Punching OCD Right In The Nose

OCD side blog, for reblogs, advice, ranting, and success stories. I am 28, genderchill (she/they), and live in California. The ask box is always open.

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[jphcrk-deactivated20251128]

The fact that they’re still tight about this after all these years is so funny to me like they must think about it every single day

[vann-haal]

Man it wasn't even the copypasta. I saw folks eviscerating the guy for daring to write YA stuff. Teen love for teens. And how that made him a pedophile. Like that's what's being talked about here. Not the cock monologue. It was the endless hate and vitriol like I remember distinctly my dash being flooded with "he's a grown man who writes stuff for kids. That's super sus of him" and him literally being called a pedophile and other such smears. Like the cock nonsense was the absolute least of what happened. Don't be a derisive dick. If you're referencing that then obviously you were around to see all the toxic bullshit too and you should know all of this

But oh noooo! It was obviously the goofy taste of balls post that did it! Because tumblr is good and always correct /s

[dragonsspire]

It is particularly cruel to me that John Green was harassed essentially off of the internet in the way that he was because the poor man has OCD and is very open about it.

The way he was treated is horrible and disgusting for anyone at all, but John Green has for years and years (along with his brother Hank) tried to make the world a measurably better place while living with a horrific mental illness. A mental illness that makes something like being called a pedophile over and over again horrific in ways that unless you have OCD, or are very very close to someone who does, you will never understand because OCD targets whatever you value and makes your world a living hell over it.

And you know what? He still writes his novels, and he is still out here doing absolutely everything he can to make the world a measurably better place. The cock monologue was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

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Also if anyone did this to my brother I would never ever forgive anyone involved. Never. The fact that they are still engaging with the internet in the way they do, with vulnerability and kindness is remarkable.

[vigilantsycamore]

The notes on this post are shit so just to be clear: if you’re following me and you think it’s funny to harass someone, or that it doesn’t count if the victim is above a certain age or if the harassment happens online, or that it’s worse to speak out against harassment than to harass someone, unfollow me because I don’t fucking want you to interact with me

On the positive side, here’s two replies that are actually decent:

[hi-yenas]

i wonder how many people with like pedophilia ocd or harm ocd think they’re just heinous monsters instead of innocent people suffering from a mental illness because like many others they think ocd is just stuff like washing your hands and organizing your desk

[obsessive-compulsive-survivor]

This was me.

I had always thought that OCD was about cleanliness, organizing, symmetry, and physical compulsion.

When I was diagnosed with OCD, one of the first things I said to my psychiatrist was "Really? But I'm really messy"

I had no idea what OCD could really look like, and because of that I didn't get help for much longer than I should have because I thought I was just a monster and would get "found out" if I told anyone about my intrusive thoughts (which I didn't even know were intrusive thoughts because I didn't know anything about OCD).

Stereotypes about OCD have an enormous effect. They delay treatment, and can even end lives.

[do-you-have-a-flag]

same outfit 17 years apart, Alan Cumming in his X-2 red carpet nightcrawler jean kilt look

[taraljc]

I love that he went from twink to silver fox so gracefully and yet still dresses like a ‘90s club kid at all times

[fish-to-male]

actually not to long ago i saw a blog on here that said “don’t follow if you have intrusive thoughts about ___” and if i may be frank, that’s always the direction that post that’s like “intrusive thought: eat leaf” was heading and the kind of impact it would have.

intrusive thoughts are by nature of existing unpleasant, triggering, frightening, and overall intrusive. the intrusive thoughts someone has are often more emblematic of what most distresses and disgusts them as opposed to manifestations of actual desires. it’s not something you can control, and while you can learn to cope with it, it’s still a serious symptom of many serious and painful mental disorders, many of which are very stigmatized such as OCD.

by whitewashing what intrusive thoughts are a lot of people saw actual intrusive thoughts as fringe and therefore repulsive, so it has become harder to garner sympathy and support for people who actually experience it.

when we say we need you to support people with intrusive thoughts and stigmatized mental illness- we mean people with ALL types of intrusive thoughts because if you think you can pick and choose you are sorely mistaken

[fish-to-male]

also just to be blatant: this was made with people who experience POCD and intrusive thoughts of pedophilia in mind and I mean what I said

[galaxies-of-apple-trees]

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Learning to be egalitarian with my thoughts is the hardest part of OCD recovery for me so far. It is so so so hard to not label thoughts as "good" or "bad" (or "sick" or "evil" as they more often feel), to be able to view them all as THOUGHT, no more, no less.

Same with conflating thinking with doing. To the OCD brain, having an intrusive thought is exactly the same as performing it.

It is not.

A thought is just a thought.

It is a neutral object.

It is a single leaf floating down a brook. It is the same as all the other leaves. They are not good or evil.

They are leaves.

[galaxies-of-apple-trees]

I feel like so many people get discouraged when they do their intentional coping strategies because the whole idea of coping and self care is kinda skewed.

Coping strategies/skills are not a way to quickly alleviate distress or discomfort. They are a way to exist with those emotions and continue to be safe and balanced. They can sometimes feel good and give a sense of wellbeing, but that's not the only way for them to work.

So if you feel like you're failing at utilizing your coping because it doesn't make you "feel better", know that you're not failing or beyond help. If you're feeling safe and able to continue your day while experiencing uncomfortable emotions, then you're doing them perfectly.

[helpfulocd]

if you really liked your intrusive thoughts you wouldn’t be anxious over them, if you were really a horrible person you wouldn’t care enough to even wonder if you were. ocd can trick your mind into believing you like your worst fears, but the simple fact that you do compulsions shows that you don’t. joke with the thoughts and your anxiety will dissipate. don’t give the thoughts power.

also, if you feel like your having urges along with your thoughts, that is common for ocd sufferers due to the rush of adrenaline that passes through your body when you are anxious. the fact that you’re anxious is proof you are not your thoughts.

if you have sexual intrusive thoughts, it is normal to experience what appears to be arousal which can be explained by groinal responses. this is true for arousal during disturbing dreams as well. during sleep your brain pretty much goes haywire and i’m fairly certain anything of a sexual nature will get the body going and that doesn’t mean you have some hidden subconscious desire, freud was dumb anyway.

it is also very normal (especially if you’ve been dealing with ocd for a long time) to not feel anxious or like you’re repulsed by the thoughts because your brain has been bombarded so many times it has to protect itself from that constant stress and so it will “numb” you to the thoughts! this is so common and often a source of stress for ocd sufferers although it is one of the key parts of the ocd cycle.

you are so so strong for fighting this long battle against ocd. if you haven’t already and if you can, please try reaching out to someone you trust and try to get help from a psychiatrist and therapist. take care of yourself, this disorder is already difficult enough to deal with and you don’t need the guilt and/or shame that can go along with it.

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[joli--coeur]

for those who are struggling with having and finding purpose: maybe, for now, your purpose is waking up in the morning and taking on the day ahead. maybe your purpose is continuing to live despite it all.

[vmps]

hey!!!!! just a reminder that people with pocd are NOT “””maps”””” they are NOT pedophiles, and they are NOT dangerous!! they suffer from intrusive thoughts that they be horrifying and disgusting to deal with and how they react to it is what matters. they deserve nothing but support.

[actuallyobsessive]

this blog also 100% supports people with pocd 

[boyburning]

Intrusive Thoughts are unwanted thoughts or images that you find distressing and/or disturbing. 

more information on what intrusive thoughts are!

what intrusive thoughts are: https://moodsmith.com/intrusive-thoughts/

how to cope with them: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/how-to-stop-intrusive-thoughts-and-live-your-life/

[ocdiscourse]

i don’t see much ocd positivity on tumblr so i decided to make these ♡

[ocdiscourse]

reminder that having ocd makes you automatically incredibly strong and epic in a thousand different ways and i'm proud of you for getting through every single day despite how hard it is <3 keep going legend

[galaxies-of-apple-trees]

OCD and Dog Toys

While struggling with an intrusive thought (and the compulsion to ruminate) tonight, I got an image in my head.

You know how a dog will bring a toy to you, and when you try to take it they play tug-of-war? And if you drop your end, they'll press you with the toy again to keep the game going?

That's a lot like intrusive thoughts. They nudge and poke, and when you engage in them they start fighting with you, but if you ignore them they keep keep nudging. So what do I do?

I pet the dog. I don't play, but I stay present and give them the attention they need without engaging in the game. Eventually the dog/thought gets the time they need and runs off to do something else.

It's an image that feels good. Intrusive thoughts aren't inherently malicious, they are my internal defenses trying to keep me safe and a symptom of something unaddressed, usually overstimulation or letting my anxiety threshold get too high.

It's safe to pet the dog. That's all it really wants.

[brain-boggled]

The morally gray mind and OCD

The cancel culture on this website is so fucking harmful. Enforcing the idea that if you made a mistake you should be condemned by society, never allowed to change, make amends, or learn from your mistakes. The idea that you must be forever defined by a version of yourself that is no longer alive.

For people who are mentally ill (especially those with OCD), having someone constantly enforce this black & white idea of never practicing forgiveness, never teaching instead of punishing is so damaging.

For many of us who suffer from OCD, we already beat ourselves up for actions we did years ago. We condemn ourselves for bad thoughts because culture is teaching us that if you arent 100% unproblematic, 100% clean, then you must be a bad person unworthy of empathy and connection.

The amount of times I've compulsively confessed bad thoughts or memories to the people I love is ridiculous. I felt like an imposter, because surely if they knew xyz about me they would stop loving me. Every time I've done it has only puzzled my loved ones. I've been met with the same response dozens of times. "I could never stop loving you. What matters is who you are today."

I've had to learn how to forgive myself, and most importantly, love myself. All of myself, including my flaws.

As my therapist once told me, "it's okay to be human."

[obsessive-compulsive-survivor]

Callout post for this bastard:

By which I mean the bathrobe.

This bathrobe gives me terror every night it's on that door. I'm going to take it off the door tonight but I'm a dumbass and will probably hang it up again soon because it's a convenient place for a robe when I'm not having confusional arousal and don't know where I am and my glasses are off so all these myopic orbs see are a vaguely slendermanish shape standing in my bedroom.