harry is clearly being rhetorical when he asks janeway if she’s ever been in love while she’s in the midst of punishing him for having an illicit affair but also that’s an extra pointed question coming from the guy who has been standing right there behind her every time she indulges in a little workplace flirting with chakotay
he thinks he’s got her with the “have you ever been so in love you thought you might die without them? that you would risk everything for them?” and she expertly deflects by pretending he’s talking about her ex-fiancé. a masterful play on both their parts














