See me NOT

[ohnomyeyes]

The way people jump from “Because she was born from an egg, I imagine that she looks like egg white and yolk” to “WHITE SUPREMACY” is genuinely baffling to me 😭

Like, there can absolutely be serious conversations about the racialization of ancient Greeks and the history of depicting classical figures as white, but jumping from “I designed Helen around her egg birth” to “this person is a white supremacist” is an absolutely enormous leap when there is literally no indication of that in the post. The egg imagery is literally just a cute whimsical visual joke based on Helen’s mythology.

Sometimes someone is just making their Helen of Troy look like an egg. 😭

[ohnomyeyes]

I watched a true crime creator radicalize herself in real time and I can't stop thinking about it.

Every winter, I go through these dark, melancholy phases where I end up binge-watching true crime. It's probably not healthy, but there's something about immersing myself in sadness that feels cathartic, like flushing out a system overload.

A while ago I found a true crime creator who seemed thoughtful, experienced, and compassionate. She spoke about offenders, victims, and psychology in a way that made me assume she had some professional background. Listening to her felt like listening to a knowledgeable friend.

Then little things started slipping through.

Comments about how pandemic lockdowns were unnecessary. Arguments that society has become too lenient on criminals. Complaints about liberalism "going too far." None of it was the focus of her content, but it kept appearing often enough that I noticed.

Then she covered a horrific child abuse and murder case involving a child adopted by two men.

And suddenly it's like the mask came off.

The video itself felt strange. Instead of focusing solely on the individuals responsible for the abuse, its like she repeatedly returned to broader cultural points about parenting, motherhood, and the role of women in children's lives. At one point she suggested that children inherently need a female caregiver, and framed this as something modern society has become unwilling to acknowledge.

Maybe what disturbed me most wasn't even the video itself. It was the comment section.

The comment section was even worse. Thousands of people treating the crime as proof that gay people shouldn't adopt children. People calling same-sex parents "deviants." People using the suffering of an abused child as a vehicle for prejudice.

What shocked me most was that these comments weren't being challenged by her, and she herself said she reads all her comments

The thing I keep coming back to is this:

"They were gay" explains their sexual orientation. It does not explain why they abused and murdered a child.

Those are completely separate facts.

We don't decide that all straight parents are dangerous because some straight parents commit unspeakable crimes. We understand that individuals commit crimes; entire groups do not.

A child was abused and murdered. That is the tragedy.

Turning that tragedy into an indictment of every same-sex parent is not concern for children. It's prejudice wearing the language of concern.

Maybe the strangest part is realizing how easy it is to miss when someone slowly shifts from discussing crime to using crime as a vehicle for an ideology. It wasn't one big reveal. It was a gradual drip of talking points until a horrific case finally made the underlying worldview impossible to ignore.

That's the part that unsettles me the most.

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

I watched a true crime creator radicalize herself in real time and I can't stop thinking about it.

Every winter, I go through these dark, melancholy phases where I end up binge-watching true crime. It's probably not healthy, but there's something about immersing myself in sadness that feels cathartic, like flushing out a system overload.

A while ago I found a true crime creator who seemed thoughtful, experienced, and compassionate. She spoke about offenders, victims, and psychology in a way that made me assume she had some professional background. Listening to her felt like listening to a knowledgeable friend.

Then little things started slipping through.

Comments about how pandemic lockdowns were unnecessary. Arguments that society has become too lenient on criminals. Complaints about liberalism "going too far." None of it was the focus of her content, but it kept appearing often enough that I noticed.

Then she covered a horrific child abuse and murder case involving a child adopted by two men.

And suddenly it's like the mask came off.

The video itself felt strange. Instead of focusing solely on the individuals responsible for the abuse, its like she repeatedly returned to broader cultural points about parenting, motherhood, and the role of women in children's lives. At one point she suggested that children inherently need a female caregiver, and framed this as something modern society has become unwilling to acknowledge.

Maybe what disturbed me most wasn't even the video itself. It was the comment section.

The comment section was even worse. Thousands of people treating the crime as proof that gay people shouldn't adopt children. People calling same-sex parents "deviants." People using the suffering of an abused child as a vehicle for prejudice.

What shocked me most was that these comments weren't being challenged by her, and she herself said she reads all her comments

The thing I keep coming back to is this:

"They were gay" explains their sexual orientation. It does not explain why they abused and murdered a child.

Those are completely separate facts.

We don't decide that all straight parents are dangerous because some straight parents commit unspeakable crimes. We understand that individuals commit crimes; entire groups do not.

A child was abused and murdered. That is the tragedy.

Turning that tragedy into an indictment of every same-sex parent is not concern for children. It's prejudice wearing the language of concern.

Maybe the strangest part is realizing how easy it is to miss when someone slowly shifts from discussing crime to using crime as a vehicle for an ideology. It wasn't one big reveal. It was a gradual drip of talking points until a horrific case finally made the underlying worldview impossible to ignore.

That's the part that unsettles me the most.

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

I watched a true crime creator radicalize herself in real time and I can't stop thinking about it.

Every winter, I go through these dark, melancholy phases where I end up binge-watching true crime. It's probably not healthy, but there's something about immersing myself in sadness that feels cathartic, like flushing out a system overload.

A while ago I found a true crime creator who seemed thoughtful, experienced, and compassionate. She spoke about offenders, victims, and psychology in a way that made me assume she had some professional background. Listening to her felt like listening to a knowledgeable friend.

Then little things started slipping through.

Comments about how pandemic lockdowns were unnecessary. Arguments that society has become too lenient on criminals. Complaints about liberalism "going too far." None of it was the focus of her content, but it kept appearing often enough that I noticed.

Then she covered a horrific child abuse and murder case involving a child adopted by two men.

And suddenly it's like the mask came off.

The video itself felt strange. Instead of focusing solely on the individuals responsible for the abuse, its like she repeatedly returned to broader cultural points about parenting, motherhood, and the role of women in children's lives. At one point she suggested that children inherently need a female caregiver, and framed this as something modern society has become unwilling to acknowledge.

Maybe what disturbed me most wasn't even the video itself. It was the comment section.

The comment section was even worse. Thousands of people treating the crime as proof that gay people shouldn't adopt children. People calling same-sex parents "deviants." People using the suffering of an abused child as a vehicle for prejudice.

What shocked me most was that these comments weren't being challenged by her, and she herself said she reads all her comments

The thing I keep coming back to is this:

"They were gay" explains their sexual orientation. It does not explain why they abused and murdered a child.

Those are completely separate facts.

We don't decide that all straight parents are dangerous because some straight parents commit unspeakable crimes. We understand that individuals commit crimes; entire groups do not.

A child was abused and murdered. That is the tragedy.

Turning that tragedy into an indictment of every same-sex parent is not concern for children. It's prejudice wearing the language of concern.

Maybe the strangest part is realizing how easy it is to miss when someone slowly shifts from discussing crime to using crime as a vehicle for an ideology. It wasn't one big reveal. It was a gradual drip of talking points until a horrific case finally made the underlying worldview impossible to ignore.

That's the part that unsettles me the most.

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

I watched a true crime creator radicalize herself in real time and I can't stop thinking about it.

Every winter, I go through these dark, melancholy phases where I end up binge-watching true crime. It's probably not healthy, but there's something about immersing myself in sadness that feels cathartic, like flushing out a system overload.

A while ago I found a true crime creator who seemed thoughtful, experienced, and compassionate. She spoke about offenders, victims, and psychology in a way that made me assume she had some professional background. Listening to her felt like listening to a knowledgeable friend.

Then little things started slipping through.

Comments about how pandemic lockdowns were unnecessary. Arguments that society has become too lenient on criminals. Complaints about liberalism "going too far." None of it was the focus of her content, but it kept appearing often enough that I noticed.

Then she covered a horrific child abuse and murder case involving a child adopted by two men.

And suddenly it's like the mask came off.

The video itself felt strange. Instead of focusing solely on the individuals responsible for the abuse, its like she repeatedly returned to broader cultural points about parenting, motherhood, and the role of women in children's lives. At one point she suggested that children inherently need a female caregiver, and framed this as something modern society has become unwilling to acknowledge.

Maybe what disturbed me most wasn't even the video itself. It was the comment section.

The comment section was even worse. Thousands of people treating the crime as proof that gay people shouldn't adopt children. People calling same-sex parents "deviants." People using the suffering of an abused child as a vehicle for prejudice.

What shocked me most was that these comments weren't being challenged by her, and she herself said she reads all her comments

The thing I keep coming back to is this:

"They were gay" explains their sexual orientation. It does not explain why they abused and murdered a child.

Those are completely separate facts.

We don't decide that all straight parents are dangerous because some straight parents commit unspeakable crimes. We understand that individuals commit crimes; entire groups do not.

A child was abused and murdered. That is the tragedy.

Turning that tragedy into an indictment of every same-sex parent is not concern for children. It's prejudice wearing the language of concern.

Maybe the strangest part is realizing how easy it is to miss when someone slowly shifts from discussing crime to using crime as a vehicle for an ideology. It wasn't one big reveal. It was a gradual drip of talking points until a horrific case finally made the underlying worldview impossible to ignore.

That's the part that unsettles me the most.

[ohnomyeyes]

[ohnomyeyes]

I watched a true crime creator radicalize herself in real time and I can't stop thinking about it.

Every winter, I go through these dark, melancholy phases where I end up binge-watching true crime. It's probably not healthy, but there's something about immersing myself in sadness that feels cathartic, like flushing out a system overload.

A while ago I found a true crime creator who seemed thoughtful, experienced, and compassionate. She spoke about offenders, victims, and psychology in a way that made me assume she had some professional background. Listening to her felt like listening to a knowledgeable friend.

Then little things started slipping through.

Comments about how pandemic lockdowns were unnecessary. Arguments that society has become too lenient on criminals. Complaints about liberalism "going too far." None of it was the focus of her content, but it kept appearing often enough that I noticed.

Then she covered a horrific child abuse and murder case involving a child adopted by two men.

And suddenly it's like the mask came off.

The video itself felt strange. Instead of focusing solely on the individuals responsible for the abuse, its like she repeatedly returned to broader cultural points about parenting, motherhood, and the role of women in children's lives. At one point she suggested that children inherently need a female caregiver, and framed this as something modern society has become unwilling to acknowledge.

Maybe what disturbed me most wasn't even the video itself. It was the comment section.

The comment section was even worse. Thousands of people treating the crime as proof that gay people shouldn't adopt children. People calling same-sex parents "deviants." People using the suffering of an abused child as a vehicle for prejudice.

What shocked me most was that these comments weren't being challenged by her, and she herself said she reads all her comments

The thing I keep coming back to is this:

"They were gay" explains their sexual orientation. It does not explain why they abused and murdered a child.

Those are completely separate facts.

We don't decide that all straight parents are dangerous because some straight parents commit unspeakable crimes. We understand that individuals commit crimes; entire groups do not.

A child was abused and murdered. That is the tragedy.

Turning that tragedy into an indictment of every same-sex parent is not concern for children. It's prejudice wearing the language of concern.

Maybe the strangest part is realizing how easy it is to miss when someone slowly shifts from discussing crime to using crime as a vehicle for an ideology. It wasn't one big reveal. It was a gradual drip of talking points until a horrific case finally made the underlying worldview impossible to ignore.

That's the part that unsettles me the most.