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[ohmygollygarsh]

Hi. I still have like hundreds of followers on this blog that I never update, lol. If you wanna follow my new blog, hit me up :)

[ohmygollygarsh]

Hi. I still have like hundreds of followers on this blog that I never update, lol. If you wanna follow my new blog, hit me up :)

[ohmygollygarsh]

I'm too shy to ask not anonymously. I've had a crush on you for a long time, but judging by the pictures you reblog, you're really into fit men. Would you ever date a bigger guy? I'm 5'8 and 325lbs but I'm very healthy and take care of my appearance

Aw :) This is sweet… I am sorry that I ignored it for so long. I just logged in for the first time in ages. 

I am attracted to people of all different body types. Most of the people I have dated have been fatter than me. 

Ultimately, I would worry less about if I will be attracted to you and more about if you and I would connect on a friendship level. My attraction to someone’s personality is like 75% of my attraction to them as a whole.

Also, your health is not my business. I would never presume that you aren’t healthy solely because of your weight. Idk your life. It makes me sad that you felt like you had to justify your health to be of worth to me. You are lovely, just the way that you are :)

[ohmygollygarsh]

The first question I have

Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

[forthesakeofcuriosity]

So this is what I’m talking about and where I get curious. I mean absolutely no disrespect when I write this so I hope I don’t offend anyone.

See this comment has a valid point, we shouldn’t overlook a serious issue and the author had the opinion that the post they’re responding to was downplaying something they take very seriously. Passion and concern for a social issue! That’s so admirable it almost brings me to tears! It’s absolutely amazing to stand up and fight for something you believe in and I applaud this person for having the guts do to this! But my worry is when we start to phrase things like this, that we’re not really spreading the good we want to. Something about saying “your shitty feminist” anything is really harsh. In fact, the entire post reads as very acidic.

I get it, really I do, that being upset with an issue that you have to get intense, but I don’t think we need to get this personally hostile with people and speculate on their “shitty” beliefs. It just beats down the same people that are trying to explore their own opinions and find a voice of their own. Sometimes, yeah, they need to be exposed to different opinions but like this?

I’m just curious because, well because I don’t know. It looked like it took a couple of seconds to type out of anger instead of a way of trying to engage someone in form of alternative thinking. I don’t expect it all to be sunshine and roses, but was this necessary? That’s not rhetorical. I’m just wondering if anyone has anything to say on the matter.

For the sake of curiosity, please feel free to respond!

(I should probably note too this comment is even that bad, it’s just a prime example of my question)

[ohmygollygarsh]

The post is VERY ACIDIC. I do not identitfy as a feminist because feminism, as a whole, does not always do a good job of checking itself, plain and simple. I meant what I said. Spend more time worrying about the feminists who make posts like this necessary instead of the singular grumpy black woman who wrote this post and ruffled your feathers.

[ohmygollygarsh]

Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

[black-feminist-thot]

Transmisogynoir though…

Intersectionality has no limits.

[ohmygollygarsh]

Meep.

[ohmygollygarsh]

Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

[dreamsofamadgirl]

Serious question what is misgynoir

[hikiomori]

It’s anti black misogyny.

So it describes things against Women of Colour.  

[grilledcheese4evr]

You just said it was anti-black misogyny & then said it affects woc…no…:/

[hikiomori]

Well the terms original use was for black women but I had assume that most people used it to include most/all women of colour since then.

Like it was fairly recently created by a black feminist and words develop and change and get fine tuned over time? 

Am I wrong in some other way or just in the way that i called a square a rectangle? 

[ohmygollygarsh]

It's a term that specifically means misogyny against black women and that's how it should stay. MisogyNOIR... noir means black. That's the whole point. People of color are NOT a monolith. We don't all experience racism the same way. It's erasive and antiblack in and of itself to say women of color when something only affects black women specifically. We are constantly being erased... we aren't allowed to have anything for our own, I swear. 

[ohmygollygarsh]

Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

[dreamsofamadgirl]

Serious question what is misgynoir

[chelatek]

Normal misogyny involves a fedora but this adds a trenchcoat and cigarette

[ohmygollygarsh]

Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

[dreamsofamadgirl]

Serious question what is misgynoir

[ohmygollygarsh]

Misogyny towards black women, specifically

[ohmygollygarsh]

Really please stop trying to invalidate words like transmisogyny and misogynoir because your shitty feminism erases the specific ways that certain groups experience misogyny due to their various intersections.

[dreamsofamadgirl]

Serious question what is misgynoir

[hikiomori]

It’s anti black misogyny.

So it describes things against Women of Colour.  

[ohmygollygarsh]

It describes misogyny against BLACK WOMEN, specifically. Woc is not an interchangeable term in this case.

[weareallmixedup]

You people could find racism in a glass of water.

Not all glasses of water

—Veronica

[weareallmixedup]

When mixed race persons who identify as black say they're mixed race, many people interpret that as being black for "convenience." I know friends who identify as black, but will say they're mixed when asked. So can a mixed race person identify as both and not be wrongfully accused of using their blackness for convenience? It's understandable why someone whose half-black doesn't identify as white, but will say they're biracial when stating heritage. What do you think of this "convenient black?"

Sometimes it’s easier to just say that you are mixed. Sometimes it’s easier to state all of your ethnicities, instead of just one because then you have to explain why you “look that way”, especially when random strangers are grilling you and you don’t know how to get out of the situation (this happens a lot to mixed people, even me.) I mean, we get asked “What are you?” or some variation so freaking often sometimes that we don’t even really pay attention to whatever answer we give… the answer is so far removed from who we see ourelves to be that we can’t relate to it. 

I think that racial identity is a lot more complicated than a lot of monoracial people can really understand so some mixed person saying the “wrong answer”, or legitimately othering themselves from whatever their poc-ness is, can put a bad taste in their mouths and mess it up for all of us mixed people. I usually identify as a black biracial/black mixed race/black mixed woman… whatever feels the most comfortable to me at the time. It’s important that you know that I am mixed because the experience of being mixed is so intrinsic to my experience of being a black person. I mean, the experience of being mixed is so different than the experience of being monoracial that we have a blog with almost 5000 people who feel like they need a safe space solely to talk about being mixed, right? It’s not the norm… why wouldn’t that be a part of my identity? Otherwise, I am gonna get asked a bunch of times “What are you?” and if I make the “mistake” of saying biracial, solely for my own convenience, I am just being “conviently black”. It’s a lose-lose situation, all around.

Btw, I know that you specifically asked about mixed black people but I suppose that this could extend to any mixed person.

—Veronica

[anarkitti]

BEYONCE IS NOT A FEMINIST ICON

B E Y O N C E = NOT FEMINIST ICON

beyonce isn’t a FUCKING FEMINIST ICON BECAUSE SHE WROTE A SONG ABOUT GRINDING ON JAYZS DICK

STOP

[errorschacha]

Could you please explain how your second statement (third line) follows from your first?…

[nowthatsasss-deactivated2015122]

I dont know whats going on here, but no she’s not a feminist icon, she is very powerful, though, but her power is not always used for good

WOMEN HAVING MONEY MONEY =/= FEMINISM

ppl need to learn the difference

[ohmygollygarsh]

Beyonce calls herself a feminist. Of course she isn't perfect, but no feminist is. All feminists screw up, all feminists are still perfecting their feminism and how they go about portraying themselves as a feminist.. She is just on blast because she is in the public eye.

[youdontsnowme]

Why do some people claim to be mixed but looking darker than 12:01 am…

[ohmygollygarsh]

Ugh, being mixed doesn’t depend upon the lightness or darkness of one’s skin. But thanks for being a colorist asshole :D

[youdontsnowme]

No it does not but some people claim to be just because...

[ohmygollygarsh]

I feel like you are confusing being mixed vs monoracial with colorism and being lightskinned vs being darkskinned. Hey, instead of attacking darkskinned people who have internalized hatred of themselves because ofsociety telling them that they aren't attractive because if the darkness of their skin, why don't you attack the systems that have been put in place to make sure that darkskinned black people feel that way? What you said was still really colorist and still really fucked up, no matter your intention. 

[youdontsnowme]

Why do some people claim to be mixed but looking darker than 12:01 am…

[ohmygollygarsh]

Ugh, being mixed doesn't depend upon the lightness or darkness of one's skin. But thanks for being a colorist asshole :D

[ohmygollygarsh]

I had a similar experience with my white grandma & it ended up being really helpful. I got to explain that even though the things she said about my mom when I was a kid were to help me deal with her being gone, they were also racist & impacted my ability to form my racial identity & why I explained why that mattered. It was a good discussion, but one I never could have had if the opportunity hadn't occurred & things like this blog hadn't educated me to where I could actually explain how I felt.

[weareallmixedup]

Thanks for the info on Plan B. I had no idea that it doesn't work for people over 176 lbs (which includes me).

You’re welcome. It’s not a well-known fact, I think. Casual fatphobia at work, yayyyyyyyy.

—Veronica

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

I….excuse me??????

Plan B, the only fucking option anyone knows about for post-sex pregnancy prevention, is useless if you’re over 176 pounds?????

Most of the women I know are over 176 pounds. That is a fuckton of the population. 176 pounds, on anyone 5’5” (national average height of a woman) or taller is NOT THAT MUCH WEIGHT. And you’re telling me that these women, a large percentage of the population, are being lied to about their pregnancy prevention????

And I thought that public sex education had run out of new ways to piss me the FUCK off.

[pleasejuststoplying]

they’re not being lied to, it’s on the packaging.

[ohmygollygarsh]

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