it takes strength to be gentle and kind

ari || they/he/she || stark industries intern || certified punkrocker || sideblog

[nevereclipse]

marvel fanboy primarily, but I dabble in other fandoms. deal w it.

sam wilson defense squad. tony stark's daughter. bucky and steve my loves. multishipper but most of what you'll see is stony, winteriron or on the rare occassion stuckony.

i am a massive queer :)). i am trans genderqueer and bisexual. if you have a problem with that, fuck off my blog. also, i am pretty anti-thunderbolts (tbolts bucky doesn't exist to me) so deal with that too!!

dividers by @kittys-graphics

[mxmorbidmidnight]

Nazis will never be welcome in paganism. They have no space in our communities, we will have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to nazis. You have no right to the cultures, gods and religions you hijack to spread your disgusting ideologies. You will find no refuge or comraderie amongst pagans.

Reblog to let nazis know they’re not welcome here.

[antwriterr]

ace4ace tonygrace.... oh lordy....

[enthyrea]

rip tony stark you woulda loved ryland grace

[userfish]

this pride month we’re all going to be radically pro transgender. or else.

[userfish]

hey so this means radically pro ALL transgender. don’t put limitations on this. all trans people are radically accepted here.

[alexthedeactivated-deactivated2]

Depressing arc reactor headcanons.

1. The arc reactor freezes when it’s too cold causing severe pain to the surrounding muscles.

2. If left in the sun it superheats like the seat belt buckle in your car and can burn Tony.

3. It decreases Tony’s lung capacity far below that of your average human.

4. Tony has asthma.

5. Once the arc reactor is removed Tony begins to function without chronic pain and is absolutely amazed at how easy everything is.

[kahuna-burger]

6. Tony loves singing, but the reactor won’t let him take deep enough breaths to really sing anymore. Sometimes he’ll forget and start singing along with the music in his workshop, but then that big part in any song comes along and he tries to breathe in for it and ends up doubled over in pain.

[doodlegirl1998]

@koalablu

[dorian-the-grey]

7. Anytime someone hugs Tony it puts pressure on the arc which restricts his lungs and makes it impossible to breathe. So now he avoids being hugged.

[colorfulblades]

8. Tony can’t lie down on his stomach anymore because the surface shoves the arc reactor deeper into his chest, moving around the surrounding muscles, lungs and ribs. 

[koalablu]

9. Hiccups hurt. The diaphragm is spasming and pushing the lungs upwards into space that is no longer there. They would hit the reactor.

10. Major thoracic muscles like the pectorals in the chest and the external oblique and rectus abdominis in the abdomen are displaced. Extending his arms above his head would be painful as would bending forward or backward to far.

11. His immune system is compromised. He would be prone to things like: cold and flu, pneumonia and chest infections.

12. The skin around the reactor would be like an open wound as skin can’t bond with metal. Shifting could cause slight bleeding and it’s an entrance for bacteria.

13. The asthma and decreased lung capacity makes it dangerous to take narcotic pain killers.

14. Chronic pain saps your energy. He would be exhausted constantly. And not just tired like ‘oh, I’m yawning maybe I should go to bed’. It’s a pervasive mental and physical exhaustion that won’t just go away because you sleep.

15. ‘Painsomia’ not being able to sleep because he’s in to much pain. And the arc reactor would make it very difficult to find a comfortable position.

16. People who think he’s making up excuses to get out of things. That the pain isn’t that bad or it’s psychosomatic, that he should try harder or why he can’t manage something today that he did yesterday.

17. The fact that he probably doesn’t trust a doctor to come withing a mile of the arc reactor, so doesn’t seek help.

18. That even having the reactor removed doesn’t negate that parts of his lungs were cut out, muscles displaced, ribs cut short to make room for the reactor or the fact that his sternum was entirely removed.

[fotibrit]

tony stark who keeps the arc rector in his chest despite it no longer being medically necessary. Tony keeping it because it is his penance. Tony keeping it because it is his proof to himself that he can survive. Tony keeping it because he doesn’t deserve to breathe easy anymore, after letting Obie run the place. Tony keeping it as an emergency backup plan, in case he ever needs to strategically get a lot of attention from the media. Tony keeps the arc reactor in his chest because removing it at this point would remove most of his chest muscle and he just can’t stand feeling like a powerless scrawny 16 year old kid again. Tony keeps it because it’s a good reminder to himself that being a party boy isn’t an option anymore.

Tony who keeps the arc reactor long past necessary, because he doesn’t want to go back to feeling purposeless. They put protective metal over his heart and now his job is to do the same to the world. Removing it feels like giving up. (living pain free feels like giving up).

[fotibrit]

Tony’s birthday after the cave, before Obie reveals his true colors. Obie makes it a surprise party. He likes roses Tony flustered, likes to see how he performs when he’s caught off his game. Obie invites the usual hoards of women eager to sleep with the embodiment of success, who care very little about the man experiencing it. Men with expensive cologne and even more expensive child support bills, all piled into a space Tony expected to be safe.

He wasn’t warned, of course. The welcome feels like the Hum-vee is falling over. The first arm slung around his shoulders is Obie’s, of course. Tony covers the arc reactor out of pure instinct, terrified at all the strangers and trying to save face.

Obie parades him around, tells him that leaving the business of war means he’s got to go full force on the business of partying. Tony can’t put a name to Obie’s glare, but if he could, he’d call it anticipation.

Obie thinks this will be Tony’s last birthday, and by god he’s going to make it a memorable one. Obie pretends to forget about the arc reactor and starts up teasing, getting a few women to start trying to get him out his shirt. When Tony refuses, Obie slithers in to chide him about cutting ties with allies in this hard financial time.

Tony goes to bed alone and he locks the door four times behind him, drunk and terrified and forgetting to respond to the people in his phone that message him to wish him a genuine congrats.

They’ll hear he was too shitfaced to call back. They’ll scoff. Typical Tony.

[wouldvebeensweet]

but i ignore things!!! and i move sideways!!! 'til i forget what i felt in the first place!!! at the end of the day i know there are worse ways to stay alive!!! 'cause everyone's growing!!! and everyone's healthy!!! I'M TERRIFIED THAT I MIGHT NEVER HAVE MET ME!!! oh if my engine works perfect on empty!!!! I GUESS I'LL DRIVE!!!!!!!

[nevereclipse]

"I wish you could know me/And I wish I could know you much more sometimes" & "I'm terrified that I might never have met me" i feel perfectly sum up the experience of being a closeted queer person desperate to know/be close to their family but knowing that being out means losing them

[loserbutchblog]

i have nothing against noah kahan. i just think he should be humanely put down for writing willing and able. its not personal.

[parkakeet]

OH I WISH YOU COULD KNOW ME

AND I WISH I COULD KNOW YOU MUCH MORE SOMETIMES

WISH I COULD DO NOTHING WITH YOU

SIT IN THE YARD WHILE THE DAY DIES

LEAVE IT ALL ON THE TABLE

AND I'LL SAY 'I LOVE YOU' AND MEAN IT THIS TIME

SAY 'I'M SORRY' FOR EVERYTHING ELSE

IF WE FOUND A WAY TO THE OTHER SIDE

[nevereclipse]

A list of things that Don't give me dysphoria:

wearing make up and 'feminine' clothes

having boobs

being called a wife/sister

A list of things that Do give me dysphoria

never gonna be able to jerk it

never gonna get given a sloppy bj

wearing makeup and feminine clothes being seen as a Girl thing not a Radically Genderbending Thing

having boobs

[sakanadraws]

Winteriron has a dynamic I have never seen anywhere else and I LOVE it, this smooth celebrity tech guy that flirts like he breathes and has unbelievable childhood issues and then you pair him with the flirty military man from the 40s who was stuck as a traumatized and brainwashed super soldier for 70 years and lowkey killed the other dudes parents and he has a metal arm and they’re connected by this one guy who they’re lives are interlinked with and are the more popular ship option for both YET TOGETHER??? So healthy, so cute they both lift each other up in the ways that they need. The guy who loves machines and protecting people gets a part robot part trauma boyfriend and the guy who wants security and always found technology wonderful has a rich protective boyfriend who’s the face of technology

I had a crazy mcu phase and I just realized tumblr probably has even more content for me

[depsidase]

[artistformerlyknownasbutttrumpet]

i just started listening to hozier (ik, like over a decade late, whatever), but bruh. some of y'all did this dude so dirty. everything i've ever seen of him on here has been like "uwu magical forest man" and so my black ass goes into it expecting white boy indie music, but instead i get this radical leftist irish guy straight up singing the blues, like?? (singing the blues/having a lot of blatantly black musical influences, BUT crediting his influences in the process, which is a an important distinction)

like y'all. has anyone told tiktok what kind of music this man actually makes? bc some of them might be shooketh to find out their precious forest man is actually telling them to dismantle the oppressive institution of colonialism while actively paying homage to artists of color

well, that and also to eat pussy, but same thing tbh

[doitbuckley]

you can tell a character is loved when their fans constantly wish immense physical and psychological harm on them