It's so wild to me how hostile tradwife girls get when you point out how unsafe that position is. It's worrying to say the least. Anytime a divorce lawyer goes on tiktok and explains to girls and women just how much this can all go wrong, they're angry. Some have gotten death threats! Over telling the truth!
When I tell people not to become sahms, it's not because I hate them or their children. It's because it's not safe. I know one SAHM and a "trophy wife". The reason I never said anything when they became housewives is because the first has a massive trust fund that will keep her afloat for a lifetime. The second used to work in finance and has an investment portfolio that will keep her family afloat for generations. They can also afford to hire cleaners, cooks, house managers, and nannies.
If you don't have all of that, don't be a SAHM. First of all, you won't be taking pilates classes because the average salary in this country is below 70k. Second of all, even if you had the money unless you could pay a nanny, you're not going to have time. You're more likely to spend your days scrubbing toilets & cooking meals while three kids are using your body as a jungle gym.
Most of you underestimate men and overestimate the legal system. Everytime someone brings up the risk they go "B-B-But alimony!!!". Newsflash!! Most courts aren't gonna give you that. Maybe you'll get child support, good luck getting more than $200 a month. Especially since there are so many ways to avoid paying it. Your ex could rack up $80,000 worth of debt, declare bankruptcy and he won't have to pay you shit. You think I'm lying? Go to your nearest child support office and ask the women how much they're getting. Ask the women if they're there because their ex hasn't paid child support in 2 years and their baby needs new shoes. You don't even have to ask. Just listen, they'll tell you all about how great it is sacrificing career building for their hubbies.
Also, if you're at home with NO income, but your husband makes all the money, guess who's gonna have the upper hand? The person that can afford a lawyer who'll say "Your honor, she's still young enough to enter the workforce in a timely manner, she only needs alimony for six months :)" will. Men are possessive over their money. The only reason they want you to be their housewife is so they can extract that labor from you to build their legacy. They have ZERO qualms about kicking the mother of their children out on the streets.
This isn't even taking into account non divorce situations. You know when a politician is revealed to have CP on his computer and his wife is just...letting it happen? Or when a man cheats on his wife very publicly and she stays with him? Or those women in domestic abuse situations who just won't leave? It's not because these women are evil pickmes. It's because they NEED these men. If their husband gets arrested for having CP, those kids aren't eating. You think a woman with three small kids can leave a cheating man in a safe manner? Don't stick your nose up at these women, if you don't listen to the evil feminists that is your future! Those women are you! 🫵They used to be naive little girls daydreaming about soft obediant children and pretty meadows too. If they were born in this age they would have had tradfem blogs too.
And what about death? Most young men who can afford to support a family on one income are blue collar manual laborers or they're in the military. Two jobs with a high level of casualties (don't ever become a SAHM for an underwater welder). SSI is not going to take care of you and your five kids. Maybe it'll buy a diaper or two.
Also, remember that a lot of men with stay at home wives become paranoid about where the money is going. Even if you're careful you could end up with a man who interrogates you everytime your nails are painted. Most SAHM scenarios involve the man taking all the money and giving his wife an allowance check. If it's not enough or Little Timmy has an expected field trip you'll have to hope your husband is generous enough to give it to you.
This isn't me being an evil feminist, this is me being a realist. If you're not rich, don't become a SAHM. At the most I'd advise the average woman to work part time and be extremely frugal with HER money. That way if shit goes wrong you can transition to full-time employment and you'll have money to take of yourself and your children. You should also build a vast network of friends. I'm not a housewife, but I was recently in a tough spot. Luckily my friend got me a well paying position as her uncle's assistant(im literally just scheduling stuff for him, it's mindnumbingly easy). That kind of network will save your ass. Don't be the woman that ignores her friends when she gets married, it will cost you.
I understand why yall want this life. The world is scary, especially post pandemic. I'm not judging any young girl for aspiring to this life. The idea that all you have to do is be pretty and a nice strong man will take care of you is wonderful! But unfortunately it's not reality. Men no longer have social pressure to remain married. Society does not care about displaced homemakers. If we lived in a society where SAHMs had a garunteed UBI I'd tell every aspiring mother to stay home. But we don't. Working sucks sometimes, but honestly it's not that bad. Your ancestors died so you could work. Maybe think about why they were so desperate to escape this lifestyle you're dreaming about.
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