NotBlueAtAll

Allow me to introduce myself, I’m NotBlueAtAll. Welcome to my Tumblr/blog. You can normally find me on www.NotBlueAtAll.com it's my blog-a-ma-thing and it is all about Fat Acceptance! This Tumblr-blog is more of a personal extension with some sass and such thrown in that you wouldn't normally find on my FA blog. I often post about my own abuse survival, many topics of the TMI variety and sometimes fat fashion, too! I can be pretty random at times, but try to stay on-topic as much as possible. I offer myself as everyone’s Auntie Fats and hope that if you’re an abuse survivor or in an abusive situation now that you reach out, and if there is no one else, I’m right here and I will listen! I’m a 30 something divorced lady living independently for the first time. I’m a death fatty and I don’t even try to hide it! Radical stuff, no? I’ve been actively participating in Fat Acceptance (or FA) since 2005 and lurked for around a year or two prior to that. For me it all started with an article in BUST magazine about the U.K. Chubsters. This lead me to some blogs and eventually the Fatshionista community on LiveJournal.com. This is where it all came together for me. I realized that everything I’d been told simply wasn’t true. I met people online and later in real life (IRL) and they and FA continue to rock my socks on a daily basis. Because of that community I gained confidence and strength and started this blog! While it was at first all about art (or my concept of it) it soon turned into a strictly FA kind of thang! In June of 2010 I was invited to join the Fierce Free Thinking Fatties Feed and later the Notes From The Fat-O-Sphere Feed. Woo! I have the greatest readers. Not in numbers, but in wit, humor and integrity! We support each other when times get tougher (because they’ve been tough for how long now?) and stand up for ourselves and others! We are strong and we are fattastic!

[notblueatall]

Yep, the rumors are true! I’m turning 40 next week! :P <3

[notblueatall]

What’s on your mind? Have a story to share? A victory or struggle? Wanna show off your guns and your right to bare arms? Is there part of your body that you’re struggling with accepting?  NotBlueAtAll.com wants your submissions! Info at the link. :)

[notblueatall]

Key ingredients on making and maintaining friendships in adulthood. 

[abundantbodies]

We need community support in order to make sure all our presenters and panelists can make it to Detroit for the Conference in June. At our $3000 goal, we would be able to provide a small stipend for all involved AND host a large-scale event where presenters, panelists, and attendees will have a space safe for fellow beautiful, body accepting and abundant bodies. CHECK OUT OUR INDIEGOGO CAMPAIGN & DONATE TODAY: https://igg.me/at/abundantbodies2016/x/10894446

[abundantbodies]

Abundant Bodies is in the final stretch of our fundraiser and we still have a LONG way to go to meet our goal. Donating to our fundraiser doesn’t just help us pay to support the track overall but it also goes to paying stipends for all of our presenters and help with travel for people who can’t afford to get to Detroit next month. Our track centers the voices of Indigenous, Black, People of Color, Dis/abled, Super-sized, Trans and Queer fat folks. The sessions we have this year will continue with that tradition.

We have so many amazing sessions including “Black Fat Femmes: Media and community representation” by Ashleigh Shackelford and Kytara Epps (one of our amazing coordinators), “Fat Femme of Color Sexuality” and a session for the podcast Bad Fat Broads. We will also have sessions on fat parenting and a Fat 201 session geared towards people who are interested in bringing a critical analysis of fatness into their own political work / organizing.

We only have 8 days left to meet our goal. Please help us by sharing and donating today!

[red3blog]

Let us be clear about something. Medical equipment that cannot accommodate fat bodies does not have to be that way. Fat bodies are not some divine mystery that human science cannot fathom. If the health care establishment cared to accommodate fat bodies, then fat bodies would be accommodated. It really is that simple. An medical industrial complex that denies access to fat bodies is not a natural phenomenon. It is a choice. And we should damn well respond to as such. A lot of oppression and marginalization tries to pass itself off as just how things are. Just something we have to accept. Bullshit. These things are choices. They are decisions. They are priorities revealed.

Case in point? Once it was “understood” that fat people cannot be anesthetized. Hell, a lot of doctors still think that today and I gather a lot of anesthesiologists are still allowed to not know how to treat fat patients. But when the health care establishment thought up the various organ mutilation and amputations marketed as weight loss surgery, you will not be surprised they figured out how to put a fat person under very quickly. Because it was never impossible. Just something they didn’t care to learn. Same as why they direct most research to be performed on white male patients. Because they don’t care to learn how things might effect women or people of color differently. They made the choice. Don’t let them pretend they didn’t.

[vespertides]

im sorry i just don’t think you understand how expensive and fragile medical equipment actually is.

and if you’re just talking about regular accommodations in healthcare facilities if yall cant fit through a door you either need to do some soul searching or actually searching whats on your nutrition labels :)))

[red3blog]

I’m sorry you’re an asshole who thinks they understand the world but doesn’t.

Medical equipment? DOESN’T GROW ON TREES. It is not a natural resource. People designed it and people manufactured it and their prejudices determined who it would accommodate and who it wouldn’t. There isn’t a magical forrest where we harvest MRI machines. Chairs with arms weren’t already in waiting rooms when the doctors got there. We don’t build hospitals around natural rock formations that just happen to look like exam tables with a limited weight requirement. Birth control pills aren’t excreted by faeries so there was no choice but to have them not work on women who weigh more than 160 pounds. Those were all decisions. Those are all choices. Just as was YOUR choice to pretend not to see those choices so you could huff and preen about how this is just how things are and CLEARLY no one understands that but your worthless ass.

Or maybe you do really think blood pressure cuffs and hospital gowns and the like are natural phenomena that coincidentally suit some medical needs and not others. In which case I guess you should do some soul searching. It’d probably be nice if you found one for a change.

[alanaisalive]

Did you know that there are other people who require special equipment that is a different size, and they are more difficult to anesthetize and they need different calculations for medication and operating on them is super dangerous and difficult. 

They’re called children.

Children get special dedicated hospitals with adapted equipment and specialist doctors who know how to treat them. They don’t just get told that it’s too hard to treat them and they’ll just have to wait until they’re adults, and what were they thinking getting sick when they’re so tiny and fragile.

If those accommodations can be made for children and for the elderly and for other specialist groups, they can be made for fat people. But first the doctors have to view fat people as humans and start giving a shit about them.

[red3blog]

I saw something on Twitter recently that much more succinctly addressed what I was more dancing around in this post. I was already seeing it 3-4th hand, so if anyone knows who originated this line of thought, please let me know.

The point they made is that accessibility is already built into the world around us. This isn’t a special notion that was invented by disabled people or fat people. We don’t build the front door of a house to be 500 lbs because that wouldn’t be accessible. We don’t make stairs 6 feet tall because that wouldn’t be accessible. An able bodied, thin person always requires accommodations to make the world accessible to them. They just regard accessibility as something they are entitled to, but the world didn’t spring up fully formed as we see it. People designed these things and their choices betray their prejudices, often entirely unconsidered, about who deserves to be accommodated. Creating an “accessible” world is already something we do in every walk of life. The question is “for who?”

[fuckyeahsexeducation]

List of Non-sexual forms of intimacy

[incapableofgivingup]

watchingtv/movies together

going to events together like carnivals, festivals etc.

going on dates like to the movies or shopping

sharing secrets

hugs

sharing drinks

phone calls

talking

touching noses

cuddling

philosophical discussions

hand holding

sharing jokes

sharing smiles

laying your head on someone’s shoulder

linking arms

massages

tickling

playing with hair

scratching backs

tracing designs on arms

talking about the future

a hand written note

moving your head to their chest and listening to their heartbeat.

singing together or playing instruments together

dancing

feeding each other

drawing/writing on one another

brushing your partners hair

sharing food

sitting knee to knee across from each other

doing beauty treatments like facials or manicures, hairdying or face masks

reading books together

take care of your partner when sick

talking about the relationship (how I feel with you, How I feel w/this relationship)

cooking together

head-scratches

hugging

discussions about yourselves (like flaws, shortcomings, passions, stuff)

being physically/emotionally vulnerable

just sleeping together,

an actual open honest conversation

bathing and taking care of hygiene together

butterfly kisses

nuzzling

telling on-the-fly stories

meditating or sharing spirituality

grooming

sharing hobbies

studding

sharing personal stories

shaving

seeing each other without make-up or all dressed up

moral support for major events

crying, sharing emotions, comforting each other

listening to someones heartbeat or breathing

camping/hiking

sleepovers

being with animals together

going on trips together

sharing clothes/jewelry/personal items

sharing online social media

cleaning someone else’s living space

going with them to a doctor/therapist

doing art together

kissing different body parts

making out

volunteer together

work together

talking about wants and desires

experience new things together

do an extracurricular together

play games together

play sports together

walking together

being respectful and kind to one another (helping them do things, open doors for them etc.)

sharing responsibilities (chores, babysitting etc.)

giving each other presents, special things from the heart

talking about and respecting each others boundaries

public displays of affection

grooming in front of each other

wrestling or play fighting

texting/talking online

looking in each other’s eyes

complimenting each other

falling asleep over skype or chat

making faces at each other

sky watching

write poetry

inside jokes

respect each other

tell them how you feel about them

get to know each other better (playing 20 questions)

go for a ride together

close your eyes and memorise each others faces with your fingers

walk arm in arm

make a playlist together

make up your own words or slang

go out to eat

list each other’s best features

bring your faces close without touching and feel each other breath

go shopping together

throw a party or other event together

leave love notes

exercise together

exchange something meaningful

try to have a whole conversation with only eye contact and facial expressions

sit back to back and feel each other’s heartbeat

learn their favorite food and make it

run errands together

look at photos together

take photos together

go people watch

have a staring contest

learn something new together

take turns leading each other on a nature walk blindfolded

get to know each others family and friends

draw or sculpt each other

paint each other’s bodies

play with kids together

practicing a skill together

sharing food

being in comfortable clothes together

waving goodbye

being comfortable with each other’s bodily functions

any others you can think of?

[biro-ace-of-hearts-blog]

For aces everywhere!

[boned-furry]

For anyone everywhere

[cynopansy]

TAKE NOTE

[sopherielspeaks]

This App Could Literally Save Your Life

When I found this app, I knew it was exactly what I was looking for. I struggle with PTSD and, as a result of the disorder, I’m hit with debilitating panic, irritability, fear of abandonment, hopelessness, restlessness, and some other not so fun stuff. Fortunately, I’ve invested myself in a mindful path (the purpose of this blog) and one time, while meditating, I realized how helpful it would be to send my future self messages, intuitively hoping they’d land when I would need it most. I found the perfect tool to do so.

There are times when a text could prevent self-harm, suicide, and other destructive behavior. Send your future self some love and you might just save your own life. 

All of the information about the app is here, but basically:

You can send yourself texts at any future time: perfect for motivating yourself or helping yourself get through a difficult spot. 

Have your friends type motivational or funny things, for you later get by surprise! 

Send messages that you send to yourself also to your friends in need. 

It’s FREE

I think this really needs to be signal boosted. 

[excuseyoukyofu]

Why is no one taking about the best pun in all of Bobs Burgers

[ypoos]

[fr0fection]

my baby

[notblueatall]

Anyone know where these frames are from? I need them in my life.

[ruvyspast-blog]

Morning After Pill for HIV

I think that people forget that condoms protect you from more than just pregnancy.

And there is no morning after pill for HIV.

[mahoganyandmemory]

ACTUALLY THERE IS.

It’s called post exposure prophylaxis.

http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/prophylaxis/en/

If you’ve had unprotected sex and are afraid of possibly being at risk for HIV, please go to the emergency room and ask about POST EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS.

Works for up to 48 - 72 hours after exposure to HIV.

[jellyroll22]

BOOST!

[pinkspritee]

I wouldn’t need this but this is actually really cool and I’d like to share it in case anyone might need it.

[melaniesole-blog]

If you see this on your dash REBLOG REBLOG REBLOG!!!! You could save a life

[itspoplock]

SAVE A LIFE 🔃🔃🔃🔃🔃🔃🔃🔃

[gimmegray]

There’s a FDA approved daily medication called Truvada, or the PrEP treatment, that is 92-99% effective in preventing the contraction of HIV.

http://men.prepfacts.org/the-questions/

Private insurance and Medicaid cover it. You can also get it for free in a lot of high risk cities like Atlanta, NY, and San Fransisco.

[cousinebony-deactivated20170116]

It’s the same cocktail they give to medical professionals who have had contaminated needle sticks/blood splashes from potentially infected blood. Very effective.

[thenoirsextherapist-deactivated]

BOOST  !!!!!

[amurderofkittens]

Please boost. You may think you’ll never need it, but you never know what might happen in your life

[seperis]

Truvada:

Googled to verify, and note: the results require thirty days of daily treatment (four times a day) to get the potential 92-99% by mathematical model and according to studies.  Demographic data is up in the air; I skimmed about six articles and checked against the FDA but I am not a scientist just someone with a low threshold for hope.  This was approved for this use in 2012, so there’s been time to get results.

So I like this one. Reblogging.

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[nevver]

Needlework, Britt Hutchinson

[jervae]

Ig: jervae

[jervae]

Looks 💅🏾

[anactingangel]

muhfuggin’ flawless always 

[myhappyfat-deactivated20161219]

That . Face. I am in pain.

[khanos-deactivated20170219]

snake tattoos @ mirko sata

[timotaychalamet]

Reality Bites (1994) dir. Ben Stiller

[magicalshopping]

❤ FAT artbook by Munrou ❤ | please don’t remove this caption (◕‿◕✿)

[micdotcom]

Watch: It’s your right to share your salary, not doing so could be holding you back.

[annakie]

At my last company, one day someone in accounting approached me at lunch and quietly told me I need to ask for a raise because I was way underpaid.

They gave me a number to shoot for.  It was about twice than what I had been making at the time.

So I went online, did some research, found some figures backing up my claim, put it all together and went to my boss.

I got what I asked for.

If it hadn’t been for that person in accounting telling me I was way underpaid, I’d have never known.  I went from barely scraping by to being able to have a savings account and getting all my debts paid thanks to them.

You should at least check sites like salary.com to start the process of seeing what you should be making.

[brianadeshe]

Because this is crucially important