perhaps love and kindness are practices rather than feelings or states of being
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perhaps love and kindness are practices rather than feelings or states of being
other people buying clothes: i chose this based on my hair color, skin tone, the time of year, the recommendations of 10 different fashion magazines and my horoscope
me buying clothes:
lgbt+ culture
This is wonderful
There he go
last night i had a dream about harry potter where everything was the same but ron was replaced with annoying orange. it was the single most terrifying thing i’ve ever experienced i think my soul descended to the fifth circle of hell
op: *knock knock*
them:
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Neil Cicierega did more for Harry Potter fans than JK Rowling
im sick of ppl saying they were “born gay” ur not born gay u chose to read the Percy Jackson series by Rick Riordan in elementary school and now u are the way u are
walking past the lingerie section as an oblivious gay kid
the rats symbolize his personality and the eggs represent his bald head
i don’t want to fuck hozier i want to fuck the woman he sings about
Leo, to Chiron: Yes. Leave us in charge. And by “us”, I mean Annabeth, because I should not be in charge of anything.
The Percy Jackson & the Olympians series would have been 70% funnier if Percy referred to Kronos as “Grandpa”
Okay but that would’ve been a perfect way to get around the whole “names are powerful” thing PJO used/uses to avoid spoilers. Like, the main reason that rule exists is because supposedly saying a thing’s name can invoke their attention and wrath (and because we’re not supposed to know the bad guy’s name so early in the plot). It would’ve been hilarious if Percy just stopped and said, “Alright, can’t call him Kronos? He’s grandpa now.” And they just go the entire series doing that.
“Okay so Beckendorf and I are going to blow up Grandpa’s ship. If we’re lucky, we’ll punch him in the face on the way.”
“Rachel just hit Grandpa in the face with a blue hairbrush.”
“Percy,” Chiron said cautiously, “You really should not underestimate Grandpa, he is the lord of time, you know.”
And the whole time Kronos is just. Furious because nobody is saying his name, and that’s making it a whole lot harder to know what’s actually going on among his enemies.
Bonus points for Percy using it as a way to insult gods without them knowing: “Uncle Z’s a piece of shit.”
Hit your cousin with a sword like the stupid punk that he is.
hozier is a lesbian icon because he sings about women the same way queer women think about other women, and relationships with them. most queer women grow up beliving that their only choice is to date men, but when they realize that they can also date women, or date exclusivlry women, that realization comes with the same divine elation and simultaneous heartbreak that hozier describes in his songs. in this essay i will-
What is comp het?
Comp het is short for, compulsory heterosexuality – also known as compulsive or coercive heterosexuality. It’s an experience where lesbians think that they are or must be attracted to men due to societal and cultural pressures.
It can be closely linked with heteronormativity – the idea that straight is the default – (young) lesbians can feel compelled to id as straight as they don’t feel there is another option, or even bisexual as they haven’t yet recognised not liking men is an option.
Identifying comp het
Some signs you may be experiencing comp het include:
You can always pick out reasons you don’t want to be with a man that are insignificant.
You have impossibly high standards for men – so no men meet them giving you an excuse to never go out with them.
The men you like are normally unattainable – this could be because they are gay, in a relationship, a celebrity or a fictional character.
Your crushes on men disappear once there’s a chance they may like you back – you don’t want men to like you back
Your fantasies or pictures of the future involve faceless men and/or you can’t picture yourself being with a real man.
You view relationships and/or your attraction to men as a burden – relationships with men are something you could put yourself through but not something you particularly want to do.
Confusing wanting to be friends with a man as attraction towards them.
Liking men but never wanting to date one.
Your crushes on men are no different between your friendships with men.
You pick and choose who you get crushes on.
You can turn your attraction “on and off” – you just decide when you feel attracted to certain people.
You only get crushes on men when someone else points out they are attractive.
You use a lot of micro labels so you can fit attraction to men into your identity.
You think you are ace and/or aro because you aren’t sexually and/or romantically attracted to men without considering your attraction to women.
You wish you felt more attraction to men.
You wish you didn’t feel any attraction to men – you wish you were a lesbian, so you didn’t have to be involved with men.
Your attraction to men feels forced.
Feeling you must like or be involved with men – you’ve never considered not liking men an option.
You don’t feel emotional if you and a boyfriend break up – you don’t care, don’t miss him, can get over him very quickly or are indifferent about the situation.
Dating a man more so you can say you have a boyfriend than you liking him.
Only wanting or liking online/long distance relationships with men.
Only liking a man’s more feminine qualities.
You’re certain about your attraction to women but uncertain about your attraction to men – your attraction to women is definite but your attraction to men is questionable or feels fake.
People who experience comp het also often confuse with attraction with things that aren’t attraction such as:
Feeling indifferent about relationships and/or sex with a man.
Tolerating romantic/intimate acts with men.
Finding or acknowledging a man is attractive or good looking.
Wanting to be friends with a man.
Wanting people (including men) to find you attractive or good looking.
Mistaking being uncomfortable and nervous around men as feeling “butterflies”.
Attraction is supposed to feel good, if it makes you feel gross or uncomfortable it’s not real attraction (this doesn’t include people who are uncomfortable with their attraction to the same gender due to internalised homophobia).
Do bisexual women experience comp het?
No, because their attraction to men is genuine; lesbians who experience comp het aren’t attracted to men, comp het is not attraction. Bisexual women are attracted men so their attraction to men isn’t fake or forced upon them, it’s genuine attraction – therefore not comp het.
Final thoughts
Comp het is not a requirement to be lesbian! It is however a very common experience shared by lesbians everywhere. It can take a long time to dismantle the idea that you’re supposed to like men, if you’re a lesbian struggling with comp het, you’re no less lesbian or faking it, it’s completely normal and understandable to go through this. Identifying your feelings as comp het is the first step but give yourself time to overcome it. <3
This was a call out post for me ::0
Not to flex but i never saw call me by your name