

Like you would ask a cisgender man if it's his "man hormones" making him upset in the way that you'd ask a transmasc if he's angrier because he's taking testosterone. (Which is just rebranded "are you on your period? You're moody" fyi)

It's almost like you see our gender identity as men inherently invalid or something we need to jump through hoops in order to prove.

You don't treat us as equal. You treat us as equal if we continuously prove we're equal, if we go above and beyond, if we put on a show for you, if we deny our own oppression while still allowing you to oppress us. That's not equality. Because the standards we hit will never be high enough for you.

Notes: do not bean soup theory this post. Do not make it out like talking about my oppression is inherently harmful. I block misgendering, transphobia, homophobia, and other forms of bigotry on sight. I will only debate with you if you're willing to be as open minded as I will be. I match energy. I do not strictly mean transgender men in the gender binary when I say transmasc and assuming I do repeatedly will result in a block.

genderkoolaid

never forget about katherine hepburn's tboy swag

genderkoolaid

yknow what aggravates me is how both hepburn & pauli murray (and potentially LM alcott although I know less about them) are people we, i think, can generally consider part of transmasculine history based on how they described themselves. we can't know what modern words they would have used, but they share many experiences with people who today identify as transmasc, so they should be recognized as part of our history. and both are credited for their anti-patriarchal actions and defying of gender roles. & with both I see this assumption that if they were cis women, every act of gender non conformity and defiance of stereotypes around women was them fighting for women's rights– but if they were transmasc, then their motivations must have been entirely selfish and essentially feminist on accident. they just appeared feminist because they were cis men in the bodies of women, basically. the experience of cis womanhood is seen as a valid motivator for resisting patriarchy, but not transmasculinity. why? why is it assumed that transmascs are selfish and keen to go along with the patriarchy, or only resist based on the notion that they think they personally shouldn't experience misogyny because they aren't women?

if someone puts on pants and defies misogynistic demands put on women and they are a cis women, they are a feminist icon, but if they do the same thing and are transmasc, its... a disapointment? patriarchal? i wish so badly that we can get to a point where people can appreciate transmasculinity as something radical and which can be a powerful motivator for feminist action in and of itself. i wish we can get to a point where transmasculinity and feminism are not treated like oil and water, where transmasculinity isn't seen as a corrupted failed version of proper womanhood (whether that's being a housewife or a "womyn-identified womyn").

and it especially hurts when it comes to those two figures because neither of them were able to be openly transmasc. pauli murray was labeled schizophrenic and nearly institutionalized for trying to seek HRT and by the time transmasc healthcare started being more widely performed, they were under heavy scrutiny already as a civil rights activist working in the government. hepburn's entire career was, ultimated, based on them being a beautiful actress. i will never stop thinking of how many transmasculine ancestors just... held those feelings close to their chest and played the role of woman for the sake of their spouse or their children or their job or their politics. and how we're expected to celebrate this as the ultimate feminist gesture which any possible transmasculinity threatens the legitimacy of.

cis woman ≠ feminist icon. it's not "was this person a feminist icon or transmasc?" because it can be fucking both. cis women– and women in general– do not have the sole claim to feminist knowledge or action. transmasculine history is part of feminist history. we have been here the whole goddamn time. we have been fighting alongside you the whole goddamn time. transmascs have been inspired by cis women who resist patriarchy; why are cis women incapable of being inspired by transmascs?

genderkoolaid

i mean just look at this guy

genderkoolaid

#i’ve done some dives into both jimmy and lou . and i feel incredibly confident they were both men.#jimmy had relationships with gay men and women that he noticeably did not consider sapphic#lou dressed up as a man at parties. his father called him son. his family called him brother. he said he has a man’s soul.#our history is so rich you just have to dig and dig and dig through everyone who does everything in their power to obsfucate it

on this note. there are already so many rules for when you are "allowed" to describe a historical figure could be transmasc (even though that term is extremely broad and includes many kinds of identities). there is such a SPECIFIC kind of narrative we are taught to expect from transmasc history. masculine cis-passing heterosexual man (9/10 white) completely disconnected from his childhood or past living as a woman, who lives a life near indistinguishable from a cis man until he's outed.

one can't help but wonder just how much transmasc history gets buried and erased and "we just can't possibly say!"-ed because trans men&mascs are not allowed to exist outside of a narrative that makes misogyny a footnote at best.

like, i saw another post on Jimmy in which someone in the notes basically summed up their perspective of their gender as "maybe she was a trans man maybe she just didn't like the expectations of women." i mentioned the pauli murray thing above. its always always always "trans OR feminist" "trans OR navigating misogyny" and with Jimmy, Lou, and Pauli, all three of them could very easily have been transmasculine people who simply did not / could not run away and start an entirely new life completed dissociated from anyone who ever knew them and spend their entire life hiding.

misogyny keeps transmasculine people in the closet & then our transmasculinity is pitted against the misogyny we experience! your experience and even identity as a transmasculine person can be fundamentally shaped by living in a society which actively works to trap you as a submissive obedient housewife, and then you have people debating over whether you had negative feelings about being forced into that role OR if you were a trans guy (and thus implicitly fine with / unaffected by misogyny). HELL WORLD!!!!!!!!

genderkoolaid

#so many people are utterly incapable of conceiving that someone might have both the attitude#i am pushing back against gendered expectations for women being put onto me because they are unjust#AND also the attitude#i am pushing back against gendered expectations for women bc i am not a woman#so many ppl see someone distancing themself from womanhood and immediately see that as proof that they are in support of women being oppres#once again it all boils down to ppl being incapable of not perceiving transmasculinity as inherently misogynistic

balaclava-trismegistus

The person making the video says battle jackets were popularized by Rob Halford and Lemmy "Kill-mister." Poser death squad now.

dankxsinatra

weepingwidar

Kay Seohyung Lee (Korean, 1995) - RPG (2026)

Meanwhile this was what various medical professionals in that reddit thread had to say about it.

They do not, in fact, love it.

fittingoutjane

The proof that chiropractic is an utterly failed medical profession is not that adjustments can cause harm, but that the profession has responded by ignoring and denying the harm, rather than studying it.

All medical treatments (other than complete placebos) have some risk of harm, but for real treatments given by real professionals, the harms are tracked, measured and warned about. If the harms are too severe, the treatment is no longer used.

robotslenderman

One of my colleagues was a chiropractor. After a while he began to suspect that a lot of his patients actually just had muscle tears, not spinal issues. He bought an ultrasound machine, learned how to use it and how to read ultrasound, and found that to be the case. Between that and the constant pressure from management to get customers (because lbr, they're not patients, they're customers), he got sick and tired of it and bailed to become a sonographer full time.

And before people pipe up with "but my chiro is good, they have me do exercises and so on!" that's just regular ass physiotherapy. See a physiotherapist. A lot of people who sing the praises of chiros because they saved them from chronic pain would have gotten the same benefits from seeing an actual licensed physio, who can prescribe the same or even better exercises because they have an actual fucking education.

wisteria-wolf

The amount of fucking charts I've seen where a patient went to a chiropractor and now needs a surgery is fucking insane. All I do is medical charts, day in and day out doing medical code. I've gone over hundreds of patients whole year of appointments. Unless the chiropractor is also a physical therapist, that patient is going to get worse and need surgery with very few exceptions. It doesn't matter when they mention seeing a chiropractor, by the end of the year they need surgery for issues that started after *shock and awe* a chiropractor appointment! I've seen patients needing multiple surgeries to be functional after chiropractors. I've seen patients lose their ability to walk because of chiropractors. And all the way up till they need surgery, through the issues piling up and needing more pain meds, the patients insist it's helping because the want so badly for it to be helping. I wish it did

mikilavellan

pssst guys if you think you need a chiropractor, you may actually need is a Sports Medicine Doctor, Physical Therapist, or a physiotherapist like robotslenderman said:

Are your bones pinching? Are you recovering from an injury? PT is your answer. Sometimes your joints need to be lubed. Exercises can help. Make sure they a) watch you do the exercises to make sure you're doing them correctly and b) ask you where you're feeling the stretch to ensure that the muscle they want targeted is what's being targeted. Otherwise you're just making the muscles compensating for the weak one even stronger. My first PT taught me how to return my hip into place. Wonderful folks.

Do your fucking anything and everything muscles hurt and are always tight? Do you have fibromyalgia or some similar bullshit? Do you always need a fucking massage? Myofascial pain management (referred pain & trigger points from knotted muscles) can help your spine and literally everything a lot. This website is my best friend. Massaging or rolling a tennis ball over the points causing referred pain can really help. If it's really dire, TENS and similar machines can help. My doctor uses a Acuscope & myopulse on my trigger points when I need to be put back together like a broken robot.

Are you pretty convinced your symptoms are connected but no one can prove it because they're only looking at one area? You may benefit from osteopathy: NOTE: NOT some random person who calls themselves an osteopath that bc they use "holistic" pseudo science, you want someone with a doctorate in Osteopathic Medicine (DO). Their thing is looking at the body as a whole.

Is your blood not in the right place? is your tongue kinda blue? Acupuncture. It doesn't hurt as much as you think it will. Science gone back and forth a couple of times as to whether acupuncture is effective, and found that for some things it can be! Note I'm biased bc I have several of the conditions it's been proved to help with. Having your blood suddenly In the Right Place after years of it not being Right can make you feel high.

"Ok but seriously I think something is very very wrong with my spine": Orthopedics. Esp if you have numbness or tingling. I also had luck with a sports medicine doctor that incorporated some chiropractic techniques, specifically a spine gun. At no point did he put his hands on my spine and was really clear that what he diplomatically called "non-gentle" chiropractic methods such as the gonstead method don't actually help in the long term because your muscles will just pull your spine out of place again if that's where they're used to being. Like wisteria-wolf said, if someone is using these techniques, you want them to be a physical therapist (or something similar) my doctor's use of this was for heavy duty shit: apparently my muscles were holding up my body instead of my spine. I also went to a guy who said he was a chiropractor then once he gets people in there it's like "Sike!" all physiotherapy bc no one knows what physiotherapy is.

Source: I have been in all these offices a fucking ton

sailermoon

this is how new yorkers @ mamdani

sailermoon

excitedrainbow

IT’S LITERALLY HAPPENING LMAOOOOO

april

cats are really good at looking at things. very useful

april

having two cats essentially means you have a bug and rodent triangulation system. if they are both looking somewhere you know for damn sure there is some unauthorised fucking thing there.