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Oh by the way if you view nonbinary people as having to be either transmasc or transfem, or being man/woman-lite, or tma/tme, or literally anything except what they tell you about their gender, you are transphobic

Stop forcing nonbinary people INTO A FUCKING BINARY.

feluka

i hate the way fat antagonists have their weight moralized and used as a metaphor for greed and corruption and i hate the way it's overcorrected into fat people being "soft squishy friend-shaped cupcakes who look like they give incredible hugs" and i long for the day we have nuanced, interesting, and complicated fat characters and most of all i long for the day people are normal about fatness

penumbralwoods

laciffo-natas

Oh by the way if you use they/them for someone who has explicitly told you not to, it's still misgendering even if you think you're being woke about it

tiktoks-i-enjoyed

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

evil-enby-osoka

i hate that nonbinary people can't be, like, nonbinary.

whatever we do, we can't win. we can't be seen as actually nonbinary. people binarize us and often mock us or get aggressive or dismiss and ignore our nonbinaryhood or something else.

if we don't medically transition, we are "just cis trenders."

if we do medically transition, we are "just [binary trans] eggs."

we are "technically transmasc or transfem anyways" if we don't use these terms.

we are lumped together with binary trans men and trans women if we do use these terms. our nonbinaryhood is ignored or seen as some kind of "gender-lite."

we are aggressively pressured to disclose if we're AFAB or AMAB, TMA or TME, transmasc or transfem, "boy nonbinary" or "girl nonbinary." and if we refuse to answer, people get double mad at us and pick something for us anyways.

if we show the slightest hint of something that could be interpreted as binary gendered, we are immediately binarised.

if we put a lot of effort into looking the most ambiguous or androgynous or neutral, people still try to find something. and they become aggressive. people often EXPLODE [PT: explode] when they can't gender someone by glance.

our ways of expression are constantly mocked and ignored (like neopronouns, nonbinary-centering labels for gender and orientation, basically all things that are associated with nonbinary people).

but if we choose more typical ways of expression (for example, use "he/him" or "she/her" pronouns), people use it to ignore and dismiss our nonbinaryhood.

we just can't win, and it's upsetting.

shadowgirl-10

this one goes out to the trans people who are ugly

to the trans women and fems who aren’t beautiful

to the trans men and mascs who aren’t handsome

to the nonbinary people who aren’t attractive

you don’t need to be attractive to be valid. you can be ugly or unattractive and still be just as trans. do not let beauty standards make you think otherwise

[note: this post is inclusive of ALL trans people, any exclusionists will be blocked]

themaveriqueagenda

i'm not "a they/them" - i'm nonbinary.

while i do go by they/them, i'm not a walking set of pronouns. i'm a person.

i am trans - but i'm also nonbinary.

"trans" refers to my relationship with my assigned gender at birth. it's not a substitute for my actual gender. if you can call trans men and women trans men and women, you can call me trans nonbinary.

i'm GNC - but more specifically nonbinary.

gender nonconformity either refers to not conforming to the gender roles of your gender, or to broader gender expectations like cisnormativity. neither of them specifically name my gender though, and one of them can't even apply to me. GNC isn't a substitute for my actual gender.

i'm not a thing - i'm nonbinary.

i'm seeing more and more people use the term "thing" as a third option/equivalent to men/women or boy/girl. like "boy...girl...thing...listen to me". i don't think i need to explain why this is bad.

i'm not transmasc or transfem - i'm nonbinary.

of course there are nonbinary people who are transmasc and/or transfem - but my (and many other people's) transness doesn't contain masculinity or femininity. a lot of people use transmasc and transfem as supposedly inclusive shorthands, while also treating them as trans men/women lite anyway. a lot of people will also say "transmascs and transfems" and think it covers all trans people when it's just exclusion dressed up as progressive. if you want to include nonbinary people, there's a nice little word you can use. hint: it starts with n and ends with onbinary.

nonbinary is not a bad word.

too many people are doing everything in their power to avoid saying the word nonbinary.

refusing to say nonbinary is nonbinary erasure.

say nonbinary.

name us.

tigergirltail

Hot take:

Nonbinary and intersex people should be loved and respected and included in trans spaces to whatever degree they would like to be.

hunny--hunny

quick ! the exorsexists aren't mad enough ! start using more xenogenders and micro labels ! start using more neopronouns ! choose a " weird " name ! be more loud ! don't shut up when they tell you to !

thisisexorsexism

My 85 year old dad came out as nonbinary and everyone's talking about, "is it dementia? is it Alzheimer's? are his kids making him do it?" No one is willing to admit this isn't new. He wore skirts growing up when he was at home, and dresses. When his family immigrated and they switched to English in the home, he asked to be called it or they or she, not exclusively he. He was seen as progressive and the one based boomer when he accepted my half-sister being a lesbian and my cousin being nonbinary. And yet now, now that he's said he's he/it/they/she and prefers we speak Uzbek with him since it's not gendered (there's only one set of pronouns in Uzbek), everyone's acting like he's either being forced into it or is losing his mind.

this is exorsexism

whereserpentswalk

Remember that straight women who used to be gay men aren't less queer, and straight men who used to be lesbian aren't less queer. Nonbinary people who used to be trans women or trans men aren't less queer. Ace, aro, pan and bi people who used to be lesbian or gay aren't less queer. You cannot become less queer by becoming more yourself! The core principle of queer rights is the message of Lucifer: that of doing what gives you pleasure and fighting for others to do the same. You cannot say someone following their own will has made themself less queer.