So there are always two sides or more to a story.
But if you actively want to just believe the person being hurt in a story is making it up because the abuser is nice and charismatic— I hope you are never in a similar situation where the police decide your partner didn’t hurt you, or your friends say they wish your parents were theirs and your parents just kind of smile and— I hope that you understand that by “digging deeper” and trying to see if maybe abuse is just misunderstanding…
You are the problem.
You are a victim blamer and shamer.
By all means, dig deeper. Find out what happened. And if you can take the word of an abuser more seriously, DESPITE EVIDENCE OTHERWISE THAT IS DOCUMENTED then you, my dear friend.
Are an asshole.
And a contributing factor to this culture where we just want to treat everyone “equally” but don’t factor in that we’re trying extra-special hardest to keep up this factor that protects abuse and makes people less likely to come out with it and more likely to keep it in.
Because no one wants to report rape. They barely can handle talking about it.
And who would believe abuse, unless there are giant bruises… and even then what did you do to provoke them.
No one wants the big bad wolf to neither be big, nor look bad. The wolf shouldn’t have a pretty face and a charming smile. Only sheep are taken in…
