防弾少年団 @olisykesdirtstache - Tumblr Blog

970317980622

“Woaah look at the moon” Me literally every night no matter what phase the moon is.

ethrealstudies

*imagines obscure situations (that would never actually happen) in which i need to speak my target language*

me: that was a good studying session

bokumuteki

hyyh feels

pixiesnows

+

inkskinned

amazing how much time i spend just trying to communicate: “your actions have consequences. you are responsible for your own actions and how they impact other people’s lives.” Trust me when i say… some people would rather break their own bones than take responsibility. nothing about that is a good thing.

zooophagous

black-eye-friday

furiousgoldfish

Even if they say “they didn’t mean it”, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they say “they don’t remember it”, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they say “you’re delusional, I would never do that, you made it up”, they’re still responsible for what they did, and for trying to gaslight and invalidate your memories.

Even if they say “I didn’t do it, and even if I did, I would be right to do it”, they’re still guilty for what they did.

Even if they have excuses, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they act like it would have been crazy to expect from them to act any different way, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.

Even if they come at you with an entire agenda of how you should perceive what they did so it actually “benefits you”, even if they insist they did it for your own good, they’re still responsible for what they did to you, and for lying about it.

Even if they cry about how much it pains them to be accused of hurting you, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.

Even if they cry about how much they love you and how they did it all out of love and never meant to hurt you, it’s still their responsibility for what they did to you.

Even if they act like what they did shouldn’t have hurt you and you’re the one responsible for taking damage, for being sensitive to being abused, it’s still their responsibility for what they did to you.

Even if they blame you for what they did to you, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they insist someone else did it to them too, even if they insist they had it worse than you, even if they say it’s a cultural thing, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.

Even if it was long ago, and they act like you’re wrong for remembering such old wrong doing, it’s still something they did, and they’re still responsible for doing it.

They can lie and deny and accuse and blame and invalidate and gaslight. It doesn’t absolve them of responsibility for what they did. It doesn’t absolve them from guilt.

Nothing can absolve abusers from responsibility for their own actions. Nothing.

shitantichoiceprotesterssay

Medical Interpreters and why it pays to vet people.

We had a situation yesterday at the clinic that I personally didn’t witness, but a fellow escort did.

These were her impressions.

“An interpreter was also there today to assist a young woman who spoke only Spanish. The woman reported being horrified that she was called to help a woman who was getting an abortion. She spoke for sometime with Donna (a protester) et al, and reported trying very hard to talk the client out of the abortion. She said she never wanted to be called to the clinic again. She described herself as a “medical interpreter”. I spoke to a clinic employee about her. She stated that she had a copy of the woman’s ID but no information on the company where she is employed. She stated the interpreter had already been paid $325 for 2 hrs of work. The interpreter denied being paid. “

I am absolutely horrified.

HORRIFIED.

How dare this woman attempt to manipulate a patient?

From what I know and have experienced, language interpreters usually come from one or two sources. Refugee Minstries, or our local support network, which puts clients in contact with interpreters that are vetted and pro-choice.

I can only assume that this interpreter came from Refugee Ministries (which is Catholic affiliated, btw).

I was just remarking yesterday how vulnerable non or poor English speakers are at the clinic.

This is infuriating.

hirxeth

Shirkers (2018) dir. Sandi Tan

thethiefandtheairbender

The Good Place (2016-2020)

insomniac-arrest

brah

postilionstruckbylightning

The Good Place’s take on morality is so important to me. It never suggests that being good is easy or straightforward - quite the opposite - but it says, over and over again, that we need to try because we’re all people and we all matter.