The Goal Is Not To Make Her Use Her Safe Word
As always, I will be writing this as if the sub/bottom is a female. I do, however, acknowledge and respect that this is not always the case
I saw some post a few hours ago that glorified the notion of making the bottom use her safe word as if it was some sexy thing to do. Itās not. Obviously, safe words exist for a reasonā¦safety. This post isnāt to say you should never have a scene that ends because a safe word was used. The point is, having a safe word used shouldnāt be the objective.
If youāre thinking, āoh gee wilickers I canāt wait to make her āredā during this sceneā, translate that to āoh gee wilickers I canāt wait to hurt her so bad/make her so uncomfortable that she would rather end the scene than continue to play with meā.
Not sexy, right? Not only is it not sexy, itās not safe and it shows a lack of skill/experience. Iām a sadist. I like causing pain. I play with masochists. They like receiving pain. My goal is to make sure we both get enjoyment out of a scene. I want it to be the good type of pain so that the scene can continue. Anybody can make a sub/bottom call red. It takes almost no effort. That shouldnāt be what you strive for.
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