what a day

what a lovely day

[tilliewalden]

OH SHIT IT’S HERE! 

CHAPTER 16 IS OUT NOW. GO READ.

New to OAS? Start the story from the beginning.  

Thank you all, as always, for following along. 

[philippesaner]

What I believe

I feel like I’ve been too negative lately. And I think there’s a shortage of liberals clearly saying what they want and believe.

So here’s my manifesto, more or less. The rules for liberalism, as I practice it.

1. The Truth, Above All

If the facts tell you things you don’t want to hear, accept them. If it turns out that liberalism doesn’t work, stop being a liberal.

The truth is the biggest advantage you can ever have in politics over the long term. So don’t lie to yourself or to anyone else.

If you ever find yourself lying for your cause, denying scientific realities or trying to deceive people into supporting you, you’re probably on the wrong side.

2. The Best For Everyone

Every person matters. Don’t write anyone off as morally irrelevant. Foreigners, misfits, vagrants, criminals, political enemies…if you can make their lives better, do so.

This does not mean giving everyone everything they want. Many people want things that will hurt other people. Liberalism demands that you remember that those other people are people, and deserve your protection from the people who want to hurt them.

Remember, we’re all stuck on this world together. 

3. Follow Your Own Rules

Human rights aren’t just for your friends. Laws aren’t just for your enemies.

Liberalism is here to let people of every religion and ideology live together. It’s here to reconcile nearly irreconcilable differences. For this to work at all, you need to obey your own rules even when they’re inconvenient.

Your enemies won’t always do the same for you in return, so make sure your rules aren’t crippling. But follow them. Every person who respects a rule strengthens it.

If you lose an election, and you have at your disposal enough power to overturn the result by force…don’t. Doing so will almost certainly make things worse.

4. Be Pragmatic

Compromises are not to be feared. They’re the way of the world.

Think capitalism is evil? Think taxation is theft? Fair enough. Liberals don’t have to be capitalist or statist. But they do have to respect the limitations of reality.

You do not have the strength to destroy everyone who disagrees with you. You need to be willing to negotiate with your enemies. Sometimes a mutually-acceptable compromise is impossible, sometimes violence is necessary, but always try for a nonviolent solution.

If you have radical ideas, by all means push for them. But don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good, and be very reluctant to kill people. Remember that the future is uncertain, and nothing ever works smoothly on a grand scale.

5. When In Doubt, Be Kind

We all make mistakes. But if you’re humble, considerate, and slow to anger, you’ll screw up less and hurt people less when you do.

Don’t be a doormat. But do be kind, even to your enemies. Give the benefit of the doubt, don’t condemn people casually, and don’t indulge in cruelty.

[cantankerousaquarius]

controversial opinion: no one deserves to be bullied/abused

This includes (but is not limited to):

-slut-shaming

-belittling their appearance (includes body shaming and any appearance-based insults)

-SUICIDE BAITING, saying they deserve to die, saying you hope they die

-false accusations and/or attempting to spread false information about them

-threats of any variety

-ignoring/disrespecting their identity (includes misgendering, insulting or ignoring racial/ethnic/religious background, assertions they are lying about their sexuality/race/religion/gender, etc.)

-denying things said/done to them actually happened

There are no caveats wrt who this list does and does not apply to. No one deserves bullying/abuse, not even: actual abusers, rapists, murderers, Donald Trump, white supremacists, neo-nazis, bigots, poachers, PETA members, child molesters, not even (dare I say it) people who draw upsetting things. No one deserves it. No one. Period. The end.

Feel free to add on to this list.

[cyborgbutterflies]

The notes of these post are absolutely full of people who keep insisting, in unambiguous language, that their chosen targets do deserve to be bullied and killed.

Here is why that is not a good thing:

1- If you were to declare that certain people “deserve” to be abused and defend the concept, who decides what an acceptable target is? How do you make sure that they don’t try to abuse and expand their powers to punish everyone they don’t like with relative impunity?

Should the government decide who doesn’t deserve rights? Should popular people decide? What about angry mobs?

There are even many cases in which abusers try to portray themselves as victims in order to direct the mobs against the actual victims, and anyone who tries to stop them in general. They don’t want to make anything better for anyone, they want a socially-acceptable excuse to abuse others.

I would not want to grant anyone the power to strip their targets of all rights and abuse them with impunity.

2- If you defend the idea that it’s okay to dehumanize and abuse certain kinds of people, what defense do you have against groups that think they have a right to do it you? Nearly everyone thinks that they are the hero and that their enemies are a threat to be stopped at all costs, and therefore any kind of nastiness is justified.

What if the people you don’t like are in government and can turn this entire thing around and punish you? What if the rapists, abusers, neo-nazis, and etc. have their own angry mobs?

How will you stop them from going after their targets if you just destroyed the rules and social norms that prevented it?

3- A lot of people with PTSD, depression, and other illnesses feel like they deserved abuse. The idea that no one deserves abuse can, at least on some level, reduce those types of thoughts. 

But if people do think that some people deserve it and that they are horrible enough to be one of them? What reason would they have to even ask for help then?

This attitude can be very unhealthy to various types of mentally ill people.

4- You can try to stop harmful behavior while still respecting the perpetrator’s rights as much as possible.

For example, if someone abuses you, you get to defend yourself. You don’t get to declare the abuser a subhuman and torture them to death.

Any suffering that must be added to the world should ideally be minimal and directed entirely towards preventing greater suffering. Any kind of punishment must be aimed at deterrence and maybe keeping dangerous people away from potential victims, not at causing unnecessary pain.

No one is helped if “bad people” suffer, but it is helpful if “bad people” are stopped. Making someone stop and making someone suffer are different things and you can do the first thing while trying to minimize the second one.

If you would oppose the death penalty and inhumane prisons, there is no reason not to also oppose internet vigilantism and bullying based on the idea that bad people deserve suffering.

[blackteachangeling]

k thats gr8 betty sue but that “everyone deserves kindness uwu” shtick is not (Not) going to appeal to any and all “actual abusers, rapists, murderers, Donald Trump, white supremacists, neo-nazis, bigots, poachers, PETA members, child molesters” whom you so graciously defend. your sentiment is not going to make them any less hateful and get ready for this:

its not going to help anyone not get bullied/abused

thats right you heard it here folks!! hateful ppl are not going to stop being hateful by showing them kindness or mercy. you cant appeal to a bigot’s better nature, they dont have one. know what does stop people from being fucking bullied/abused? get ready for this one you might wanna sit down first:

calling them the fuck out on their shit without fucking mercy

and from an abuse victim: dont FUCKING use me as a prop in your goddamn argument. your entire sentiment shows you don’t fucking care about victims of abuse you are about your own fucking moral high ground and believe me when i say this comes from a deep and personal place when i say

fuck outta here with your holier than thou hate-breeds-hate bullshit because you're not helping a single goddamn person

[cyborgbutterflies]

Okay, you seem to be confused, so let me ask you a honest question.

Do you think El Salvador, my country of birth, should go through a genocide?

This is not a rhetorical question. I mean it literally.

You see, I was actually not only born in a third world country, both of my parents were literal fascists, and I really mean it when I use that word. 

My mother was a member of a political party that literally had links to death squads and crimes against humanity. My father admired the country’s most famous dictator (ironically, one that was famous for massacring almost the entire native population in the aftermath of a failed communist revolution, then being defeated through peaceful strikes). He not only wanted another fascist dictatorship, he thought he had to be a dictator towards his children as well for them to grow up as good people.

I am not just a random jerk trying to use abuse victims as props. I have been abused myself and my position comes from my own experiences. I was raised by abusive, fascist parents and used to be a fascist myself before people talked to me and I learned more. I was not a one-dimensional villain who resisted any kind of argument except callouts.

When I was younger, I considered my parents to be extremely intelligent people (which they are) and right about everything (which they are not). I used to be really angry about the situation of my country. 

Like my parents, I was angry about seeing murderers, rapists, extortionists, and others like them go unpunished even after ruining multiple people’s lives. It was not just my parents who felt like this, but a growing percentage of the country as a whole.

A lot of people back there thought that death squads, “social cleansing”, and outright genocide would have made the situation better. My father even used to say that he wanted to have human rights advocates beaten to death with sticks for getting in the way of killing and torturing criminals. Does that sound familiar to you?

Do you think gang members should be subjected to genocide? What about the parts of the population that are now embracing fascism due to being sick of crime? Should they be killed off?

Or how about the fact that so many people in my country of birth wanted people like me dead that I had to trick my parents into sending me away so that I could make a refugee claim in Canada? Because that was a thing.

Should my entire country be killed over this, then? Isn’t that how you suggest we respond to bigotry and abuse?

There was a time when I supported that kind of violence as a good and effective way to make things better and punish “bad people”.

That was when I was a fascist.

[funereal-disease]

It’s honestly so fucked up that I have to worry in leftist spaces that talking about rehabilitative justice will lose me friends.

In 2010 I took a class called Terrorism in the Modern World, which was one of the best classes I’ve ever taken. We learned all about the causes and cyclical effects of terrorism, about why people get seduced by dangerous worldviews, about how we cannot possibly offer more than palliative solutions until we reckon with the task of trying to understand them. About how futile America’s endless escalations have been. It was awesome.

The following year, when Osama bin Laden was killed, all my liberal friends joined me in reminding the world that he might have done terrible evil, but he was still a human being. We huddled together to grin smugly about how much more empathetic we were than those evil hawkish conservatives. Not that I endorse that, but we were 18. Point is, at the time we construed liberalism, and leftism more broadly, as an explicit rejection of the vengeful, punitive ethic that was blanketing our world. And I know we were not alone in that. Liberals around me talked about prison reform, about transitions from criminal dysfunction back to a productive life, about reaching out to the people who were hardest to reach. I was, at that time, proud to call myself a bleeding-heart liberal.

And now I’m seeing them, the very same leftists who joined me in calling for empathy with our enemies, posting endless diatribes against those they deem too far gone for any kind of understanding. The same people who stood up in a sea of patriotic zeal and reminded us that terrorists were real human beings with motivations beyond mustache-twirling villainy are the people I see calling Trump supporters garbage, calling them worthless, calling any attempt to understand them “collusion with the oppressor”. I’m over here advocating the same exact outreach I’ve advocated all my life, the same outreach you once praised me for, but now because it’s your pet enemy I’m evil and weak and awful for it.

These were once my people, and now I don’t recognize them. I’m horrified to see them acting exactly like post-9/11 nationalist zealots, dismissing any attempt at understanding or empathy as spineless, as cowardly, as oppressive. You think I haven’t heard this all before? I’ve heard it all my life. I was a child when 9/11 happened. I don’t remember a United States not at war in the Middle East. My whole life I’ve been a pacifist, raised by pacifist parents in a pacifist community, and my whole life I’ve heard that trying to understand and reach out to your enemy instead of fucking annihilating them was weak and cowardly and siding with the terrorists. The difference is that I once had the left on my side.

Your principles do not cease to apply when it’s your pet enemy on the chopping block. Believe it or not, people who got cruel and hawkish in the face of terrorism were exactly as scared and powerless-feeling as you are now. They weren’t spouting martial rhetoric out of pure evil - there was real fear there, but they let it make them into hateful people with no sense of empathy or common humanity. Like hell I’m going to let that happen to people I once called mine.

[fierceawakening]

Holy shit, this.

The more I read about people who voted for Trump, the more I think the vast majority of them are FAR more kind and flexible than Trump and his cadre of advisers are proving to be.

No, that doesn’t mean I agree with Trump supporters. I disagree with them on many, many things. But this black and white thinking is really troubling.

There are tons of people who voted for Trump who didn’t think he meant the extreme positions he espoused. There are people who didn’t think he meant he was against the ACA. There are people who are baffled at the proposals to “defund” Planned Parenthood. There are people who are staunchly pro gay rights who didn’t take his pick of Pence seriously. There are people who thought he really wasn’t going to mess with Medicare or Medicaid or Social Security because he said he was the only Republican who wouldn’t.

The vague rhetoric he used in the campaign, and still uses, makes it very easy for people to tell themselves “oh, he couldn’t possibly mean it like THAT!”

That was and still is a tactic. Deciding other people are gullible because it worked on them is understandable (though pretty silly), but deciding other people are evil because it worked on them is destructive and entirely wrongheaded.

[theunitofcaring]

Fascists are evil and indefensible. They also killed and plan to kill an enormous number of people. Pardon us for wanting to make clear that we won't sit around and let them.

No, I do not pardon you. I will attempt to empathize with you. I will listen to where you are coming from and I will try to remember that you are behaving evilly and inexcusably because you are afraid and feel powerless, and because you believe it’s the right thing to do. I will fight to build a world in which you need not feel afraid and powerless.

But I do not pardon you. You are making the world less safe for the people you care about. You are not ‘making it clear’ that you won’t sit around and let them, your reblogs will never preserve a single life and the actions you advocate, when people actually take them, will just constitute the senseless murder of innocents.

Firstly, who are you comfortable murdering? A fifteen year old raised by white supremacist who has never met any of the people he marches around with a sign declaring he hates? I promise you, if you make it clear to that fifteen year old that you murder people like him then he will never make friends outside the hateful poison bubble he grew up in. More than that, he’s been taught that the outside world is as hateful as his world, and proving him right will just dig him in. When people like this have grown up into decent people, it has been because people reached out to them with compassion, said to them ‘these are our values, and this is why we believe in them, and our values guide us to do right by you when we can’. I do not personally have the emotional energy to do this with fascists, but I am very deeply committed to creating space for the people who do. And saying to these children ‘yes we do literally want to murder you just like your parents taught you’ guarantees you that no one will ever change.

Secondly, maybe you’re thinking ‘no, I am not actually comfortable murdering a fifteen year old’. Congratulations. You are not the one who will be choosing that. You, of course, have never murdered anyone at all, and never will, you just reblog self-aggrandizing posts about baseball bats and express approval of other people who take those posts seriously. You shout ‘murder of fascists is right and necessary and the only way to stop them from killing everyone!’ and then you cross your fingers that the actual murderers share your definition of fascists. They won’t. They will draw encouragement from your messages, you will feed their paranoia, but they will not conveniently target only the people you think deserve it. 

Is every Trump supporter a ‘fascist’? Are you identifying them by their bumper stickers? (What if a woman was borrowing her mother’s car because hers broke down and she couldn’t miss work? A crime for which the just penalty is murder, no doubt.) What if you read on the internet that someone was a fascist (it’s impossible, of course, for people to spread lies about others on the internet, and unimaginable that anyone would do that to take advantage of a vigilante army of self-righteous antifas.)

Thirdly, I said earlier that I understand that you are afraid and feel powerless, and that people are horrible to each other when they are afraid and feel powerless. That applies to your enemies, too. The likeliest effect of a sudden rise in random clubbings of unarmed people on the streets is that people will start carrying guns, and then people who go out on the streets with a baseball bat will get shot in self-defense - not by fascists, but by people who are terrified they or their loved ones might get mistaken for fascists. 

You will never, ever, protect innocent lives by murdering unarmed people in the streets. You will only ever provoke escalation and retaliation. You seem to think that if your enemies feel afraid and powerless, then the world will be safer, but you are catastrophically and horribly wrong, because afraid and powerless people are far more dangerous than people who are secure in their ability to walk to the grocery store without getting their head caved in.

Fourthly, when there is a socially acceptable excuse to casually murder people guess who will take it? People with no principles at all who just kind of want to murder someone. How many people would kill their ex or their boss who they hated or that asshole who stole their boyfriend, if they could claim ‘yeah, I was killing fascists, they were a fascist’ and get not only the condonation but the gleeful applause of their community? 

(I’ll give you a hint. It’s more people than there are fascists, in the whole world.)

So no, I do not pardon you. If you had any power you would be causing the very catastrophe you are so afraid of, and you are enabling murderers, and you are wrong and you are doing evil and I hope that I can someday build a world in which you and everyone you care about are safe, and I hope that you can someday join me in the effort to build such a world. 

[officialdorfkind]

Ich glaube ja, dass mugglegeborene Zauberschüler die Heuler benutzen, um sich gegenseitig memes zu schicken.

“Ohoh, ein Heuler… *aufmach*” - “DAS IST 1 KRASSE BRIEF VONG LAUTSTÄRKE HER” So ungefähr?

[unoffi-ciel]

“MEINEN KAFFEE HABE ICH GETRUNKEN ABER BERUHIGT HABE ICH MICH JETZT NICHT”

[nevermindbinarity-blog]

NEIN NEIN NEIN NEIN NEIN

[duffmckagan-deactivated20170622]

i feel like everyone has kind of a “safe” album tht like always makes u feel better even when ur super super upset n im curious so rb this and put urs in the tags mine is use your illusion II by gnr

[shapeshiftersvt]

A note on sizing for chest binders.

Hello, friends.

I’m going to talk about breast tissue now. Feel free to breeze on past if that’s not what you’re into reading about today.

Keep reading

[tilliewalden]

Some recent and beautiful On a Sunmemes from my meme queen @pastafries

http://www.onasunbeam.com/

[rusalkii]

Look. Apparently today is the day I have Discourse opinions. And my Discourse opinion is: for fuck’s sake. Sure, the guy is a complete bastard. And sure, if I’d been there and he’d said something about queer people or Jewish people or whoever, that is to say my friends, maybe I’d have tried to punch him too. And you know what? That’s not a good thing. That’s not a part of me I like. I don’t believe in violence in reaction to words, and the fact that I might allow my emotions to get the best of me is not a praiseworthy trait. If you can do something to actively counter his agenda? Great, please do. You know what punching him does? Makes a red flag for his supporters to rally around in exchange for a brief moment of vindictive pleasure. Be smart, if you can’t be ethical.

[theunitofcaring]

How do you feel about Richard Spencer being punched? I'm sickened by white nationalists and my instinct (and that of my social group) was to cheer, but I've also been convinced by your posts that the "let's hit fascists with a baseball bat" message is harmful and counter-productive, so I'm a bit conflicted about what to think/say about it.

This was pretty much my reaction. I, like most people, experience satisfaction when people who are proudly horrible and cruel to others get punched or dropped in a moat or step on a Lego or whatever. But I wish I didn’t. That feeling of satisfaction is not a reliable guide to what’s right. I’m sure there are people who experience that exact satisfaction when they see a gay person punched for being disgustingly gay in public, or when they see a woman attacked for being immodestly dressed, or when they see a child smacked for getting overwhelmed and crying in public.

It does a lot to make my satisfaction go away, to remind myself that that’s where it’s coming from. 

Happiness is good. Suffering is bad. Safety is good. Terror and violence are bad. That is why Richard Spencer is evil and it is why we are better than him. And while whatever scruples he might have apply only to the people he considers worthy, our principles apply to everyone, everywhere, even to him. Punching him isn’t okay, because punching people isn’t okay.

But I don’t think you are obliged to try to stop feeling an instinctive satisfaction. 

[gaytog]

Huh, that’s interesting. My gut feeling was discomfort, and it’s only after talking to other people that I am maybe (like, maybe) starting to believe that punching Richard Spenser might have been a good idea.

I definitely understand the impulse to punch someone in the face – I often feel it toward teachers and parents who are behaving abusively – but I just didn’t feel it in this case.

[argentconflagration]

I’m really surprised you feel an instinctive satisfaction at that! I sometimes feel satisfaction at people I disagree with / don’t like getting “smacked down” with words, but I don’t think I could feel happy seeing a real person get punched in the face. And I’m not so arrogant to believe that my political beliefs of “let’s consider it carefully before we ever punch anyone” have nothing to do with that, so I would have expected your reactions to be similar.

[theunitofcaring]

I really hate Nazis. I don’t talk about it much because, yay, stop the presses, local blogger can’t stand Nazis. No one in my audience disagrees with me; it’s not worth discussing.

I have the Holocaust and Nazis and genocide blacklisted because coming across that content in the wrong frame of mind ruins my day and can ruin for me permanently the topic it’s associated with; when I was younger I had nightmares about it; interactions with Nazis leave me shaking with adrenaline and miserable. Media about 1930s Germany (oh, god, I went to see the musical Cabaret without knowing what it was about once) sticks in my head and feels like it’s clinging to my skin. I’ll dwell on it for months.

That has no bearing on whether every person should have the right to express their odious beliefs without putting their safety in danger. It has no bearing on whether Nazis deserve to suffer. But my visceral, gut-level reactions to Nazis are much closer to those of the ‘baseball bats’ people than to most of my friends. I feel sick and scared. I’m in the habit of not letting loathing for people interfere with my conviction that they deserve good lives, but I’m not in a place where I never loathe people (though bloggers who will get irrationally paranoid that I loathe them: no. It’s literally just Nazis.)

[unfugged]

just gonna leave these here without any context

[official-german-schulsystem]

Welche Schlüsse kannst du bisher aus deinem wissenschaftlichen Treiben ziehen? Frage für einen Freund.

*räuspert sich*

Okay, schnallt euch an, Kinder, denn es wird schokoladig.

Drei Testobjekte wurden untersucht (wobei nur zwei direkt heute, das eine hatte ich schon länger nicht mehr, aber dazu später mehr.)

Das erste: 

Der für mich bisher unangefochtene Champion, Choco Zartbitter-Schoko-Creme von Rapunzel. 

Einkaufspreis: 250g für 3,99€ 

Macht circa 1,56€ pro 100g

Geschmack: Hatte ich schon länger nicht mehr, weil teuer, aber ich habe es in Erinnerung als den Himmel auf Erden.

Konsistenz: ziemlich streichzart.

Zusatzinformation: Es ist offiziell als vegan gekennzeichnet und ich weiß, dass Rapunzel als eigentlich einziger Hersteller fair mit den Lieferanten von Palmfett und Kakao und so umgeht, weswegen wohl auch der Preis so hoch ist.

Das zweite: dm Bio Zartbitter Creme 

Einkaufspreis: 400g für 2,95€ 

Macht circa 74ct pro 100g

Geschmack: meh. Auf jeden Fall essbar und gut, aber nicht so ganz meins.

Konsistenz: nicht sehr streichzart, am besten geht es auf getoastetem Brot, DANN verläuft es aber echt krass und ich hab mich schon viele Male echt angesaut damit

Zusatzinformation: Auch diese Creme ist offizell als vegan gekennzeichnet. Außerdem benutze ich sie gerne für das Herstellen von selbstgemachtem veganen Eis oder zum Bestreichen von Crêpes, denn mit ein paar Himbeeren stört mich der Geschmack der Schokocreme nicht so

Das dritte: EXQUISIT Dunkle Kakaocreme (von Kaufland, lol)

Einkaufspreis: 200g für 1,99€ 

Macht circa 99ct pro 100g 

Geschmack: SÜSSER SÄUGLINGSJESUS JA

Konsistenz: EINS A STREICHZARTIGKEIT WOW

Zusatzinformation: In den Inhaltsstoffen finde ich nichts tierisches, es hat aber keine offizielle “vegan”-Auszeichnung, außerdem behauptet eine Internetseite, dass es laktosehaltig ist - diese Information finde ich auf der Verpackung nicht, aber ok (also okay, da steht, es kann Milch enthalten. Okaaayyyy) Jedenfalls, für strikte Superveganis wohl nichts!!!!

[ryeeatsbread]

So, at one of our family gatherings, my aunt (who is a teacher/ school headmaster) went on and on about those gosh darn sweatpants kids today are wearing. I told her that when I’m not at family events, I also wear those kinds of pants. “Well, no you don’t” (yes, I do) “Also, it just so happens that it’s always those fat kids who wear sweatpants. It’s just not flattering!” So here’s to my fellow fat kids. You and I can wear whatever the hell we want, do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You rock those pants, those crop tops, those whatever people have told you would be unflattering. This is your body and your choice to make.

[atalienart]

Ron

[antidrarry]

Dean and Seamus were totally a couple but Harry is just the least observant ever or he's so chill he just doesn't bring it up. You have to fight me to change my mind on this.

concept: several years after graduation, harry gets a letter from dean thomas asking if he’ll be his best man for his wedding- he, seamus, lavender, and parvati are having a double wedding.  harry says yes, of course, he’s very flattered (though a bit surprised seamus won’t be best man, but he supposes they’ve got the double wedding thing going on).  he’s a little embarrassed, though, because he’s not actually sure if dean is with parvati or lavender, but he figures he’ll just not put names on the wedding gifts and work it out when he gets there.

fast forward to the practice for the ceremony.  harry shows up ready to best man the hell out of this, even though he still doesn’t know who the bride is.  but oddly enough, the girls’ dresses don’t really match the tuxes?  parvati is in traditional indian clothing with bright pinks and yellows, and lavender is wearing a light pink and white dress that complements it surprisingly well.  dean and seamus are wearing contrasting white and black suits, respectively.  harry comments on this oddity to dean, asking why they don’t match the brides.

“mate,” dean says, looking harry directly in the eyes and probably losing eight years of his life in that moment.  “seamus and i have literally been dating since fifth year.  every single one of us is fucking gay.”

[crossconnectmag]