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Sundays are made for deliciously intimate snuggles like these…

But then again, what days aren’t?

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It is not all about darkness and possession. Dominance includes a huge protective instinct towards all those held close to our heart.

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He brought me up to my knees and gently removed the ball gag, dripping with my spit.

“Are you ok?” he said, looking at me. “Can you breathe alright?”

I nodded and gave him a little smile.

“I’m going to feel this mouth,” he said, putting his fingers inside. He rotated them around and felt at the back of my throat, watching my face the whole time.

“Suck my fingers,” he ordered. I did, relishing how I could relax my mouth now. My tongue felt so much better, too.

“Good,” he encouraged. “What about here? Nothing sore or hurt?”

He felt my lips and chin. I shook my head and smiled more.

‘What’s your name?” I told him. “Where are you?” I replied again.

“Good girl,” he said, sincerely, kissing my forehead. He brought me in for a big hug and stroked my hair.

“You were so brave and sexy back there, baby. You did so well. I’m proud of you.” I clung to him, burying my face in his chest. The tears started to fall now, soft and releasing.

“That’s my girl,” he soothed, still stroking my hair. “Let it out, just hold onto me. It’s ok, baby.”

“I’m sorry!” I sobbed. “I don’t know why…I don’t want to ruin anything…”

“You aren’t ruining anything, sweetheart. Just let it out. It’s ok. I have you. Things were a little intense there, that’s all.” He was rocking me now, arms around me like a vise.

We stayed like that for a few minutes as my tears dried. He whispered to me, caressed my hair and shoulders, softly touched my ear and neck. I felt warm and protected, finally perfectly content. Then he turned my face up to his.

“How about a nice warm bath and you can tell me all about it, baby?”

“Yes, Sir,” I replied, giving him a big smile.

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The best kind of dominant\submissive

\partner\etc is the one who asks you what you're NOT into. What your limits are, what your fears are, what you DON'T like.

People who want to respect your boundaries and respect you are the best kind of people for you.

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isn’t it amazing how life just passes by? milestones come out of nowhere and leave in a flash. there’s not a single moment one can be in for more than just that: a moment. they come and go in waves, a crazy phenomenon that has never happened before and will never happen again. children are born and grow old in a small collection of those moments. there’s nothing one can hold and grasp for a lifetime. there’s nothing one can have for eternity. there is no baby that comes into the world and stays a baby for more than what feels like a single day. we laugh and cry, but only for a moment.

so if today, you’re feeling down, remember. it is simply a moment, one of many more moments that will be filled with happiness and laughter. that might also only last for a single moment, but that is the way of life. we all chase after those happy moments, and while they may not always be with us, while they may pass us by in a flash, slipping through our fingers, these are the moments that make all the others worth it. these are the moments that make life worth living.

so if you’re thinking today that it isn’t worth it anymore, that you can’t chase those moments anymore, remember: this small singular moment will pass on. you will find another amazing moment, one that is only for you, that has never happened before and shall never happen again. keep going for those happy, laughter filled moments.

keep your head up, kid. you’ve got this.

C. R. Kristofferson

onelittlekingdom

Limits

As a submissive, you are not obligated to take part in every kink that your partner is interested in. Due to past trauma or other objectionable reasons, there may be activities that you don’t wish explore. The listing of these types of subjective and objectionable activities are referred to as your limits.

Limits need to be clearly communicated to any partner you engage in D/s activities with, whether it is someone you intend to be your dominant for years to come, or someone you meet at a party and want an evening of play with. Failure to clearly express your limits to a partner can result in anything between minor consent issues, up to and including lasting trauma. As a submissive, it is your responsibility to make sure every partner you play with knows what they are, and that they adhere to them.

If you are a Dom or top, it is your responsibility to make sure you are aware and mindful of your partner’s limitations before and during periods of play. If it has been a while since you discussed and reviewed your partner’s limits, it would be wise of you to check in from time to time, and make sure you have them all in mind, and are able to successfully navigate a scene around them.

It is the bottom’s/sub’s responsibility to communicate their limits to partner(s). It is a top/Dom’s responsibility to receive and know these limits. If both parties take their responsibility in this regard seriously, consent issues born out of ignorance should not occur.

Limits are not set in stone at the beginning of a relationship. They are a list of kinks you do not CURRENTLY wish to explore, and therefore will evolve and change as you evolve and have more experiences. A limit can be removed from your list and be explored anytime you come to find your attitude has changed about it. New limits can be added either on a temporary or permanent basis if you discover new or existing kink has become disturbing or triggering. Because of the fluid nature of a list of limits, I will reiterate that it is important you communicate changes of your limits to your partner(s), and that your partner should periodically check in to make sure you have an opportunity to express these changes in your limits.

Limits are not solely held by bottoms and/or subs. Tops and Doms have limits too, and it is likewise their responsibility to communicate them to their partner(s), and should be periodically revisited by their partner(s).

The purpose of limits are to create a roadmap of obstacles that your partner must navigate around during a scene. The purpose of limits is not to control your immediate environment every time something occurs that is out of your current comfort zone. An argument between you and a partner cannot become an instant limit when you decide it isn’t going well, or you’ve decided you’ve had enough. To do so erodes the seriousness of limits within D/s culture, at a time when simple human interaction and communication should suffice in resolving the situation.

Limits should always be accepted at face value, and a partner should never challenge or try and wear your resolve about them down in order to explore one of your limits. A Dom or top may not forbid you to have a certain limit, or a list of limits. Limits are a basic right in D/s culture.

JD

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“You don’t destroy people you care about. That’s not how it works, that should never be an option. Choose laughter. Choose peace. Choose love.”

— R.M. Drake

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You Should Know:

Yes, there are ABSOLUTELY situations where a sub can and should say, “no”. When your safety and/or physical or mental health is at risk, say, “NO”. Have a “meta talk”™ ( @instructor144 ) with your partner, explain why you said, “no”, and re-evaluate. Speak up!

I’m not talking about mental/physical abuse here, call the police in that case. Don’t think that you’re a bad sub for saying, “no” for those reasons and for the same reasons you shouldn’t feel bad about using your safe word/signal. Your mental and physical health/safety is paramount! Safe, Sane, and Consensual practices are nonnegotiable, period.

— Sir Daddy